English Deutsch Français Italiano Español Português 繁體中文 Bahasa Indonesia Tiếng Việt ภาษาไทย
All categories

i've been with my boyfriend for about 6 years, living toogether for about 3. i'm 25, he's 29. for the past couple of weeks, he hasn't wanted sex. not once. i'll come on to him and he'll ignore me.

he swears he's not gay, not having an affair, and says that it's not me. could it be a helath problem he's trying to hide? could it really be me? i don't want this to ruin our relationship but he wont talk about it. i feel helpless, i'm a criminal psychologist, not a sex doctor! help!

2007-11-25 12:59:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health Men's Health

5 answers

As women go through hormonal changes as we get older so too do men.As we tend to speed up sexually because we're getting older and about to hit our peak men tend to slow down.It could be a hormonal thing or it could be stress.Although we all know nookie is a most excellent way to relieve stress we still have to get into the mood.
A nice hot oil massage a ll over should help loosen him up and if in the process you get nekkid and press all sorts of good spots against him....I'll let you run with the thought process heheheh.
If this doesn't work or he turns down the offer then perhaps its time to pry a little more on what his issue is...

Good Luck Hun,
M.G

2007-11-26 05:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by Malia G 4 · 0 0

Frankie --
Malia is right... guys go through swings. Stress, lack of sleep, and worry all really affect a guy's libido and his sex drive. Perhaps he's not turned on; perhaps he's afraid that he can't perform when you want it.

Did you ask him if he was gay? If so, that could be part of the problem. MOST guys aren't machines--they DON'T go for sex whenever and wherever. And by inferring that, because he doesn't want it any time and every time, he is gay,he may be highly offended and even more ashamed.

The point is to talk -- even if he doesn't want to. Simply stating that you're not expecting perfection, that you want to help him with whatever his problems are, and that you have not performance expectations, may help a lot. Just knowing that you _care about_ him, and aren't just disappointed because you're not regularly getting laid, may change things a lot. I know it did for me.

If things don't improve, though, you have a right to get him to talk about it. I'm a pretty trusting person, but if you are kind and patient, and nothing changes for, say, 6 more weeks, then you have a right to get suspicious? Emotional affiar on the computer? Health problem? Disappointment in the relationship? This may be the case. (It's highly unlikely, though.)

2007-11-26 14:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 1 0

If he's only 29, he's probably wrapped up in something stressing him out at work or maybe a physical thing. It's time to get him to open up if he needs the help.

I know the first answer said it's only been a couple of weeks, but that would trip me out too.

2007-11-25 21:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1 2

He could be tired or stressed out.

But - you have to consider that he may have picked up something from someone and is waiting for tests to come back or antibiotics to kick in.


Does he let you see him naked? If not, he may be hiding an infection, blister.

2007-11-25 23:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Grumpy Mac 7 · 0 0

It's only been a "couple of weeks." Give the guy a break. Maybe he's got something on his mind. Maybe he's depressed about something. You could just come out and ask him.

2007-11-25 21:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by doug k 5 · 2 1

fedest.com, questions and answers