Happily Married Couples Only - How Did You Meet? Please tell me your story.....?

Question

How did you know he/she was the one? Did you know you wanted to marry this person a long time before you asked/accepted proposal? What would you contribute to keeping your marriage "happy?" What age do you think is the appropriate time to marry? What would you say to someone you cared about regarding qualities in a mate (make sure they have do this/don't have or do this)......just anything you want to tell me. Thanks!!!! I am doing well single, but don't know very many happy married couples. I want to do it right when it's time.

Answer 1

i meet my man at the Singles Station. He proposed after 2 weeks and we got married a month and a half later. We have been happily married for over 6 years now. He had all the qualities that I looked for in a man. Been at his job for a long time. Had a working car. My daughter liked him and he liked her too, etc... It was instant chemistry and you just know without a shadow of a doubt that this person is the one.

Answer 2

We met online at catholicmatcher.com. We wrote a while, met in person and I knew he was the one fairly soon because I prayed very hard that God would show me. One time, I was crying because I told him I wasn't sure if we were right together or not and he wiped the tear from my eye. It meant so much to me because he knew I wasn't even sure if I wanted to be with him and he still cared enough to do that. He also wanted a large family like myself so that was a big plus. We are both Catholic so that solved a LOT of potential problems there. I think sharing religion is vitally important.

Any time after one is 18 if they are mature is fine to get married. A man should have a job in which he can support a wife and kids. A woman should understand her duties as a mother and wife. I think the best marriages involve a woman staying home and raising the children and providing a nice home for her family, and the man working to bring home the bacon. The man feels like a man and the woman gets to enjoy her life without the stresses of working outside the home. :)

I would say do not marry a man who is a different religion than you or who doesn't want children. Those are probably the most important ones. Marry a man you respect (very important). May God help you find the right spouse when it is time. :)

Answer 3

My husband and I first met at a bar. I met him through a few mutual friends. Everyone said we'd make the perfect couple. I had a boyfriend at the time, so we became friends for awhile. Things didn't work out with the boyfriend, and we ended up together. It was wonderful. He was so sweet and kind and loving.

It didn't really take me long to realize that I would be with him for a long time. We lived together for 2 years before he proposed. I always just knew that we would be together. Even when we were only living together, I never second guessed him not coming home to me, or me not coming home to him.

My marriage is happy because of the communication we have. It's important to talk to eachother. Let eachother know what is bothering you and also let eachother know how much you care.

I got married when I was 26. I would say that is a good age to get married. When you are 20 you're still trying to figure everything all out.

As far as do's and don'ts.

Do tell him/her you love them everyday...

Don't be mean and nasty, use swear words at eachother...

Do spend time with your mate...

Don't spend all your spare time out at bars, nightclubs without your mate...

Do be kind and considerate... it goes a long way...

Answer 4

That is a whole lot of questions!
We met on line. Yahoo personals... for real. I am fairly systematic cautious person and so I really had the things i was looking for in a person at least the must have and deal breaker list done. Maybe it is not the most romantic but it fits my personality and I think it worked out. I was ready to get married after about a year and he wasn't. We waited another 2 1/2 years. I really doubted myself because of the waiting but then the proposal came! Yeah! WE have been married 16 months now. To keep things happy I try to say "yes" or "sure I will" to as many daily things as I can. I try to make dinner nightly, plan fun activities and be available. After being single for 30+ years (we are both first marriage early 30's) it is hard to adapt to having a partner in everything. I personally feel a person should not get married generally speaking before the age of 25 because I think many people before this age haven't figured out their lives, themselves and don't know themselves well enough. I think the most important thing to know before getting married is to know yourself well. To be self-aware of what is truly important in a mate to have and not have and then to get to know someone well enough to know if it is going to work. Marriage is not easy on many levels so being "in love" is very important but the type of person you are in love with is even more important because you will have many challenges down the road and as a cohesive team life will be easier, but without team work those challenges will even be harder than they need to be. Good luck and keep reflecting, thinking and planning.

Answer 5

My husband had relocated to a new state and didn't know many people outside his work. His coworkers were not "his kind' of people so when he met a coworker closer to his personality, he knew she would have friends closer to who he wanted to meet. ME!

We knew very fast that we were meant to be together. Our values and view of the future were in complete allignment. We were able to share very personal things about ourselves and were surprised when the other person had the SAME feelings. I'm a very open person and he's not but I was sharing things with him I don't share with others because they wouldn't get it or it's just nothing I need to share.

Someone once said love is about respect, admiration and trust. Those are all great definitions of love. I have deep respect, admiration and trust for my husband and we are on the same path in this crazy life. No matter how frustrated we get with each other there is never a question of our commitment.

I was 25, he was 24 when we met. Married at 27/26. There is no "right time" but there are chances of reducing your risk of divorce.

Answer 6

I was set up! (quite literally) on a blind date by a friend. We quickly became close friends, but although he knew I was the one, it took me a year or so of running from it before I acquiesced! The butterflies weren't there but he was a kind and gentle guy (all of 19 yrs. old!) After 25 years we still enjoy each other's company, we still hug every day, and our kids feel safe and secure when they see us being affectionate and supporting one another. There are bad days, and we aren't the best at working through conflict, but we can both say we are very happy!

Answer 7

I'll just say he wasn't like the other guys I dated. I dated pro athletes, weatlhy men, musicians, etc. He was just an average guy, a little overweight but cute. He was shy and respectful. We became friends then started dating. And that's how we fell in love, by getting to know each other . Bascially, I'm saying don't be afraid to step out of your box and date different types of men.

Answer 8

We met when I was 15 and he was 19. He lived with friends of my parents, they had a 19 year old son and the two guys shared the basement.
He was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. Blond hair, bright blue eyes and lots of muscles, WOW! Perfect skin and a beautiful perfect smile. He was so out of my league. I was the awkward teen with brown curly hair, brown eyes and never thought he would notice me. I wasn't ugly, just plain and skinny. That was in Sept of '88. Soon after he started hanging out at family get togethers and the holiday parties, and then with my dad and the guys. In february of '89 I knew he liked me when he put his arms around my waist from behind and pulled me close for a hug! I thought I had died right there. He was around all the time after that and on March 17th of '89 he came to my school, at the end of the day, searched the halls and found me. We left and became a couple that afternoon. He was not the typical guy who was after "1st, 2nd and 3rd base" all the time. He was genuinly interested in me and my dreams of what I wanted in the future. In May of '89 I had turned 16 and my grandmother was ill from cancer and I had to go to another state to help my mother take care of her. He wrote me everyday, we talked on the phone several times a week and it was when I was there, so far away that he told me he loved me and he would wait for me. My grandmother died 2 months later and he kept his promise. We returned home and he was waiting. We were together until Nov of that year. My parents felt we were too serious and made us break up. I moved out of my parents at 17 and he found me where I worked. We barely connected again then, but we knew we still loved each other. Sadly he was lied to by a "friend" of his that liked me and we went our separate ways, again.
3rd times a charm, 7yrs later, I had been married and was divorced, he was single after a long relationship and he heard through the family friends I was available and he contacted me through them. I lived in Alabama, he was in Illinois. He came to see me in May of '97 for my 24th birthday and 2 weeks later I moved to Illinois to be with him. We have been happily married for 8+ yrs and have a beautiful 6yr old son.
So, even though we were teenagers, we knew we were meant for each other and we concider ourselves very lucky to have found each other again. I love being married to my 1st love, the person who's soul reached out and connected with mine. I am a lucky woman!

Answer 9

My wife and I met at a karaoke club one fateful night. I was at work when a couple of guys I work with said they were going out for a beer and asked if I would join them. needless to say after alot of humming and hawwing I chose to go meet them at the place we arranged to meet. We all sat at this when out of the blue one of the guys I was sitting with told the bartender to put soime drinks on his tab needless tosay it was for these to very pretty ladies at the bar. He made one notion though that they join us to enjoy the beverage both said fine. I started talking to one of them finding out that she too was asked to come out by a work colleague. We kept talking and eventually left together to a night club to dance. We talked and danced until closing. Drove her home and well gave her a business card and said talk to you later never considering that she would call but she did. Well that was almost 10yrs ago. I felt from the moment I met her that she was the one it was a gut feeling like I just found that missing piece of me. i proposed 6 months later in front of her family on Christmas morning. I think having things in common is important also that you have communication with each other and you can talk about anything. I also believe compromise and devotion are a must but most importnat and laugh if you want have God and prayer in your marriage. I would never fight over money, always be open with your feelings, resolve fights fast and properly, do not dwell on past issues, love the one your with, always be faithful and honest to a degree, do not marry just for money. Be understanding and supportive at all times, THIS IS THE BIGGY NEVER RUSH INTO PARENTHOOD, HAVE SEX WHEN YOU BOTH ARE IN THE MOOD NEVER HAVE IT JUST TO PLEASURE YOUR MATE OR YOURSELF. Never pressure anyone intro marriage, never control or stay in a relationship where someone controls your life. Ask a parent what they think of your mate mom's can see through a guy in minutes. I think wait until your atleast 24yrs old.

Last but not least marriage is suppose to be for a lifetime choose wisely and the rest well work it on it's own talk,talk,talk and enjoy each other.

BUT REALLY NEVER FIGHT ABOUT MONEY!

If you are materialistic get over it the worse thing in marriage is someone that buys and buys and has a habit of spending money they do not have and having huge credit card debt.

Answer 10

the first time i saw my husband was when my nephew brought him home. he sat on my couch and just stared at me he was 12 and i was 19 i thought he was a punk kid and didn't think much of him! he went away for 6 years and the next time i saw him was when he was 18 he visited my nephew and i was there we started talking and he said he fell in love with me the first time he saw me! i went on one date with him and that did it we got married had one son and have been together six years now!