I told him that I still miss my ex every now and then and badly. I know I should move on since it's been three years now. Do you think he's right about getting some therapy help or psychiatric help? Am I really sick? lol. I'm not going to date again until I get my priorities straight, but I'm so vulnerable to thinking of my ex now and then (who by the way has moved on since a year ago). Is my case really that bad?
2007-11-25 11:48:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think counseling could do some good. It's not that your case is "really that bad" it's that you owe it to yourself to address emotional problems you might have, and another person to help listen and give advice that is experienced in doing this could really help in the long run. But I'm in the exact same place you are. Missing my ex like crazy. You're not *sick* you're a normal human being having a hard time. Why wouldn't you miss them? Some people that don't have as hard of a time with a breakup never were really that emotionally attached to each other, or they just deal with that kind of thing more easily. Everyone is different that way, but you sound like a very emotional person, like me. Nothing is wrong with that! Less emotional people may have an easier time bouncing back from things, but more emotional people can more deeply appreciate life in the long run. So, pros and cons to each. ;)
The way you talk about your problem tells me counseling could be important in moving on. It's been three years, and you've made the right decision not to date, but maybe it's time to stop being so hard on yourself? By putting all this feeling and responsibility to get over this guy on yourself, you might be taking on more than a human can reasonably expect to handle. It's not that you're a hazard to yourself or society, lol, your friend is concerned about you. They know that you're hurting, and they don't like to see you struggling alone when you could be enjoying life. So please, don't put off happiness any longer. Three years and you've had enough time to grieve for what you had and what could have been. It could be something you do for yourself, like going to a spa or a nail salon. Treat yourself to something you deserve. Please? =]
2007-11-25 11:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by avacado pie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are still not over a relation ship that ended over three years ago and you guys were't married or engaged than Yes I would say that you needed help. There's something that's stopping you from finding someone else. I supect that something is fear of being hurt that badly again. But as one who's lost people really close to her by death hurt is also a part of life. You have to accept that or you will wrap your self up in cotton wool and never really live your life.
2007-11-25 19:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's only natural for you to miss your ex. Three years is not that long, though in our fast paced society everyone acts like you should just get over things as soon as they happen. Everyone heals at a different rate. I would, however, suggest that you be proactive in moving forward in the healing process and therapy might help you do that. I would hate for you to get "stuck" and regret wasting time in your life on something that can't be changed.
2007-11-25 19:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lily S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Psychiatric help?? That seems rather extreme. Are you minimizing your problem here? Your friend seems to be over- concerned. What you describe isn't a critical situation requiring therapy. Is he mainly tired of hearing about your ex? Can you give more info.
2007-11-25 20:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting some assistance from an outside unbiased therapist can really be a positive experience and you would learn more about yourself in the process.
2007-11-25 20:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by Freckles... 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u really liked this guy. of course its gonna take u some time 2 get over him, but 3 years?? if a guy is gonna break ur heart he's not worth it. juss remember:
"Guys r not worth ur tears and the one who is wont make u cry"
do wuteva u think. but u mite want 2 look into it. it couldnt hurt. ;)
2007-11-25 19:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lisha<3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all need some help at times in our lives. That doesn't mean you're mentally ill . Maybe there are support groups for this, for divorced spouses, I seem to remember.
2007-11-25 19:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are wrong...you need to date other girls now, because what's eating you is that you are lonely...but don't bring up your ancient ex to the new ladies, you will totally blow it. Move on! grow up! you're wasting your life on someone who could care less and has moved on.!
2007-11-25 20:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by justagorilla 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋