a parent her mom is, and my parents have not gotten divorsed twice like her mom has, i dont know if it is worth it, all she does is yell and say i dont do this right and i do nthing i dont even know if she loves me or if she is just staying here to make it look good.
2007-11-25 02:03:01 · 13 answers · asked by jusmic80 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say that there is a lot going on between you then what is presented with the constant bickering. Unfortunately, a lot of wives cover up their hurt, frustration or fear with character assignations. You need to find out what is just lying under the surface if you want to get past this most unfortunate situation.
Have you considered counselling?
2007-11-25 02:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long u've been married but if the things she is saying is unprovoked and just said for no reason it sounds like ur wife has a lot of issues and not just with u. I would suggest trying to talk to her in a calm way and if she can't be calm I would tell her the way u feel and maybe she will see what she is doing and stop but if she doesn't I would get out, give it a trial separation and maybe she'll realize her mistakes. If not than the other option is divorce but I wouldn't just give up like the other people are suggesting. Marriage takes work & she might be going through some things
2007-11-25 02:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by gemini07071 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason ( just saying here to make it look good) Is irrelevant. What she is doing is wrong. You need to stop this behavior of hers right now. What makes her the judge of the world.? You deserve better treatment than this and I suggest you call her bluff . Tell her you want to meet with her. Make a big deal out of it and if you have children, get a sitter and go out somewhere private. Make a list beforehand of all she has said and done that is wrong. Tell her that this is unacceptable in a marriage as far as you are concerned. If you have never talked this way to her before, I bet she will concede and try to do better ( at least I hope) and if not then do you want to continue living in such derision and abuse?
2007-11-25 02:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's none of your business what she thinks of you. It is your business what you know is true about you. To thine own self be true.
You should draw your line in the sand and don't let her cross it.
When she is being mean to you, take the nearest exit. Don't listen to her, don't look at her. Don't give her any attention. Ignore her totally. Acknowledge her, only when she is being decent to you.
I learned this in a parenting class, it works really well on adults too. Give it a try.
2007-11-25 02:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you feel. She is hurting your feelings and it doesn't say much about her either. So what if she thinks her parents are better, that is no reason to insult you and how you were raised. If she loves you so much then she should stop treating you this way and keep her opinions about your family to herself. Good luck.
2007-11-25 02:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is jealous of you and your upbringing and the only way she knows to hurt you is to belittle you...thinking this makes her look better. My sister-in-law is like your wife, my poor brother has put up with his domineering wife for almost 31 years now, we feel pity for him because he is not the man of his house. He has no say. He works hard, pays the bills, he is a wonderful Dad and Grandfather...but as a man he is humiliated and disrespected. He does not drink nor smoke..she won't let him. A good example...take this Thanksgiving...he had the holiday off, he called our parents saying he was coming home for Thanksgiving, they are going to be taking her mother home with them until after Easter. He sat home all day Thursday and Friday because she wanted to go shopping on Black Friday so they didn't get to leave until Saturday, she won't let him drive straight thru so they had to stay overnight on the road last night not expected to get here until today around noon. Mom fixed dinner, holding hers off Thursday just so they could be here to share with them but because she didn't want to come yet my brother missed out. He loves her and puts up with it...no one in our family understand why. She puts his family down all the time, she is nice to all of us but she does not go out of her way for him or his.
2007-11-25 02:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get marriage counseling. Tell your wife that you will no longer stand for her insulting your parents. Walk out when she does it. She is nasty.
2007-11-25 02:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy leave her. She obviously doesn't love you anymore. All relationships have there problems but not like that. Find someone who will make you happy and appreciate what you do.
2007-11-25 02:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by kelley h 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like her folks done a fine job in raising her..... put your foot down and tell her what you think.
2007-11-25 02:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by panda 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should not have told her all this. She is frustrated. Talk to her and try to understand her. Do not try to protect your family. Just listen.Appricaite her concern for you.
2007-11-25 02:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by JH 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋