personalitY disorders getting on my way?

Question

i discovered i have 2 personality disorders.Borderline and avoidant .I tend to be a very calm spiritual person , but when borderline comes into action in my life , i turn into another person , i can go from totally loving you to completely devaluate you the next day, i hurt people i love becuase i think they never care enough for me, i have tried to kill myslef and so on , Of course this all gets on the way of me being a better person , when feeling avoidant im very shy and wont go where there are a lot of people for fear of ridicule and so on, i havent gone to a therapist yet because its too expensive and i cant afford it !!!!
i have had lots of problems with my friends and parents and lost some of them , but they dont know of my condition, only me !!!
please help me!!!!!!!

wow no one really gives a **** , you morons should be giving quite idiotic answers

Answer 1

Ouch, Love, man that was harse, what do you expect from the very society that gave you your disorders? Compassion? Ok, Ok we'll help yea. Realize psychology is in a crisis, many people have personality disorders of varyin levels that their not going to requinze. All that aside your dealing with fear, fear of people and fear of yourself. You lack understanding, your reaction to this is natural, you shut yourself up, when you feel small, meaningless, and purposeless. You act wonderful and spiritual, when you feel that your big, meaningful, and purposeful. Most people, especially as they become more develop run into this problem, its a consequence of a broken individual created by the very thing that creates individualism in the first place, society. See right now, psychology is tring to fix people without looking at society as the cause. Sociology is trying to fix people without looking at the individual only the society. The truth is, their an extremely interdepend relationship. Thats why, the last answers, best advice was finding another individual you can be honest with, this well allow you to get thru the BS that our society teaches you, help you to rise above, because if not, you'll be crushed underneath it by your own insecurities......

Answer 2

I have a similar problem but most of my problems stem from stress. I know this is hard, but the best way to go with those you love is be honest with them. Don't try to hide these problems from them, because as you have learned it the long run it costs you, and all that does is make you feel worse.
As for being shy I understand. When I open up to people and let them know the truth about certain things, I am either scorned, riducled or completely mocked. That is why I like the internet, I don't have to actually look the person in the eye if they think I'm a laughing stock *LOL*.
To me it sounds as if you are just a person, a person who has problems just like everyone else.
What I have learned is find one person that you can speak to. Wither friend, family, or person on line. X-Woman disappered on me so I lost my line of support there. *sniff* Also another form of therapy I do is writing. I just write. My emotions, thoughts, problems, accomplishments, so on and so forth. I did go to a therapist one time, and the man was convinced I was reading self help books or something, but I had been doing that since I was eleven. I guess it was instinctual. Force yourself to get out. You don't have to actually speak with anyone, but go out and lose yourself in a crowd. I use to do this at a mall, and listen to snippets of conversations and you'll be surprised what you'll learn about their insecurities and how they are similar to yours.
I have lots of my problems with my family, but than my family has losts of problems? *LOL* No, really they do. If you have to, find a way to go to a docter, because dit could just be a chemical imbalance that can be fixed. I've already been tested, but my issues are completely mental. If you can try ginseng. It does help, especially if it's just mood swings.
Just out of curosity is that why you're on here than all of a sudden you disappear? I really like some of your questions, and also your answers. If you want you can e-mail me at [e-mail]. I try to check my e-mails daily, but sometimes, I just don't have time, but if you want to write that's cool.
Like I said though, let your family and friends know. They care and the have that right. It is painful, to tell, I know I had to, but if they truely care than they will help and be supportive. It is times like this you find out who is who.
As for the suicide thing. Trust me it dosen't work and only makes you unhappier. I just keep reminding myself that I have to be a stronger person and keep the faith, not be a weak piece of $h!t, but that's what I tell myself. It is hard though sometimes and lonely. Very lonely if you don't find support.
I do hope everything works out for you. By your questions alone you seem to be such an inquisitive and thoughtful person. Just hang in there, and smile no matter how tough it gets.

Answer 3

Jasmine is correct, there's no importance in self-diagnosing. Most folks have trends of a few "sickness" or a different, but when it does not purpose you tremendous concern on a day after day foundation, then it is not a label you will have to anticipate flippantly. Personality problems in themselves aren't treatable with meds - all a drug can do is relieve one of the crucial signs, and PD's more often than not nonetheless have plenty of stigma hooked up to them. It's now not anything you wish to your clinical files if you'll be able to hinder it. Seek aid through all method in case you consider you wish to have it. Maybe see if you'll be able to discover a tight counsellor who can pay attention at the same time you speak by way of your matters. As to the net BDSM factor - on-line "doms" are in all places. I wish you've got received your self a tight one in case you love to play the ones video games on-line, for the reason that so much on-line "doms" appear to be married guys, manipulate freaks or insufficient losers who prey on lonely, submissive or susceptible ladies to get their kicks on cam. Just keep in mind it is fable and do not make the error of pondering you have got to do what this man says for the reason that he is collared you. e mail me in case you wish as I would say plenty extra approximately this!