my husband left me and our 2 young children after 10 years of marraige for a young brat. its hard to accept he is happy and im left rejected and suffering heartbreak and being a single parent. does he ever feel guilty, sorry or any bit remorseful or even miss his children? or are men just so so selfish and insular???
2007-11-25 08:05:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He might not regret it yet but he will. Sooner or later he will realize what he gave up and that he will never get back what he missed with his children. Some of them are just so selfish. Some of them are also not as happy as they seem but they will not let you see that. The grass is not always greener on the other side. It might be for a while but it does not always stay that way. Get yourself together and make the most of what you have. Make yourself happy and forget about him. Give your kids all of the love that he is denying them so they don't dwell on it as much. Making it without him and being happy is the best revenge. It hurts now but soon you will realize that you are so much better of without a liar and a cheater that puts others before his children. Hang in there girl.
2007-11-25 08:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, but you see, it's more than the looks. Yes, most older men will appreciate the beauty and youth of a 25 yr old woman. Admiring from afar is one thing, but leaving your wife of so many years is another. There is something else missing in the marriage. And it could be a number of things. Everyone ages, that is a fact. But that's why having a deeper connection, a spiritual connection, is important. That's what is going to keep you together. And less face it, a lot of women let themselves go. Especially after children. And they stop caring about their husband's needs. Communication goes to the wayside. They live as strangers under the same roof. Treat your man well, take care of him, show him that you love him. Marriage is about giving and self sacrifice. And building a marriage based on faith, will only make the both of you stronger.
2016-03-16 22:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately probably not. Men do seem to leave easier than women. But i would pray that God reveals to him how bad he has hurt you and God is probably doing that now. When he first started doing wrong everything was great because he was making the devil happy. But things will sour quick when it's to late for him to come back because your gone the devil doesn't need to make him think he needs to leave because by that point the devil already has caused him to loose precious children and a wife that loved him So after he has already lost the devil will let his life fall apart and he will then realize. As always when it's to late! the devils plan anyway he probably is already miserable i mean what does he have if he is with a women that didn't care he was married? He got a selfish **** or best case a really STUPID women that believe all his lies about you being so terrible, Either way he deserves that kind of women cruel and dumb and she has to be dumb to think he won't do it to her. Either way he never deserved you keep reminding yourself of that your on a higher moral ground than both of them. Start going to church for yourself & your children focus on God Then later on God will most likely bless you with a man that will love and respect you therfore be a good example to your kids too! Everything will fall into place and don't believe the devil when he tells you you have lost something & trys to depress you you and your kids havn't lost anything he did. And if you don't meet anybody thats fine to it's better than settling for someone that will always make you not feel important what is that kinda life? After all you are a child of the King and should be treated that way even if nobody has treated you that way always remeber that!!!! Godbless you and your kids you will make it.
2007-11-25 08:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will eventually feel guilty. It won't be now because he's knee deep in the instant gratification of lust. However, when she starts complaining and moaning about his selfish behavior, he's gonna either move on to another one younger and more naiive than the last, or come crawling back to you and your children. The best thing you can do is show your children how strong you can be and provide a good role model for them. He'll have regrets when the children are older and bring it up all the time, but by then it's too late. It all works out in the end.
2007-11-25 08:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The answer is no. Sorry, but you wanted the truth, and the truth of the matter is that he probably checked out of the marriage a LONG time before he started seeing the brat. He was able to go through the grieving, the guilt, and all the heartbreak while he was still married to you so by the time he left he was ready to move on. Men are like that, and chances are before they cheat they have already checked out. I am really sorry that this happend to you because it IS selfish on his part! I certainly hope that you raked him over the coals! And, as long as he is seeing his children on a regular basis, chances are he is enjoying being free most of the time. It's a sad fact.
2007-11-25 08:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Men are people, there's good ones and bad ones. It may be true that he just isn't into kids (biology doesn't necessarily always make those paternal instincts come out). It may be that this young brat just happens to really, truly meet his needs.
It could also be that, having left his wife and kids for some young girl, he feels that the only way to hold his head up is to pretend that it's all going well, you know? Perhaps he can't face admitting he screwed up his whole life.
Who knows, really. If he's not interested in parenting, your kids are probably better off not having his indifferent self around anyway. And you....yes, single parenting is extremely hard. But at least the door is open now for someone who better meets your needs to come to you, if it's meant to be. I wish you all the best.
2007-11-25 08:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie T 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Six kids 25 years of marriage and a lot of forgiving my husband has come to nothing.i was left looking after the kids often by myself.he always found it hard to cope with kids and e family thing.he never took us to the beach or somewhere like a picnic or to the fair.he became an alcoholic and a drug addict.went to rehab,got through that.then I pushed myself to work and then studied a masters.he didn't like that.he got a job teaching in UAE.he said I'll go first then u and the kids can come later.he visited us often was much happier.he started talking to me a lot and being loving.then whenever I talked about coming to UAE, he said it's too expensive first get a job.so I did in the same university sheikh Zayed.when I told him he completely switched from being nice to an unreasonable monster.he wouldn't let me come 2 days before,only one day and then work the next day.I couldn't cope with his behavior and working so after 10 weeks of work I couldn't take any more.i quit.He was having an affair with a fellow lecturer and is on holiday with her right now.he halos sleeps with prostitutes and tells me I have to accept this because in this country I can't do anything.but I'm ok because I didn't do the wrong.he did.
2014-12-23 04:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sameena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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my husband left me and our 2 young children after 10 years of marraige for a young brat. its hard to accept he is happy and im left rejected and suffering heartbreak and being a single parent. does he ever feel guilty, sorry or any bit remorseful or even miss his children? or are men just so so...
2015-08-23 07:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Kyoko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey sorry for how low and angry you must feel right now but tell you what? so what if he is doing well with this woman? You would feel no different if he was suffering or if he was doin fine. However the best thing to do is forgive him and move forward because in doing this you would be setting yourself free talk to him, let him know how he made you feel,trust me he is feeling bad about his decision, make peace and be strong , go on with your life he is still the father of your kids. This life we have is too short for bitterness and malice.cheers
2007-11-25 08:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are extremely selfish, and feel no guilt whatsoever. I know this because at one time I had nine friends who all talked to me for support because their husbands were on the verge of leaving, or had left for another woman. the majority were for younger women.
The majority of the cheating husbands married the other woman, one is still with the other woman (that was fifteen years ago), but none ever expressed remorse to their wives, and if the wife tried to tell him how she was hurt, he only ran to his mistress faster.
Believe me when I tell you that I know how you feel... my husband left me for another woman too. Well, actually, I left HIM because he would not let her go. We passed our 30th wedding anniversary this month, and I gave him divorce papers two days later. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done because I love him with all my heart.
Your husband does not want to hear how much you hurt, so no matter how much it hurts you (and it hurts a LOT!); just move on. I've lost my best friend because I'm no longer his first priority, but the sooner I accept that, the better off I'll be. I'm always hanging around on the internet now, so I don't know what to do with myself right now... I need answers too, but they have to come from within myself.
I don't know how so many men can be so callous, but it happens, it happens a lot, and I have no clue as to why.
A poor sex life is just an excuse, but that is the first thing most men think when they know that your husband left for another woman. Our sex life was phenomenal.
Please just pray for peace in your heart, get support for your children, move on, and forget him as best you can. Let him have time with the children if he still wants to, but don't let him break their little hearts. As sad as it sounds, you must forget the man who holds your heart.
2007-11-25 08:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by giwifegimom 4 · 9⤊ 0⤋