2007-11-25 00:40:42 · 18 answers · asked by kimberly k 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yup, we do. it ain't worth the trouble.
2007-11-25 00:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am divorced with 4 kids. I cannot say I would never, but I feel with all my kids went through (divorce and all it brings), it would be no good all the way around for them especially.
My focus is being a father and trying to maintain some sort of family atmosphere. I feel a girlfriend would hinder that greatly. I had to deal with a step-mother as a teen and it was horrible for me. Kids don't understand everything. So until my youngest is 18 or older I don't feel I should be seeking another wife. If you have children, then you should have all the love you need!!
2007-11-25 01:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by stvn967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think no one should deserve this especially finding out 2 almost 3 years later. I would try to talk to your husband alone out to dinner or someplace. And ask him a few questions like did he really name her after his ex or did he just like the name. I agree it's a cute name but I think he should have gave a little explanation behind the choosing. Not like a whole story, but why he chose it. Now that you are pregnant again I would choose the name of your son alone, not necessarily an ex of yours because that's a little too bit of revenge. Especially when your kids are older they may ask how they go their names on a school assignment or something and you dont want to say after your fathers ex girlfriend and my ex boyfriend. But I would just try to work things out with him and if it doesn't work out that well, I would file for divorce and not give him a choosing in the name of your son. Best of luck!
2016-05-25 07:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...definitely. It's not worth the emotional stress sometimes. Once you've been cheated on it takes a long time to feel the other person is totally honest with you. Things they may say to you often make you think that ya..ya..ya..I've heard that line before and look what happened. You become very cautious before getting into another relationship and often you will think that if you stay single you don't have to concern yourself with anyone but yourself. Is that being self-centered and selfish? I don't know. But you try your best not to let the same thing happen again.
2007-11-25 00:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way now due to all the drama of raising kids, dealing with work, and trying to find another man (most men just want different things than me)... I am 35 and I am sure it may possibly change at some point in time but right now I don't need the drama...
2007-11-25 01:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by De 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell, why wouldn't some men feel this way! Men can love,so they can feel disappointment .He needs his time for healing and getting over a failed marriage.And whatever love he had for you!
He was sharing his raw feelings with his daughter,hopefully she's like 16.I'm sure he did it as respectfully as possible.
There's no reason ,to her not believe a forever marriage can happen for her!
And her parents are obligated to make sure she is not soured by the thought of marriage! By how they treat each other with respect now!
Take care!
2007-11-25 02:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by need2know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually a lot of people do. When a divorce happens it does alot of emotional damage as I am sure you are aware. This alone will make people think twice before getting attached to another one again and chance it happening. Also some just don't want to go thru the task of all the dating scene again. It can be very draining.
2007-11-25 00:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure lots of people who are divorced feel that way. There is no simple answer.....there are so many factors.....I, myself, was married for 11 years and had my ex cheat on me....but I loved being married (not sure what marriage he was in)......I think he thought the grass was greener on the other side and he is the miserble one now.....
2007-11-25 01:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Spaceyangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of male and females feel this way. From your question, it sounds like this was the first marriage for both of you? If so, the Bible says you are to stay single or be reconciled. Jesus said remarriage is adultery. So, he is doing the right thing by staying single.
http://www.biblicalresearchreports.com/divorceandremarriage.php#hatedivorce
2007-11-25 02:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do feel that way. I'm 42 and have a 15 year old daugher and have no desire to ever get married again.
2007-11-25 01:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by waveman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do and some will marry again even after saying that...At this moment this is how he feels and its good that he is thinking that way now...He needs to get himself together and find the right one for him even if that takes years...In time he will heal and move on...
2007-11-25 00:49:22 · answer #11 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋