belief in marriage?

Question

If you have full, love, trust and financial security in a relationship, why do you need to get married, if you have no particular strong belief in a religion?

I mean if we were to get married in a church it would be very hypocritical as neither of us have a religion.

And the register office thing just seems so 'business like'. Just kind of informing statistics that you are together

Taking a way the romantic side, is there really any reason to spend a lot of money on a piece of paper???

Is marriage just for insecure people who need reassurance that a divorce would be a big messy affair, and therefore their spouse is less likely to walk in times of trouble??

If my man walks, he can walk, hes a free man, I think not getting married and staying together through hard times is reconfirming your love, as you want to work at it, rather than being obliged by god or solicitors fees. Your thoughts please....

Answer 1

You wouldn't have to get married in a church...you can get married at a courthouse. Nothing religious about that. You save $$$ too. No expense of a big wedding and presents.

Now that I am married there are benefits that you don't have when you are not married. If he dies (or I die) we choose the funeral arrangements, not our family. If we are sick we choose what care we get, not his family.

(picture the worst case scenario here) For example if one of us was on life support and we were not married...the family chooses to pull the plug...not your b/f or g/f!

I understand all your points....we were happy for 10 years w/out being married but we decided to make it official. It was what we wanted....no pressure from friends, family, or even each other.

Answer 2

No, i don't believe it is necessary. Unless the people involved feel it is. What is right for one isn't necessarily right for another, and believe it or not, more and more people out there are choosing not to. If you feel the commitment, love and everything else that goes with it, it shouldn't matter what a piece of paper says, its what you know that counts. And as far as the common law marriage thing goes, it doesn't officially make you married. It was put there for the simple reason of if you were with someone for a significantly long time, bought a home, a car or whatever else together, it just gives certain rights to the people involved with the split, especially if its messy and no one can decide who gets what. The courts step in and help decide. So in some aspects, they will kinda see you as a married couple splitting up and treat it as such as far as the finances go. But there really isn't a whole lot of states that go by this law anymore, many have even abolished it.

Answer 3

Because when the time comes that you cannot make decisions for yourself by either illness or accident, the person who is most devoted to your best interest(should be your wife) in most states will have absolutely no rights to take care of you, make those final decisions or even see you. More than once family members who hold a grudge close out the life partner in these situations. If you don't think that's important, then you shouldn't get involved with anyone, especially not have children. When you are incapacitated or dead, you have no control over what happens to the woman you love and the children you have. Do you really want your "next of kin" to have the legal right to pull the plug or get your estate? If marriage means nothing to you, consider what it might mean to your partner or any children you might have.

Answer 4

Marriage is not just about a piece of paper. It is a commitment to each other.It is also showing each other how much u love and cheerish each other.It is a tradition that goes way back. Plus it is security for you and your children. Breaking up can get ugly.People can change after so many years together. Just because he feels like he does now it doesn't mean he will 9 years from now.You want that documemt so you can get what is yours and you really want it if u have children. Good luck

Answer 5

- clarify your existence type and also you beliefs in marriage. existence type: college pupil: awaken, devour, learn, devour, sleep..and pray for the length of :) marriage is a partnership to assist ea. different change into better human beings - What do you do for a residing? finished time pupil w/section time artwork - Do you've self belief that a lady could stay domicile and carry youthful little ones till she chooses to or artwork? she could boost youthful little ones even if she chooses to artwork staying domicile isn't required both way - Do you've self belief that a guy must be taller, older and richer than the female? definite, no, no - women human beings: Do you opt for to be spoiled by your guy? on condition that i'm unmarried..i could anticipate: purely in certain situations and when I least anticipate it...yet when it truly is too oftentimes w/way unnecessary issues, i could hate it i could fairly smash him :) Allah(swt) is acquainted with proper

Answer 6

My perception is that having a long-term boyfriend/girlfriend means your married, but not comitted to each other for life. That is, in a long-term bf/gf relationship, the relationship will eventually come to an end. But in a marriage, it's like having a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, only that it lasts forever and ever.

Answer 7

I'm with you, I had a very good relationship with my man for five years and then we got married.
We're still together but everything changed.
I have ask him for a divorce many times so we can be together the way it used to be but I think it's too late now.
I think that piece of paper complicates everything.

Answer 8

Some people get married but they also believe in divorce (on his/her part). So do you think that your partner would communicate the degree of commitment to you. For instance, see yourself staying in marriage for as long as things are good or depending on what happens. What do you think.

Answer 9

this is what happened to me I was living with a guy for over 3 years we were about to be married he died on his harley. well I found out very quickly I had no rights to anything. his Mom did as far as the funeral and every thing I had no say. they went thru our house and his stuff that was terrible because he wasn't even close to his family the only thing I had a right to was our debt-they got the money-I got the debt

Answer 10

Hey, becareful because there is a thing called common law marriage in most states. your perfect world will burn when the state deems you married! Lastly all your explaining is what a marriage is, why not put some bling with that utopia?