Highschool is full of DRAMA. My friend S takes things out of proportion. One day we were on the phone and she was telling me all of this stuff about how J is such a ho and telling me a lot of sexual things that she has done. And on top of that, S was doing sexual things with the guys that J had a claim on. She said that she didnt care about J and that she was doing that to get back at her for all of the drama that J put us through and that she didnt like or care about her.I basically told her that she was being fake because she would be telling me all of this stuff about her but then get on Facebook threads and tell her that she needs to raise her standards. She didnt like how I was being blunt and honest basically, so she started some stuff that was really stupid but it escalated and it has been two months and S and J are the best of friends. We dont talk to each other anymore. They have got a lot of people against me and it has gone as far as this guy posting embarassing stuff online
2007-11-24 15:20:37 · 18 answers · asked by CocoMT217 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
S was saying that she didnt like J and was calling her a ho, amongst other things, behind her back to me. I told her that she was bein fake but she took it as an attack or sumthing because she got mad. I was just being honest. I dont understand why people who are honest always get unappreciated.
2007-11-24 15:34:36 · update #1
I say shrug it off, I all will blow over eventually.
Plus the less you look like it's affecting you, the less it will matter to the rest of them, they will just be wasting energy!
2007-11-24 15:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
What you said to her about raising her standards is/was exactly what a true best friends should say. Not only should she raise her standards, but actually hold herself in higher regards. Demand better and you will get it, otherwise you are allowing oneself to be stepped on and treated wrong. Take your own advise. Keep to your guns. Expect to be treated right, hold your head up and stand proud. You can't keep people from having a bad opinion about you. BUT you can keep them from being right! I know it's not easy and it may get worst before it gets better. In the end, later in life, you will come out closer to the top, while they end up towards the bottom. Behavior such as theirs always has a way of catching up and biting one in the butt. It sounds as if you've got a better head on your shoulders than them, this will benefit you so much more. Stay strong and stand your ground. Just believe in yourself. Plus, with friends like them, who needs enemies?!
2007-11-24 23:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by MURKEY_74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well those girls obviously aren't nice people and don't deserve a good friend like you which they will figure out one day. Maybe you should just try and talk to these girls, tell them "You don't have to be friends with me but I'd appreciate it if you would just stop talking bad about me" or something along those lines. Just realize that these girls can't bring you down if you're confident in yourself. And the people they are getting against you must not know you or care to take the time to and just going by what others say which are not nice people either. It's unfortunate people are like this but you can't let a great person like yourself (which I'm sure you are) get to torn up about it. Smile! =)
2007-11-24 23:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by IAmME 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's why they're 'ex' friends. Take comfort in the fact high school is ONLY 4 years, the drama ends when school is over. Your friend is doing 'stupid' by using sex to get back at someone for some slight, putting herself in danger of any STD on the guys AND at risk of getting pregnant. It's pretty moronic actually.
You can just refuse to listen or discuss anything like that, tell her you've got to go, hang up, invent some reason to just stop the rant. It's not something you have to listen to, after all. And it won't help the other person so just give yourself a break and refuse to take part in any of it.
2007-11-24 23:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by Elaine M 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
my suggestion to you is...if there are bad things posted online about you then print !! With the persons screenname who says it!! Thats the first! The second thing...I'm not sure what grade you are in ..but if you are "friends" are treating you like this..you don't need them..In just a short period of time you will be going out into that big scary world(and yes it is big and scary at times) and making a life for yourself and they will have nothing to do with your success in life or lack there of..So focus on your life..and ignore them..I know its hard..trust I know..but you have to find balance for yourself otherwise you will be very unhappy..hope this helped! Good Luck!
2007-11-24 23:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like"S" and "J" are worth worrying about.You know you were only telling the truth.Maybe "S" and "J" deserve each other. You may be able to get the guy that is saying stuff but I would just ignore him. Don't know how bad it is though so really can't tell. People that know you, will know the truth.
2007-11-24 23:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ava 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that after high school, you won't have to deal with this garbage anymore. GOOD FOR YOU for taking the high road on this, and don't be afraid to be honest. The only people who don't like honesty are people who are afraid to 'fess up to their own demons. Right now, try to ignore it, and maybe try making a new facebook account and constrate on your studies so you don't have to go to the local collage where they will probably go to. Good luck!
2007-11-24 23:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by ebec11 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can do two things. You can play into their games and let them win. Or, you can laugh and walk away from it all. You are in high school and it may be tough to realize but someday you will look back and laugh. So just laugh it off now and you will be way ahead of the game. Trust me, don't waste your breath on people that don't deserve it.
2007-11-24 23:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by justin ohio 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Living well, driving a cool car and looking hot is the best revenge.
Sorry, but it's true.
And if you keep your mouth shut and a smile on your face, nobody will know what you're thinking and they'll be like "dammmmmn, she's not saying NUTHIN" and eventually it will all blow over.
PS---watch what you post online--myspace, facebook, etc. It all sits out there....and a future employer 10 years from now could dig it up and you'd be like "sh!t, why did I just get fired???"
2007-11-24 23:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i'd say pretend you don't have internet and if anyone approaches you about it, tell them it aint true without getting defensive. People like a show, so don't give'em one. Don't worry about ex friends and just chill out till it blows over. You know who you are and what you stand for.
2007-11-24 23:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by Roni F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it and maybe it will go away or she will start picking on someone else. If it bothers you that bad get even! I know that's wrong but sometimes it's necessary. Good luck!
2007-11-24 23:27:07 · answer #11 · answered by freespirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋