sticky situation.... any advice?

Question

sry its long but details are kinda important...i have 2 younger sisters. one is 11 and the other is 5. i've been involved with this girl for a while though we arent official and she is the first time ive been with another girl. my family doesnt know that im bi, basically because they are so closed minded. i dont think they would kick me out or anything, but my mom always makes the most rude remarks towards the gay community. its so sad and im worried it is having an effect on my younger sisters. just today the 11 yr old said someone was a f@g. it made me so angry, but more towards my mom. my question is should i try to talk to my sisters about me being bi, so they will be more accepting to it before my mother completely brain washes them? what would you do in this situaton?

oops, my age might have helped... im 15

Answer 1

OH MAN. This is so weird.. I just came out in February, and I had the SAME problem, other than I have one 10-year-old sister. Other than that, same situation, age, etc.

I basically sat her down and flat out told her fag is a horrible, horrible word. I explained to her what gay was and that it's not a bad thing. After the talk, she now scolds her friends when they say "That's so gay." or "You're a fag." She doesn't know I'm bi, because I don't want her to freak or go around telling other adults in the neighborhood who would do who knows what. I didn't have to come out to her to solve my problem.

But, if you want to come out to your parents.. it's up to what you feel is right/what will work for you. You can wait until you're in a steady, sure to be long term relationship with someone, and share the truth with your parents then. Or you could sit them (or one of them, if you're closer to one or the other) down in private and tell them. I did that with my mother, and I explained that I've been completely head-over-heels for a girl for three years. She paled, and left studdering, but after a week or so she was better about it. Now, I'm actually in a long term relationship with that very girl, and my mom is totally supportive and ADORES the girl.

Then there is always the option of keeping it a secret until you move out, but if you get in a relationship, I don't reccomend trying to hide it.. NEVER works.

Answer 2

You should like pull them over, and then tell them, just because people are gay, it doesn't mean that it's bad or anything.

Tell them that it's something that they couldn't control themselves and that some people are born that way. I mean I told my youngest sister about gay people when she was 5 (she watched the gay episode of "The Simpsons")years old, and she understands that people are different.

Wait a while before telling your sisters that you're bi. Once you all develop a trusting and loving relationship, your orientation won't matter, just as long as you're you.

Answer 3

You do not say how old you are. I would not talk to them about it. They might tell your parents before you want them to know. It will also put them in an awkward situation where they have to keep it from your parents. You never know how your parents are going to take it. Do not tell anyone until you tell your parents. Your sisters are a little young to deal with a secret like this.

Answer 4

You need to stay close to your siblings. Be there for them. Teach them by showing them how gay people are people too, they hurt like anybody else and statements like that to a lot of damage. I do the same thing with my Husbands cousins. Their parents spit out a lot of racist comments to them about white people and they spit it out around me but because they love me so much the catch themselves and stop quickly and I teach them it's wrong. They are somewhat conflicted because of what they learn at home but in the end you can be more powerful than you think!

Answer 5

i would try to tell your mom first and maybe your 11 year old sister, id wait on the 5 year old at least till shes about 7 or 8 she prolly wont get it

Answer 6

enable her comprehend you're grateful for her taking you in and providing you with the area faraway from you boyfriend that you needed and that without this you may were waiting to make issues better out on your head etc. Say that you presently comprehend the proper plan of action for you and your toddler and that staying inclusive of her has helped you attain this think about your existence. Then tell her you're shifting out. tell HER THIS once a chance do not wait till monday nighttime or tuesday morning becasue you aren't any further searching ahead to it or it is going to look like you're being sneaky with something to cover. also i could recommend antagonistic to affirming something unfavorable about her different youthful little ones/your siblings, imagine how protective you are able to experience about your toddler if someone stated something undesirable about him- precisely wouldnt go down nicely! She shouldn't end your relationship inclusive of her in case you position it in this kind of way that she has been a marvelous help providing you with this chnace to imagine about the way you and your toddler could stay your lives and that you nonetheless opt for her to be a part of yours and her grandsons existence. perchance say to boot that you're feeling gulity about soak up a lot area in her domicile etc. it may sound like crawling to three human beings yet actually everyone likes to be loved and perchance she is definitely apprehensive about you. solid success. i comprehend the mummy and daughter relationship will be hardand deep down she will be able to carry close youthful little ones come first. basically bear in concepts your are her newborn too regardless of being a grown up

Answer 7

I don't know your age but leave your sisters alone they are very young don't brainwash them as well as your mom they will got the information later from their surrounding keep a low profile

Answer 8

Same here, my little sister thinks gay is wrong. Point is its my parent fault though they say it isn't. all those homo remarks and jokes will get into kids minds/