Should i tell him?

Question

I came home early yesterday and i caught my husband watching a hardcore porn video where 2 men were haveing sex. He was masterbateing .

Do you think i should be worried?
Do you think this is ok?
Do you think he might be gay or have a gay fettish ?
Should i tell him what i saw?

What would you think if you came home and found your love doing this, what would you do? plz help

Answer 1

I would have questioned him right there! I think that maybe he might have gay fettish, or might be bi-sexual. I think that you should talk to him bc this is always going to stay in the back of your mind unless you talk about it and figure out what is really going on!

Good luck!! Wish you the best of luck!

Answer 2

As much as you want to, I wouldn't bring it up to him. If you have seen no other homosexual tendancies, then I wouldn't worry about it. Sometimes it's just the idea of the forbidden that's a turnon.

If I found my man doing this, I would be a little concerned, of course. But fantasy is fantasy. Take it as such unless you notice him checking out other guys when you're out. If there's a good-looking couple walking down the street, does he check out the girl or the guy?

Answer 3

i'd say something immediately. if he is gay, you'd want to know about it immediately. it's possible he might be bisexual, so maybe you might want to question him on that.
and if you think about it, how mad would a guy get coming home and seeing you watching girl on girl porn? so take that veiwpoint. try not to be accusing, this will only get a lie out of him. just simply ask for an explaination then go from there.

Answer 4

you should tell him and sk him why he was doing what he was doing! Then you should get him hel because obviously it been going on for a while. and then tell him if he rather porn than you then you will divorce him because that not why you married him. So good luck! But you really need to confront him. That a huge problem and a major RED FLAG!! Good luck again.

Answer 5

I would ask.... I do not think you should be worried. Some ppl are open minded about sex. They do not mind watching same sex sex.
But, if that not want it is.. ask him what it is.
I watch porn , but I do not like girl on girl action, it does nothing for me. So if my b/f found me watching that, he would be worried.
Ask our self, how does ur hubby feel about guy/guy action?

Answer 6

WOW. I feel for you. If he has never given any indication that he is interested in gay sex or that he is bi-sexual, I would definitely ask him about what I saw. If you are going to do it, be calm about it. Don't attack him. Let him explain. Lots of Luck!!!

Answer 7

Nothing will help you if you are a woman and your husband happens to be gay. Nothing. You should ask him about his sexuality without putting spotlight and interrogating him. I'd say it would be smart to tell him what you saw without sounding judgemental.

Answer 8

yes you should be. tell him what you seen. hes probably gay. if i seen it i would tell him and leave him. thats not normal for a straight man. any other guy would be disgusted by a gay porn. also if hes gay you dont want to continue sleeping with him. what if you catch something?

Answer 9

Sounds like he's a closet case. Get some counseling quickly.

Answer 10

first of all, u have 2 ask yoself
1can u satisfy his sexual needs?
2how often u having sex(together)?
optimistically, he may experiencing something more xciting and he's no gay but bisexual.