I need to go and spend a year in the Wilderness. How does one do that in this day and age?

Question

I need time to just THINK. I need to plan my life and my philosophies. Understand where I am coming from and where I am going. In this day and age how does one do that? I am 26 and have a daughter. I am a graduate but in debt. I just need to get away from it all and plan my life all out. How can I get to do this? I need a LONG time.
People spend weeks planning birthday parties. I need a bit longer than that to plan my LIFE.

Answer 1

Now that your a mom your plan should be to be the best mother you can be- one of my favorite quotes;" Life is what happens when your busy making plans!" Good Luck!

Answer 2

While running away for a full year may sound 'necessary' at this point, you can't do that. You MUST think of your daughter's welfare first, and if you are a 'single' parent, you need to be there for her, and if you have a partner, you need to be there for BOTH of them. You can start taking the time now, in smaller bits, like an hour or two at the same time every day, to 'step back' and think (meditate) about the 'state' of your life and where you are going. Since your 'urge' is for a year in the wilderness, I suggest that you SIMPLIFY your life, which you can do along with the 'meditation/thinking' you'll be doing. Do NOT try to do this all at once, though. Start looking around you and set a list of 'priorities' ... with things that you can 'change' easily and quickly at the top and the more complicated things on the bottom. Let's say that you have a messy house, and you don't want to clean it as much ... so what could you do to make it stay cleaner for longer amounts of time? The first thing you do is want to get rid of 'mess' ... if there is a 'stack of papers' that build up and don't get put away properly, then you'll need to put a way to 'file' them right there ... make it small and portable, but when you normally 'drop' the papers, you can stick them into proper 'folders' ... and once a week or once a month, you can move that file holder to the proper files and place them there. It's much neater, it doesn't take time, and you'll soon get used to 'filing' things right away. For small figurines that you must dust, just pack them away in a box and clear one table or one shelf at a time. As you are 'packing' you'll notice that there are some small things that you 'want to hold onto' and leave out for some reason. Separate those into a smaller box, but put them AWAY for at least one month. If you pack one 'table top' every week for a month, you'll have four table tops that are EMPTY in a month ... and those are much easier to clean, because there's nothing on them. The 'stuff' you have removed should be 'held' for at least three months, but the sutf you 'wanted to hold' you may 'review' in one month ... to leave in the 'I really want this' box, or to put into the 'remove' box. Do NOT 'buy' anything 'new' (or even used) for a year ... even if you think you 'really need it.' That includes clothes, dishes and cookingware, figurines, and other 'junk.' Even a computer can be 'messy' so you'll also want to 'think about that' and DELETE a lot of the 'messy' stuff that is building up. Do this, and you'll soon see that this 'simplification' and 'thinking' ARE CHANGING YOUR LIFE as you begin to think more clearly, and to 'identify' the things you don't want or need from the things that are truly MEANINGFUL in your life. If necessary, hire a professional organizer to come in and help you 'sort' your stuff and your 'paperwork' ... you'll be much happier and eventually you'll be able to see that 'planning your life' is something that you need to spend time on every week ... thinking, meditating, and doing ... and you won't want to 'run away' to escape life any more. Good luck!

Answer 3

I did buddy. I rented a Cabin for one complete year. I practiced guitar the entire time I was there. No T.V. no Radio.
I went into the country store once a month to buy my things and back to the country cabin.

One year later I came out of the woods and walked backed into society with my guitar and played for a club and ripped the walls down. They asked me how I learned to play so good. I told them try practicing 24hrs 7 days a week for one year and see what happens.

I felt like I was in prison on my own accord, but being alone did something to me and psychologically I was affected by it because me and my guitar do not part. We are a team.
Life is better for me now. Sometimes we have to get awya more than two weeks try a year.
Since I draw 100% from VA I dont' have to work. I made my own.

Answer 4

You shouldn't. When you are young and free of responsibility what you wish is awesome. But that time is gone. You need to be with your daughter and be a father for her. That is more important than your needs. I am sure you can do this, and will be a great dad. You might even look back on being a dad as more rewarding than anything you could have done alone. You sound thoughtful and insightful. Spend the next year passing that on to the next generation. Good luck.

Answer 5

Spending a year in the wilderness won't help you in taking time and quiet to plan your life. Be realistic. It sounds like you're trying to run away. You have too many responsibilities now.

You still have responsibilities that need to be taken care of despite your desire to run away from what's bothering you.
Your debt (believe me, you don't want that haunting you because you didn't take care of it now) and your daughter.

You can take the time to plan your life right where you are. Maybe you just need to move to a different home & get away from negative influences. Maybe you need to drop the "life suckers" from your life (negative friends & family). Maybe you need to reduce your social demands (it's okay to tell someone you can't go out because you need some time to yourself). If your family and friends don't understand that you're having a difficult time, try and talk to them, let them know you need their support and you'll need them when you're ready to come back around.

Give that a try - moving to the wilderness is a drastic move.

Answer 6

Life already has a plan! The human mind "wants" to plan something else! Life is perfect until we "think" about It!

Answer 7

West of Ireland and bring your daughter! Or Donegal up the North or anywhere in Ireland really

Answer 8

i did it and am a better person because of it. i suggest the gallatin national forest just out of bozeman. i spent 3 months there surviving off the land and never saw a single person. every man needs a walkabout to realize his lifes purpose. good luck mate..

Answer 9

You have to go to the wilderness to plan your life? Why not go to starbucks or something.
Who's going to watch your daughter

Answer 10

first step plane the trip into that wilderness.
this entails many things like what will you do for food & where will you sleep & so on & so forth!