psychological profile of an abusive husband?

Question

any signs?

why did he abuse my friend? (he did not abuse his ex-wife, not sure. he is a doctor. )

Answer 1

Males that abuse females have no respect for females. They desire respect but don't expect to give it. It's like a child. It's best not to let those ones breed.

Answer 2

Abuse, as in physical? Emotional or sexual? There are many forms of abuse, most people just claim those 3 the most. Some women refuse to admit they are abused, (Could be the exes issues???). As far as an abuser, profile is always the same... Mysoginist, narcissistic, loves power, feels inferior but tries to hide it by being macho. Feels women have tried to run him his entire life. Normally he is a cheater, he needs to have validation from many to appease his warped ego... I could go on and on, they are all sick, little boys that feel they have been mistreated, and yes, some have.... Give your friend reassurance that she is not alone, she is not to blame, and she will survive... There are lots of support groups out there, hold her hand and take her to one, and stay with her until she feels comfortable going on her own. You sound like a great friend!!! God Bless!

Answer 3

Interesting! My second marriage was to a guy who never abused his former wife--I realized that it was because she was a WORKER outside of the home AND they never had children!! I wanted a child and was up-front in the first place. I realized later, that he was very dependent; was used to being a house-husband and not with the responsibility of a wife and child!! He was physically and verbally very abusive of me. I stayed because of our little girl. Finally decided that wasn't a good environment for her, either, so left! BEST decision I'd made for her and me!! He later remarried a woman who was a government worker and he quit his work and was a house-husband. She asked me once if he ever hit me. I didn't want to discuss this with her--but she said he had UNTIL she told him "Hit me one more time, and you're OUT!!" In otherwise, she wouldn't support him nor put up with it. He QUIT it!! And continued being the house-husband. I don't know about a profile--but his anger stemmed from his mother leaving him with his father when he was 7 yrs old. His father remarried a young woman, 11 yrs older than his son!!! The whole rage with his mother; the sexually aggrivated adolescence with his young step-mother left him in a rage constantly--esp., with his having to take a "normal" husband/father role!

Answer 4

Here's a profile of an abuser (could apply to any abusive partner, male or female):

Are found in all socioeconomic, educational, ethnic, racial, and age groups.

Use psychological, verbal and physical abuse, including sexual abuse, to solve problems or control their partners.

Believe that threats, force and violence is aimed at securing the family nucleus, exerts control over his partner by threatening suicide and/or homicide, and often attempts one or both when his partner leaves.

At least 60% grew up in violent homes.

Have poor self-esteem; perceive themselves as underachievers even if successful by others' standards.

Have poor impulse control, limited tolerance for frustration, limited capacity for delayed reinforcement, explosive temper in the home but very skilled at masking this anger outside the home.

Tend to minimize the seriousness of their violent behavior to themselves and others.

Tend to see their lives as externally directed, accept no blame for their violent behavior but blame their partner for it.

Have a great need to control situations and people.

Emotionally dependent on their partner which they define as love; jealous of partner's relationships with others (including her family and children) and attempts to isolate her; makes accusations against her voicing great fear of abandonment.

Frequently have problems with drugs and alcohol.

Make frequent "promises" for the future.

Some experience a great deal of depression.

The primary emotion experienced and expressed is that of anger.

Have little sense of personal power, but instead need to exert power over others in order to feel good about themselves.

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Why do they do it? They often grow up with abuse, and believe this is "normal" and "loving" behavior in the home. They are aware that this behavior is not acceptable outside the home...very interesting how they can separate the two...

Answer 5

Now I'm not an expert, but think of the qualities of a mysogynistic stalker or abuser with controlling tendencies and you will probably see some of those behaviors in him.