Why would I feel guilty for just trying beer?

Question

Ok I'm a 20 year old male who has never had a sip of alcohol in my life. I am the only one in my family that doesn't drink. Although I'm very curious, I feel like I would lose my dignity if I have ever tried it, as I have gone so long w/o ever trying it. Idk why this is, but I have a very very strong superego/conscience and have never done anything that bad in my life. As a result, I miss out on a lot in life, including having no social life and never having a girlfriend. But anyway, why would I feel this guilty if I just tried it once? Thanks in advance.

I'm an atheist...

Answer 1

I suspect its due to a religious upbringing. Free yourself from that guilt and then free your mind.

Answer 2

from your question I see that you have social problems: "having no social life and never having a girlfriend"

This has nothing to do with " never done anything bad in my life.. have a strong superego/conscience"

many people live healthy lifes, do nothing bad, have strong conscience, and still manage to have social life and have girlfriends. These things are not related. Perhaps you should search for friendships that have your same interests. I guess you are thinking that drinking is going to get you into parties and have friends... but is that the kind of friends you really want? those that when you need them, won't answer you?

You can build a circle of friends in other environments, drinking is not the solution. If you can't, then you have social problems. Perhaps social anxiety? being too shy? I don't know... but anyway try to improve, read books, visit counselors, but DRINKING for this reason is not the solution.

Answer 3

You've fallen for the stigma. Do not be afraid of life.
Maybe you will not like alcoholic beverages, many people do not. There is nothing shameful either. Going through life sober is commendable.
You will certainly not lose any dignity. There is nothing dignified about being a prude.
There are so many great things this life has to offer. We are not all going to experience each of them. But we can try to experience as many as possible.

Feelings of guilt come from doing something you believe to be wrong. Examine those things closely, are you sure they are wrong?
Live, you only get one shot at it.
Get some assistance from a trusted friend. Select someone to help you with this. It is easy to get carried away if you rapidly escape from a sheltered life, be careful. Make sure there is someone you will listen to if they tell you to reel it in a bit. Everything, in moderation.
Be not afraid of what others think, ever. Confidence is everything.

Personally on your immediate subject, I am a casual cigar and pipe smoker and beer drinker. I do drink other alcohol, I quite enjoy good wine, whiskey, and cocktails. But mainly high quality hand crafted beers. Yet I drink only about once per week, and then only one or two. On occasion I'll "tie on a good one".

To each their own.

Put on some classy music, pour a glass of some riesling, better yet pour two and share with somebody.

Edit: If you have the nerve to publicly say you're an atheist you already have the nerve to do anything.

(thumbs down? whatever)

Answer 4

That is why there are rules made...so you wont do them and ultimately wont feel quilty...but you shouldnt feel like you don't have a social life just because you dont drink! If you have had the strength to not give into temptation then you should feel the same way at a bar and just be the designated driver for you friends or simply say.."I'll pass, I'm not drinking tonight" if you feel that you would like to drink once you are of age then you can but do it responsibly. I am 21 and had been drinking since I was 16 and now that Ii know what I want in life I don't really see the point in alcohol...most of the time people make a fool out of themselves anyways! Hope I have helped!

Answer 5

I don't understand the concept of putting abstaining from alcohol up on a pedestal, i.e. "I'd lose my dignity if I tried it" and "I've never done anything so bad in my life." It's taking a sip of a beverage, not offing someone. It's one thing to not drink, but don't be so self-righteous about a choice many other people make, even those who don't abuse alcohol.

But, like has been said, it's your life, you're responsible for it. Don't drink if you don't want to, but, also, don't blame a lack of social life or girlfriend on it. If you're surrounding yourself with people that give you a hard time for a choice you've made, find some new buddies. My main advice, though, would be to calm down the moral superiority bit - not going to win you too many pals, that.

Answer 6

I don't think you should feel sad about "missing out" on things you mentioned. Never having tasted alcohol your whole life is something to be proud of, not something to moan about. But if you must, go ahead and take a sip. I'm pretty sure it will be your last :)

I am a strict teetotaler. Once had about 5 - 10 ml of rum when I was a kid. Tasted awful :P

Having alcohol is not worth it. So don't fret :) Maybe you are a little afraid of what will happen once you drink. That fear can help. So don't worry. I know just how you feel and want you to know there are others like you too. Feel good about yourself and glad that you're not a slave to alcohol.

Answer 7

There's no reason to feel guilty for just trying beer. And there's no rule either that says you have to consume alcohol to have a good time or to get a girlfriend. Loosen up a little, dude. You have to take some chances in life otherwise you'll never know what works and what doesn't work for you.

Answer 8

i remember my first drink, at the age of 17. i had always wanted to try it because, like you, i had never done anything "wrong" in my life. my parents are completely against alcohol. but when i tried it, i never regretted it. i was with a close circle of friends that i trusted and we just have a couple wine coolers. i didn't get drunk at all, and was able to have a good time.

although what i did may have been illegal, we all know that the majority of teens at least TRY alcohol at this age. the reason why i tried it though, was NOT because of peer pressure, but because I wanted to do it. It was my decision. i was mature at the time, making straight a's, and i still am a good person.

so alcohol hasn't changed me as a person because i do it in moderation. some people can control themselves while others can't. it all depends. so if you want to try alcohol, i just advise you to be careful, watch your drink, be with people you trust and who are mature, and drink in moderation. but if you don't want to drink, who's forcing you to? you are responsible for you- just remember that :]

Answer 9

Dude- I'm Scottish, and for me there was no drinking age. It's a wonder that mum didn't put it in my bottle! I don't understand the stigmatism... I don't think that anything bad will happen if you take a swig out of curiosity. You don't have to lie about it. You don't have to go berserk either. It's no big deal. Just don't lie about it. You're almost 21. I'm sure that you can wait. There's plenty of time for all of our adult vices. Enjoy your youth while you can... Cheers!

Answer 10

It doesn't hurt to try it; however, I don't suggest picking it up as a hobby.
I drank quite a bit in my teen years and now that I'm 20 years old- I don't drink at all and haven't in almost a year. I see no purpose in it and it can be dangerous considering you can lose your inhibitions (not able to drive, make logical decisions, etc). Plus, people act like fools when they are drunk.

Answer 11

im a teenager and i have sips of beer and wine

but i dont feel guilty cuz my parents no.



ummm well maybe its cuz u were gunna pull off not having alcohol until ur 21

idk ur leting urself down
did u like drinking?/
if u didnt. then dont do it

if u did then get over it and say life is too short and drink more! ahhahaha