I just wrote an entire essay with all my effort, and my parents are putting me down. What do I do?

Question

Well I recently spent my ENTiRE weekend writing this 5 page essay. I thought it was amazing and one of the best writings I have ever done. So, I show it to my parents for some support and some "Good Job's!"

Instead I get...
"What's wrong with you? It's terrible! You never write as bad as this! This is the wrong type of writing style! You should write it over again!"

First of all they have to understand that I'm a teen...
And that they have been alive 50 years more then I have.
Im just so so sad right now, because I spent to much time writing it. I don't know what to do now. This might seem like a tiny issue but it means a lot to me. =[

Answer 1

Tell them they're making you feel like crap. Then turn it in and gloat when you get an A

Answer 2

Ouch! I know as a parent and grandparent, friend and person, sometimes I speak too soon. I speak without thinking first and sometimes it hurts people's feelings without me even knowing what I've done.

Maybe your parents had just been fighting and were in a bad mood and took it out on you. Or you caught them at a bad time.

Or maybe there's some things you've left out of your question that have to do with other school work, a social situation or some other thing you've done recently to justify why they might be angry with you.

Or, is it possible they are correct? Sometimes the length of time spent on a project doesn't mean it's good, or that the subject matter is appropriate.

I'm a writer and I'll let things simmer for a while. Many times when I revisit an essay or story, I'll wonder what the heck I was thinking when I wrote that particular piece ;<)

Give that some thought. If nothing applies, then I think you should pick a good time and tell whichever parent (or both) how they hurt your feelings. Maybe they'll reciprocate and explain why their reaction was so unexpected. Good luck!
-a guy named duh

Answer 3

Don't lose the essence of the message just because you don't like the delivery.
You may not like how they said it, but you should look at your essay and see if they have valid points.

Does it cover the material?
Does it have correct structure - introduction, paragraphing, discussion, conclusion etc?
Is it readable? Have you changed tense mid-sentence etc?

If it is all these things, then you have to accept that your parents' opinions are just that - opinions.

The amount of time you put into an essay does not necessarily equate to the quality.

Reread it and make adjustments, then submit it.

Answer 4

You have the right to feel the way that you do b\c when you were looking for support and encouragement you got shot down and that sucks.
They dont understand the education system nowdays it has changed from their time til now.If you think you have done a good job, awesome keep it up.Dont let your parents get you b\c if you do then that buzz that your on right now will never come back b\c your afraid your parents won't approve of you again.
Break that chain, keep doing great in your work,get somewhere in life and prove to yourself that you can do it.If your parents aren't gonna be encouraging enough for you then dont worry about it, just do your work for yourself b\c in the end thats all that matters.
What you can do right now, is go over it again and see if theres anything that you want to change and if not leave it as is and hand it in to your teacher.
Be proud of what you did b\c even though it may not make sense to your parents, it makes sense to you.
Good on ya for finishing your essay, Im proud of you b\c you feel happy about it.
Be happy for yourself I can see alot of good things happening for you, if you just believe in yourself and dont let anyone get you down b\c theyre jealous of your progression.
Be happy,be you and be free ^_^

Answer 5

Well, only the opinion of your school teacher counts, so just mentally distance yourself from Mr. and Mrs. Putdown, who sound like they just have a case of the "Old Age Grumps", and try not to let this get you down. If they think nothing you do is good enough, you might grow up to be a perfectionist, and very unhappy, at that. It's your life, not theirs.

Answer 6

Compare your essay to the syllabus that you are studying, If you believe that you have covered all the points you need to in order to get a good grade, then ignore them, and submit the essay.

parents arent always supportive, but neither is anything else.

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Answer 7

the place are your assets? It looks like your very own opinion to me, and in maximum classes that would not fly! you only sound like a rebellious teenager, particularly because of the fact you're turning this in to Catholic instructors. do no longer assume a sturdy grade.

Answer 8

My parents use to put me down for drawing a lot. I would add some of the most intense details and they would just tear me down. They'd ask me if I was "retarded", "sick", "stupid", or a "moron."
Thirty years later I'm still drawing. And over 30 years later they're still miserable.

Answer 9

never let anyone demean what you do. ever.
if you think its great then thats all that matters.
if famous artists let peoples' opinions get them down
they wouldnt be known like they are today : )

Answer 10

stuff em do what you think is rite if you like it then stick wit it :-)