can you still love them or even trust them anymore?
I fell in love, got married for the 2nd time, then they left me. Now they're back. Not sure what to think. Not sure if I can love them anymore. Trusting is very difficult for me too.
I find leaving the marriage the ultimate betrayal and am not sure where to find the strenght to forgive and forget.
2007-11-24 19:10:06 · 12 answers · asked by Dreamer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kick them to the curb!!
They just want you back because they are not having any luck finding someone else, that is THE ONLY REASON.
They don't love you at all! If they did, why did they leave you in the first place?
You can forgive if you like (I would not, though!) but NEVER ever ever ever forget, and don't let them hurt you again.
Please, don't let them. Remove them from your life completely if you are smart.
2007-11-24 19:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by myleslr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man I was with for 2 1/2 years and engaged to with an entire wedding planned broke it off in a text message and refused to even talk to me on the phone to explain anything afterward. That hurt so incredibly bad. However, you CAN still love the person that has caused you so much pain. I still love my ex with all of my heart. On the other hand, loving someone does not mean you have to trust them; it only means you should depending on the situation. I would never be able to trust my ex with my heart again. I think in your situation you will always have the question lurking in the back of your mind....Is he going to leave me again?
2007-11-25 04:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not take back a man that walked out on me. How could you ever trust him again? When is he going to leave again? You deserve more stability than that. I would not be able to forgive and forget so he would have to stay gone. You have been hurt too much so do not take it any more. You will be better off.
2007-11-25 03:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's to hard for you to forgive or forget I feel that you'd only be making the situation worse by letting the spouse back in. I feel that when you love someone no matter how bad it is you don't walk away. I don't believe in seperation it's all or nothing. You deserve respect and happiness. Why waste time, energy or possibly years trying to get over something that is only torturing you.
2007-11-25 03:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since trust and communication are the two main factors of a healthy relationship, and you have neither with this person, you have no reason to believe that things would be different this time....I would let it go and look for something better.
2007-11-25 03:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
its hard to keep giving love and getting a broken heart. just pray and stop rushing into relationship especially if the same things keep happening.
a constant broken heart can and will harm u more than the heartbreaker. look for everyday things that will determine weather or not the relationship will last
2007-11-25 03:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by mzreese80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think time can rebuild trust and cause healing if both people work toward that.
Best to you.
2007-11-25 03:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For love to survive, both party's must love completely. If one party hurts you so badly, they don't respect you. If they don't respect you, they don't love you. One side loving is a doomed relationship.
2007-11-25 03:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they back because you called them back?, or did they just come back crawling?
In any case, if you can't trust, don't bother.
2007-11-25 03:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have always lived by this saying " Screw me once shame on you" Screw me twice shame on me" But if you truly love some one then maybe my saying should just go out the window.
2007-11-25 03:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by Christian's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋