Well, I had a premature baby and my fiance and I are currently staying in a place near the hospital that our baby is in and lately I've just felt really distant from my fiance. Shouldn't I be feeling closer to him while we go through this experience? It's just so difficult to not have someone to talk to about things and how I feel personally. Sure, I talk to him and tell him how I feel...but I know he doesn't fully understand all of the emotions I'm feeling. Plus, we've been getting at eachother's throats and I'm just feeling so sensitive to everything and when I feel like I'm going to burst into tears, I just go into the bathroom. I don't want him to think that I'm "being a baby" or that that I'm "being sensitive".
Aside from all of that...I feel EXTREMELY unattractive right now. Especially since we can't have sex for about another 5 weeks. Plus, I have no sex drive and he does. And, I just feel really bad...I just don't know how to handle all of this. I'm so overwhelmed. Advice?
2007-11-24 17:48:56 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Due to the premature delivery and the precarious condition of the child, you are under a trauma. Deep inside you, you are having a feeling that your fiance is responsible for all the misfortunes heaped upon you and also that you are carrying the burden all alone.A temporary decline in sexual urge in you is perfectly normal. I do not agree to your statement that he does not understand your pains and emotions. .You know that men are a selfish lot.You are right in not showing that you are weak. You maintain patience and every thing will set right after full recovery of your child.
2007-11-26 18:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am hoping that your baby is doing well.
It is a very stressful time in your life now...you and your fiance are not dealing with it well... where are your families? You need to know that the situation is a major trauma for both of you.
Your feelings of being unattractive are quite normal until your hormones get more balanced you will not feel like your normal self. NORMAL reaction hon.. it will go away ....
If your families are not near or are not supportive you both need to speak to someone to help you be able to talk to each other.... Most hospitals have people that will speak with you ... let you talk... be there to give you some guidance to find a professional if need be... ask! Please for your relationship and most importantly the baby's sake!
Wishing you the best..
2007-11-24 17:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by thebe_gl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even without the hormones this would be a hard situation to deal with, but since your hormones are going crazy it would make it even harder. Is there a counsilor in the hospital you could talk to? Understand that it is hard for him also and he doesnt know how to react. Try to concentrate on getting yourself and baby healthy again, and maybe find a coucilor or someone like that to talk too. Best wishes for you and baby!!
2007-11-24 18:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by crzyldy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋