I`m a happy,confident,very friendly 59 year old man. After I`ve made love to my beautiful loving wife,I turn into some kind of of Hyde character.I`m angry,grumpy,everyones an idiot sort of guy.It`s got to the point where I can`t be spontaneous any more.It takes until the next day to feel normal again. Has anyone out there suffered the same. I`ve been to two doctors,but they do not know what it can be.This has been a problem for over two years now. HELP.
2007-11-24 17:45:26 · 25 answers · asked by spookynat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sex, like many other strenuous activities, releases endorfins and adrenaline, both are mood altering hormones. See your doctor and explain the problem. He/she can help you.
2007-11-24 17:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by kuntryguyy 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It s my wife that changes after sex. Within 12 to 24 hours she becomes nasty and sarcastic, to the point where she has said she hates me. This change last for about 3 weeks, and should I even think of getting amorous I would be better of not to.
It s got to the point I need a lover, even though I still love my wife.
2016-01-17 07:03:32 · answer #2 · answered by Wise O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in good health? Do you exercise regularly? Are you enjoying the sex or not?
The only thing I can think of is that maybe the "workout" leaves your blood sugars low.
Maybe you should only do it at night so that you can sleep it off for a long time. Your reaction is weird to me. My husband just gets sleepy for at least an hour, and then is calmer than before.
Many couples feel especially close after sex. Is there a chance that you are a little guarded and don't want to let your wife get that close to you?
2007-11-24 17:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by teresa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you react like that. I wonder if that why men
turn over and go to sleep once they've had their wicked way?You described your wife as beautiful so I don't think its got anything to do with your wife.
I think you need to relax. Perhaps abstain from having sex
and just cuddle up. See how you are after a few days then
when you try again see what yr moods like then. You might
be grateful for the sex and it'll put you in a good mood! sigh....I know what I mean..... Minxy.
2007-11-25 00:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might want to consult either a therapist or a sex therapist. Is your wife pleasing you? I know that at your age alot of times the attitude is that you please her and by that you receive pleasure. But maybe deep down you have needs and do not express them and she may not know or feel she should do anything differently. Look into your sexual experience with your wife. See if anything needs to change. Talk to her. Something is going on and it could be simple. See if she'd be willing to try some new fun ways to please you both sexually. I wouldn't worry, you both sound wonderful. But I would not give up. Good luck.
2007-11-24 22:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help is here... First some questions... Why do you feel your wife who you describe as being this beautiful loving person is only worth having sex with? Because according to you that is the only time your good to her. And if you are unhappy in your current relationship why do you punish her and yourself by staying? Only self help today. No easy answers. Seek some counseling. Hope that helps. Good luck! , )
2007-11-24 17:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by spiritius4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suppose this has something to do with a change in your hormone level....perhaps you have not been able to meet your partners ends towards bodily satisfaction and ur getting aware of this...hence angry and grumpy...approach a physciatrist...ohh yeah...he should be help you out...
Most people i know feel wonderful after love making thats the idea behind having it ..perhaps in some part of your life...u must have decided to become a priest or a pastor ...and this feeling is backfiring now...approach a doc..he should be able to help....
2007-11-24 17:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by anand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... lets go here:
what are you eating?
what exercise do you get daily?
what relaxation techniques do you practice?
AND: what is your blood sugar level like before and after sex?
do you drink (socially/safely)? can you have a beer/glass of wine after sex? i am not a great proponent of imbibing alcohol, however this could help if not abused... what about a short nap after?
sex is mind and mood altering. clearly for you it is very much so. what have you tried previously?
see:
askwaltstollmd dot com
hypnotherapy-psychotherapy dot com
2007-11-24 18:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by charlton_g_w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you using medication to help in your sex life? (You don't have to answer that question... but...)
Perhaps the medication wears off over time, your body makes some kind of adjustment, and it maladjusts your mood.
That's my best shot. In any case, you could consider talking to a medical professional.
Good luck and take care.
2007-11-24 17:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww... you poor guy. You've taken the first step with realising you have a problem. Have you seen a doctor yet? I think you should have it checked out.
Best of luck!
2007-11-24 17:55:14 · answer #10 · answered by landayi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋