im gtg married in a month to tis guy i love but i have a strong urge to cheat on him before i tie the knot.?

Question

i want to have sex with a complete stranger just for the heck of it...am i normal?

Answer 1

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Answer 2

Contrary to what many of the people here are saying YOU ARE NORMAL. It doesn't mean you love him less or anything like that.

There is an anxiety that people have before they get married (whether people choose to admit it or not) that this is going to be your last chance at anything different.

This is why you hear so many guys doing the same thing and in most circles other guys push them to "get some" for the last time before they're married.

I'm not saying to go and do it but you're feeling this way because you're a little fearful and worried etc. I'm sure you've heard people say they had cold feet or actually didn't show up to get married.

Now, if this has been something that has been picking at your conscience for a while, you might want to consider how ready you are to get married. You might not be.

If you knew your spouse to be had the same urges constantly wouldn't you want to know ahead of time?

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

wanting to do it is normal. Actually doing it is a bad idea. Marriage means considering your partner's feelings as equal to yours. The real question you face is do you think you'd be able to keep these feelings in check for the rest of your life, or, conversely, are you willing to risk cheating on him down the line if the feeling becomes unbearable? I've been with my wife for 10 years, and we reached a point where we decided to have an open relationship because we simply wanted to be sexual with other people. But the key is, even when we got married, we knew that we both believed such a thing was possible. It just wasn't the right time until recently. But you have to be super open-trusting and caring with your partner for such a thing to work, and, of course, you both have to be into it. If your man is not this way, then you have to decide if you can count on your feelings to go away, or be kept under control. Or, like I said, you may have to face the possibility that you may cheat on him down the line. But either way, you shouldn't lie or deceive your fiancee before the wedding.

Answer 4

A lot of people get some sort of "cold feet" before they get married, but you may not love this guy as much as you think you do. If you did, you wouldn't want to do something this hurtful.

Take a long look at your relationship. If you really feel that you need to be with someone else before you get married, on some level I think you may already be worried that your marriage isn't going to give you everything you need. At the very least, I think it tells you that you aren't ready to settle down yet.

It's natural to be a little nervous right before getting married, but sleeping with someone else should be the last thing on your mind.

Answer 5

Whether you're normal or not is irrelevant to the question. (For the record: No, you aren't.)

What IS relevant is that you have already made a huge commitment to your future spouse, and you're about to make the ultimate commitment with him. This "strong urge" if acted upon will make everything between you and your betrothed - past, present, and future - a lie. When it's discovered - and it will be - it will totally destroy your marriage, and you will be scarred for life.

Is that the way you want to live? Is a quick boink worth giving up so much?

Answer 6

Do you think its a good idea for you to really be getting married to this guy? Why would you even consider cheating on him with a complete stranger if you love him. I think you should call of the wedding tbh

Answer 7

All I can say to you is, you are not in love. You don't know what love is. There is no way if you were truly in love, you would have any desire right before you get married to have sex with some stranger. You shouldn't even think of getting married, because you don't love him and you're obviously too young and immature.

I can predict your future. No matter what you decide to do, if you get married, you will eventually end up in divorce.

Answer 8

No. That is not normal for a soon-to-be bride who supposedly loves her intended husband. I say go on and have sex with a complete stranger if that is what floats your boat. But end your engagement and call off your wedding before you do. Actually, you ought to just go ahead and call off the wedding, because, if you think cheating just once before you get married is okay, then your marriage will be a joke anyway.

Answer 9

well i know that some where in the tradition book of marriage (made that book up) that a lady will cheat b4 they get married,something about last chance of freedom,ur perfectly normal nothing wrong with the idea,its if u want to act upon the urging feeling of desire,think about what it would do to ur marriage if ur fiance ever found out,would he accept what u did was normal or just split with u,think about ur marriage and life before u do anything that may jeperdice it ..

Answer 10

Well, I have an answer for that. It's normal to think like that but what is the reason? You must have a reason. Anyway, I have a feeling that you like the nervous sensation. You want to break the rules. It depends on yourself whether you should do it or not. But if you're caught, you know what the consequences will be. I strongly advice you to not do it.

Answer 11

I think that if you are thinking of cheating on this guy now, before you are married, then what is going to be the difference when you are married -- ie: will you still have the same feelings to cheat? Obviously you don't have 100% of your heart into this marriage, so maybe you should postpone the wedding before something bad happens.