Poll: Why is there so many single parent families?

Question

I'm very grateful for your answers,

I'm kinda just looking for reasons or opinions.

Thank you very much :)

Answer 1

ah kids having kids... teens know WAY too much and don't think of consiquences..

also binge drinking.. people get drunk.. and u know what follows.

easiest way to get a flat.. they think it's a cushy number, until they relise it isn't. 10 / 15 years down the line, when they couldn't do things they wanted to do.

fair enough if you have kids after your married and it goes pear shaped , but all the dopey people around who can't keep it in their pants or keep their legs shut.. I'm fed up for paying for. they are normally claiming off the state also. a few even make a career out of having kids to avoid getting a job.

you will normally see them on jeremy kyle etc..

as for condoms being to expensive, thats rubbish. get off to a family planning clinic , thats no excuse.

people see it as a way to have an easy life, sad to say...

i feel sorry for the kids, as they see that as the "normal" way to act and continue the cycle.. i know 2 grandmothers who are 40.. and a grandfather at 30..

he seems to think its great i'm paying for his 6 kids by 3 different women. I told him get off his a** and get a job instead of being a scrounger.

if people work and have kids, fair enough.. if people are using it to dodge working.. that is a different matter.

Answer 2

There are a myriad of reasons for this and I see plenty of reasons that aren't even listed here. While some people actually choose single parenthood, I think maggie3 said it quite well. I am a single mother and while I wouldn't trade my son for the world there are times I comprehend the distinct advantage to being in a two parent home. Unfortunately, it's always one or both persons fault. There is no way to make someone love you, make someone stick around if they don't want to, or to make someone be a good and loving parent. I think the MOST important thing is that the child is in a home where they are loved ... period. A single parent can do that just fine. There are usually many other family members as well, who love the child enough to help make up for the lack of a parent.

Lastly, a single parent home is much better than the alternative if one of the parents is abusive, addicted, or irresponsible. Sadly, we see this a lot today as well. We also see a lot of young people who aren't mature enough to handle the responsibility of being a parent - yet THINK they are responsible enough to have sex. Then when they end up pregnant they rarely end up staying together. They're just too young. Which is why - although I am a Christian - I feel like we need to do a much better job of educating these kids about sex. What we're doing ... isn't working. Until more parents get that we are going to end up with more of this situation ... rather than less.

Peace to you ...

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Answer 3

Because traditional marriage has become an outdated concept. It goes back to owning a spouse as property, and has not been thoroughly rethought in light of gender equality and the sexual revolution, and offers little room for individuality.

It is also based on religious concepts that are also becoming increasingly irrelevant, by defining a family and one's place in that family in extremely narrow terms.

We (generally) have a better quality of life compared to our predecessors, and, as with parents spending what would previously be bequeathed to their children, we are seeking to enjoy that quality of life more, with a larger range of experience. Even 20 years ago, it was expected that you get married, have kids, pay off the mortgage, die. These days it is hard to expect people to limit their life to a specific set of experiences or rituals, and sometimes a couple just wants different things (or one person wants something different and circumstances, such as an affair, cause the split).

Another factor is longevity - we are living longer than before, and the prospect of living together far longer than our predecessors is a daunting one. Even couples who make it well into double-digits are known to break up; it's not just those who dived in too quickly or without the right expectations.

Additionally, there are those who seek a family but not a spouse, so the issues of marriage aside, there are some families that are single-parent by design.

Answer 4

Changes in the times I guess and a lot of people opting out of marriage and divorce becoming more easier. Also its not such a stigma anymore although there are still some that frown upon single parents especially single mums (and thats something I have witnessed myself). Could also be to do with the welfare system too, although I think its the wrong reason to get pregnant for for you can get off the state but there are some that do exactly that. Basically its a combination of factors. Good question have a star *****

Answer 5

Reasons as to why people become single parents, (esp. single mums) include the following:
1. Socioeconomic deprivation and poverty
2. Low educational attainments
3. Pregnancy often unintended but not trying hard to avoid
4. Timing wrong but reluctant to terminate pregnancy
5. Prefer to be with partner but he left
6. Father of child not good husband material e.g. unemployed, irresponsible, violent, untrustworthy.

Here is a quote from Rowlingson and MacKay (1998)

“some felt their new life as a single mother provided with a role and an identity that was preferable to their previous life in low paid low status work.”

Answer 6

Beacuse some teenagers just see the good side of life and think they can mary someone rich they dont even like just to get money. trust me i does not work my friend tried it got divorced after two months.Like my parents wher boyfriend and girlfriend for 12 years before they got married and when i asked them why they did that they said beacuse we wanted to know that we were making the right desicion before we got married so that you would not have to live in a split family. So far my parents have been maried for 13 years but they have known each other for 25 years!

Answer 7

for me personally i grew up in a family where my father beat my mother so my childhood was non existant.
i am a single parent because it was better for my son to have two happy homes instead of one unhappy one. why should i stay with a partner who was sucking all the happiness and confidence out of me and replacing it with fear. i know from both sides of the fence that this is no way for a child to grow up. his father and i can now be civilised with each other and he sees his son on a regular basis, he's a good dad but we were not good for each other, we are all happier this way.

some people think there is a simple reason for it when in reality there are many complex reasons for each individual. people generalise far too much.

Answer 8

I'm a single parent & have been for 10 years. I left my partner because I took one beating too many. My children have been brought up in a calm, stable, happy environment. They're polite, well balanced, happy, do well at school & are none the worse for being from a single parent family. I refuse to call it a "broken home" because broken was how it was before. It was fixed the day I walked out.

Answer 9

Because people didnt get divorced years ago due to the stigma attached and poverty they could face - problems still existed, cheating still happened, abuse was common but it was behind closed doors.
Im sure most families back then would have split too, if they had been the options of today.

It is easier to be a single parent these days and society doesnt cast you aside.

Answer 10

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