WHY do people cut themselves?

Question

my friend is cutting herself and shes not emo she doesn't even listen to rock she listens to hip hop and rap.

and it got me thinking y do people cut themselves.
i mean it doesn't solve anything and all your doing is hurting yourself. i just can't understand

yeah i know its not a rock thing or emo thing its just i thought someone would write its cus shes emo because people love to stereotype.

were both 18 by the way

okay im trying to understand this so don't get mad at me:

i understand that people get sad, depressed, stressed and feel like theirs no escape out, but what impulses you to cut yourself,

i get sad, depressed stressed, but i dont think of hurting myself.

the only thing that might make sense to me is that its is mental issue. and thats y i cant grasp the understanding of the purpose of cutting yourself.

Answer 1

its a really complicated mental thing, and the root of the problem is different for everybody. usually its a cry for attention. if the kid can't get any positive attention, they'll get whatever they can, y'know the old line, "no press is bad press"!? it's like that.

or sometimes you can just get so mad at yourself that you feel the need to punish yourself. i know it's kinda S/M, but it's true.

or you do it to fit in with your friends, peer pressure can REALLY get to some people worse than others.

or you're just some lame idiot who does it to look cool.

you're right, it doesn't solve ANY problems, but when you've got a blade in one hand, and the opposite sleeve rolled up, you just don't listen to the logical part of your brain. you tune it out completely. all you can do is slit, and when you hit blood, all you feel is this wave of emotion. i know i cried, and in a sick and twisted way, i felt proud of myself. but that's just me.

it's never a good idea to intentionally hurt yourself, and if you're feeling crap, tell somebody, don't just bottle it all in.

Answer 2

"emo" people don't cut themselves. Emo is just a style and a music genre. It's nothing else. I have many emo friends and they don't cut themselves and I used to be emo. Now, if you're thinking about people who really cut themselves, there are many reason why they are cutting themselves. Rape, abuse, bullied, pressure, etc. People cut themselves feel depressed and put down on. They don't feel like they deserve to live and to have a crap life so they cut themselves hoping they would die.

Answer 3

I have a friend who does this. I don't understand exactly either. I asked her why because she isn't emo either. She cuts all the time.

She said that she likes the pain. That she is a masochist and it has nothing to do with anything other than liking the pain.

I don't know if all that's true, because she does have other issues. I guess it sounds good on paper though, and no matter how you rationalize it, its still a mental health issue.

Denial is almost as self-distructive as this behavior is.

Good luck to you and your friend.

Answer 4

Have YOU ever asked your friend that ?
and maybe she wouldn't want to talk about it(some people clam up when the subject comes up) I used to cut like crazy- and if my parents ever brought it up, I would shut my mouth, but secretly... I was dying for somebody to talk to.


DONT- by any means do it, but there is just a relief of endorphines you get when you cut- its like a five second high as you watch the blood.
It makes you forget all the sh*t that you hate about yourself and everyone else for at least a minute!

Answer 5

It's not an "emo" thing. It's a mental health issue. It's a release or catharsis for some people.

Answer 6

i do it sometimes its like a relief it doesn't solve anything but i calm down

actually i have my own reasons
i dont cut too deep or too often just when my feelings r overwhelming

idk about ur friend mayb shes depressed,she likes pain,curiosity,or she needs to let go of anger or anxiety

Answer 7

Listening to rock doesn't makes a person cuy himself/herself

I grew up with rock songs all my life and I've never cut myself intentionally.

Answer 8

i guess cutting urself is a way 2 deal with stress... a couple of weeks ago i felt like i wanted to cut myself because i wuz so stressed and i didnt care anymore... i didnt tho cuz then the kid stressing me out made me laugh so i wuz all better

Answer 9

Someone I Knew Used To Cut Herself.

Stress and that i think.

Some people do it because they feel bad about themselves, and so inflict pain, Others because they find that it takes away their problems, and so helps them cope.

Answer 10

In a way it's kinda a way to get attention. They want someone to help them.. But they can;t seem to just accept it and let it out.