My mom is 40 she is getting married with a 20 year old guy.This is not all.This guy is my high school friend.I found out they were dating for last one year and now want to get married.
What should i do.I don't want to call him dad.It will be so not cool!
Help
2007-11-25 03:08:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends if he's nice or not. If you think he's taking advantage, talk to your mum. If he's not, and they're genuinely happy, sometimes you have to accept these things...
2007-11-25 03:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Emma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww Sorry!!! I am a big believer of everyone to their own but sometimes you don't think how their actions may affect their nearest and dearest,
At the end of the day your mums a woman and so are you - you both need to be adult about it and you have to accept that your mum is a woman who has needs and this 20 year old happens to satisfy them.
It doesn't have anything to do with you any way - you're not marrying him - your mum is. I would just advise you to grow up a bit and accept that your mum doesn't regard you as a child anymore who's feelings have to be taken into account. You're grown-up now so she is taking control of her life.
If she is happy with this man then you need to be happy for her too. If everything goes wrong then you need to be there for her as a shoulder to cry on and don't tell her i told you so. Everyone hates that - it is very insensitive and rather mean.
Just try and be a loving daughter and stop thinking about yourself so much - you'll only end up coming across as a selfish, whiny adolescent.
2007-11-25 18:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by penelope_pitstop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mum i was married to a younger man by 14 years, everything was great to start with but a year down the line we were not compatable, we divorced a year later what a waste of money and time, it wont work sorry to be so negative but your mum is trying to be young again and regain her teenage years, and he must be very insecure if he needs to be with an older woman. If mum insists on marrying him then she would appreciate her daughters support and blessing, Im sure mum will not expect u to call him dad
2007-11-25 17:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by jackie g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, this happens all the time, just be happy for her if she is happy this is all that matters. I have a neighbor that did this and they have been married 10 years, its not any different then a guy marrying a woman 10 years younger.
2007-11-25 14:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by carol p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect you are less concerned with what you should call him than with how it will affect your relationship as friends and how it is perceived. As others have said, he is not your dad, so you need not, and probably should not, call him dad or any such synonym. First name terms will be fine, and cause no awkwardness for anyone. Mention it to your mother, on a simple matter-of-fact basis.
2007-11-25 11:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by kinning_park 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest speaking with both your mother and her future husband. You do not have to call the man Dad. There are plenty of alternatives such as his first name. I think by discussing this issue with them, you may find a solution.
2007-11-25 11:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by david42 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ther may not be much you can do about them getting married. Hopefully, she knows what she is doing. As for what you should call him, Dad would be a little strange. Ask if you can call him by his first name. Good Luck!
2007-11-25 16:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your mum will make you call him and dad, and you should not have too. Are you embrassed by your mum and him wanted to get married or happy for them? You do not say.. All I can say if they are having a happy relationship and your not bothered then be happy for them,
2007-11-25 11:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woww.. so you've known this guy in high school! You should really talk to your mom about this. i mean not to be rude or anything but your mom is 20 years older than this guy. I mean he can't even drink yet. But really talk this over with your mom.
2007-11-25 11:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by ihavmymoments 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if i wear you i would wish them luck every one deserves a bit of luck now & again you should thank god that your mom has found happness not ony that you dont have to call him dad
2007-11-25 12:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by margerose@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋