So far I have racked up over $6,000 in lawyer fees & that is settled is custody & parenting plan. Our lawyers are currently arguing child support. I am drained & want to be done. I left a house I lived in for over 9 years & my husband farms. But he said there isn't much to give me.
When I left I took everything I wanted out of the house. He wasn't left w/much. I took my Explorer which we paid on for 2 years & traded for a Taurus. He offered $15,000 @ 6.5% interest which he will pay in $200 mthly payments until the balance is paid in full. Also agreed to $600 mth for child support for our daughter. He wants this locked in until the settlement is paid, then we can reassess child support if need be. And he agreed to paying her medical insurance, all future medical bills, dental (w/the exception of preventative) & her ortho expenses as she will need braces. I keep my student loan debt & IRA ($3400). I told him if I agreed I would use his lawyer so I no longer rack up lawyer bills.
2007-11-25 08:03:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His net worth is over $200,000 but he says everything that isn't premarital has been leveraged. It all has a second mortgage which I believe. I am afraid of racking up lawyer bills and ruining my credit. That and the extra stress just doesn't seem worth it.
2007-11-25 08:13:36 · update #1
If it's something you feel you can live with until your daughter is 18 (or emancepated which could be college graduation for her!), then settle. Otherwise, just hang in there a little longer and make sure everything is spelled out the way you'd like it to be. If he keeps on fighting you, that's what is going to take more $$, so seek a higher amount for everything. Basically, tell him softly that you will punish him if he drags this out more.
2007-11-25 08:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two are able to work together toward a solution. Why continue to pay a lawyer? If you feel the settlement is fair-SETTLE. If everything agreed on so far is written into the divorce agreement, it can't be changed later unless the divorce decree is written that way. If you are both ok with it-that is all that matters.
2007-11-25 08:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couple things to keep in mind:
Whos name is this explorer in (the loan part of it) -- if it is in yours..i would watch it - because he could easily screw up your credit. I would make him get your name off of it - $600 a month locked in? does that mean you can't change it ever? actually- i would just do it - because its not worth racking up more bills for it. he makes $200,000 - but, its farming......self employed...hard to prove otherwise what he really makes. dental ..with the exception of preventive? who decides what is preventive and not preventive?
If he is paying for the ORTHO expenses..that alone saves you $5,000. I don't know about using his lawyer..i would just use yours..and agree to the child support.
Do you get to claim the child every year for taxes---I am HOPING You didn't give that to him.....because if you did - you are getting screwed.
2007-11-26 04:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the divorce is that ugly he will need some time to recover and ensure that you are not "rebound girl". At least six months or so. Better to wait a year or more before you marry this guy.
2016-04-05 22:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His lawyer is legally obligated to get him the best solution. If you use his lawyer to save costs you will be opening yourself up to getting screwed over again. Settle, but use your lawyer. It will be worth it.
2007-11-25 08:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mercury 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me as if every thing was done fairly, make sure you and your ex. work through everything and keep your daughters feelings in the forefront. remember that is her father no matter what your feeling toward him are don't bad mouth him around her.
2007-11-25 08:18:08 · answer #6 · answered by firefly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it seems like you did pretty good my sister in law wife's sister racked up over 75,000.00 and lost her son kept her daughter no you settle this can get crazy
2007-11-25 08:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by furface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't use his lawyer if your not paying for his lawyer, he will for sure win that way.
Your lucky that he is WILLING to pay child support.
2007-11-25 08:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-25 08:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by flower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take it.
2007-11-25 08:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋