My dad lived 20 years longer than anyone thought..but when he lost his wife, he no longer wanted to live and died quickly. Do you think we dont die until we are ready?
2007-11-25 06:00:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Not certain Loyal, but my Father-in-law worked really hard, all week travelling the country surveying sites. Dressed in collar and tie. The weekend was for relaxing in slacks and a knitted waistcoat. ( going back over 20 years) and not having to shave.
This particular Sunday, He got up, shaved and put on his suit with collar and tie. Got the mower, out of the shed, started to cut the grass and literally dropped dead.
I think, to this day that he KNEW!
2007-11-26 06:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree and disagree. My mom said that she didn't want to live anymore after my dad died. She was perfectly healthy. Didn't take any Rx, was not under a doctor's care and died shortly after she said that. On the other hand...I have wanted to die several times in my life and obviously, it didn't happen. I think it is out of our hands. I think there is a power that has to agree that the time is right. The job of Master of the Universe is filled by somebody else other than me. Thank God!
2007-11-25 18:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by California Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you serious!!!!!!
What about people that get sick and or have cancer or other serious disease.?What about people that are killed by other people.? What about people killed in fire, floods, earthquakes and other natural disasters? What about people killed in auto accidents? Do you think any of them wanted to die or planned on it. Even some people that attempt suicide don't intend to die, it is just supposed to be a call for help, but it goes wrong and they are dead. Some and I say some people loose loved ones or are in such great pain that they choose not to continue to live Some die of a broken heart, some choose not to seek medical help. Yes they will die.
DEAD IS DEAD and most people would not pick it at all whether they were ready or not. So that is not a valid statement on your part.
2007-11-25 18:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by Moe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases. I mean a family traveling down the highway that suddenly gets slammed by a semi without warning.....no. But if you're speaking in the terms of illness and such....some I believe do decide to fight or to stop fighting. My moms Dr. said she had a good 7 years left. She died a week later. She wanted to though, because she was so tired of suffering. State of mind I believe plays a part.......but not all.
2007-11-25 14:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have a strong enough will to do, you can without actually hurting yourself. But I don't think babies want to die. I want to live until I'm an old women, but that doesn't mean I won't get into a car accident, or be shot in the middle of a shoot out. It's not up to me when I die.
2007-11-25 14:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Am of two minds on this , I think God knows how many breaths on earth we'll take , however our own actions can speed that proces up depending on what we do.
I know once I told my mum it was ok to die , she died two days later. She had had MS for 25 years, I was very ill with ulcerative colitis and had had just had major surgery so that I wouldn't be able to care for her anymore at home. My aunt swore Mum decided , after I told her I'd be ok, to die peacefully. Which she did.
2007-11-25 16:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with 3 when they died. The first was my grandma who was in the hospital. We were called and said she wouldn't make it through the night. 3 days later she was still hanging on. A kind nurse told us we may need to give her permission to die. We did and she passed away, peacefully, 10 minutes later.
My dad was dying and hanging on. I told my step mom how we had been told to give permission to the dying so they can leave. She sat with him and told him she loved him and would be sad but ok when he was gone. He too, died within the next 1/2 hr.
My best friend lost her husband to cancer. Once she gave him permission to go, he was gone within 2 hours.
All 3 of these people were just waiting to be released. They were all suffering terribly so they I believe they were staying for their loved ones.
2007-11-25 14:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I think I subscribe to the other theory, that when people are ready to die, they will, and there's no stopping them.
Once saw a Twilight Zone episode where a man portrayed Lincoln in a play, and he played the part so well that when Lincoln was shot, the man on stage died.
2007-11-25 14:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by felines 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that what katydid said is true. I have been with very many people when they were dying (including a few years in an HIV/AIDS hospice ) and I have seen this scenario many times. Also I have been with people who had no-one and was the one to give them "permission " to go. I consider it a privilege.I think this only applies when someone is terminally ill though or have really given up.
2007-11-25 18:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Yoda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think people can pick the time of their death. I believe they can give up on wanting to live and die soon after because they give into illness or depression. And I have seen people hold off death, waiting to see a loved one. I don't think we have ultimate control over when we die, I just think we can delay it for a short time or bring it on faster.
2007-11-25 14:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by judy b 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋