My husband & I have been trying to have another baby for around 16 months! My sister in law just found out she was pregnant. And keeps throwing it up in my face! She told me the other day that she didnt care who the father was, she just wanted a baby! Everytime I see her, she's always saying something like , you pregnant yet!
It's such a sentive subject for me! What should I do??
2007-11-25 10:20:00 · 11 answers · asked by Mom of boys<3 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
She has made comments to me in the past about how she'd die to have what I have! I have a nice house, a wonderful husband, & a beautiful son! I beleive that she may be jealous of me because of that! And now tha she has soemthing that I want, she's using it to her advantage! THANKS EVERYONE!
2007-11-25 11:45:15 · update #1
Your sister in law is a moron and I would not entertain her @ss hole comments with a response. You already have a child, a home, a husband and I am sure you know how much work it is. How is she going to be doing all of this on her own and what kind of person has a child with no idea who the father is. I would keep my distance as she has several issues.
Next time she brings up the baby tell her your putting that on hold as your looking to vacation often instead.
2007-11-28 06:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh how insane! What is her problem? I would tell her when it does happen she will be the first to know and how happy you are because YOU DO KNOW WHO THE FATHER IS! Tell your husband he needs to talk to his sister. That is so rude! Your man better stand up to her and tell her to shove it. I hate people who are insensitive to women who are Trying to conceive. I know because I live through it. It is so hard to see people around you getting pregnant with no problems. I tried talking to my mom this evening about it, but she is even like "oh well" I have been TTC for 17 months so you and I are in the same boat. Good luck to you. Don't go around your sister-in-law and tell her that if she continues to be rude then you cannot be her friend and support her through her pregnancy... otherwise you will stand by her and help her in any way possible - it sounds like eventually she will need support and right now she is throwing her support system out of the window. Bottom line, she is jealous of you for some reason...
2007-11-25 10:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by MurphysGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously very immature and insensitive. Tell her that it does hurt your feelings to have her keep asking you like that and that you will let her know WHEN you become pregnant. It sounds as though she is very jealous of you and now has something to throw in your face (again, very immature). I would congratulate her and not say anything about the father situation. She is just looking for a continued argument. Wish her well and only see her on holidays (like the rest of us do with our in-laws!) She is not worth getting close to even if you both get pregnant. She will then compare your child with hers. Not good.
2007-11-25 10:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by carla h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like you have a very insensitive and rude sister in law! I would politely ask her to stop being so insensitive to you. Maybe she doesn't realize that she is hurting you. If after you talk to her about it and she still continues with her little comments, then I would stop speaking to her myself and maybe have your husband or another close relative talk to her.
2007-11-25 10:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Brooke F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more assertive. Tell her that it hurts your feelings. You can be honest without being hurtful to her. Just explain to her how happy you are for her that she is pregnant, but that you have been trying a long time and that it hurts you deeply that you haven't been able to conceive yet. Hopefully she'll understand and back off.
2007-11-25 10:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by angelajsk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shooting her is probably not the proper solution. She probabaly feels inferior to you and now she finally has something she can flaunt. Grit your teeth, you will probably have to deal with worse before you see your grandchildren.
2007-11-25 10:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just act like it doesn't bother you and reply, "I'll let you know when that happens, mmmk?"
She's rude and insensitive for acting like that. If it were me, I'd avoid her like the plague.
2007-11-25 10:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by Chels 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her that no i dont have a baby yet , but atleast when i do ima know how the father is ..
2007-11-25 10:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by kmd110685 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you will let her know and at least you will KNOW who your baby's daddy is!!!I dislike women like that.
2007-11-25 10:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Krystal A. and baby D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell her how bad it makes you feel.
2007-11-25 10:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋