I don't want to hurt their feelings or cause them to think badly of me. So, how to convince them I'm not interested in sex or romance with them without being a beetch?
2007-11-24 15:06:37 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
sometimes if I say no thanks, i'm gay, they dont take it seriously. they say i'm too pretty, and they instead think I'm bi, and how can i convince them i'm not bi?
I don't want to hurt they feelings, but also i don't want to be harassed, and if I say i'm gay, they keep at it, and it is scary sometimes.
2007-11-24 15:29:23 · update #1
I even had to quit 2 jobs before because of harrassment from guys. i shouldn't ever said, no thanks i'm gay. I should have told a lie, but lying is not right. but i should have lied anyway i guess. and it is joke to say tell the boss, or sue them or something.
2007-11-24 15:38:10 · update #2
I would think just saying something like thank you for asking but I'm just not interested. I don't really know any other way. That's what I say when a guy I don't want to go out with asks me.
2007-11-24 15:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know some gay women who simply say just that, that they are gay. It depends how open you want to be. It seems in society today it tends not to be such a big deal.
It's the easiest and most truthful. It gets you out of a lie--saying you are involved with someone else. Or your fear is leading them on---
Come clean---platonic relationships between men and women can be some of the best friends you will ever had. Then again, some men are really interested in a lot more then friendship.
There is nothing to be ashamed about being gay. Turn it around with a guy...Let's say he is gay and a woman seems interested in HIM. Don't you think that he will tell her pretty much off the bat that he is gay???
2007-11-24 15:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Seablanco1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to those that are answering basically by employing asserting that homosexuality is faulty, the XY gene is male, yet from time to time an XY guy or woman would be born with woman genetalia. women are XX, yet from time to time an XX guy or woman would be born with male genetalia. The XY / XX think of is why the guy determines the gender of the toddler. All eggs carry basically an X chromosomes, yet sperm carry the two an X or a Y. So the question is how is homosexuality desperate? If an outwardly male appearing guy or woman falls in love with a guy, yet he's genetically woman, is it nonetheless homosexualaity? sturdy question. Edit: Kudos to Renee. That became into an excellent answer.
2016-09-30 03:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking for a "one size fits all" rejection, there isn't
one. Some men are pushy, some are persistent. If they won't
accept a simple "Sorry but I'm not interested" they are clods
and they deserve no further courtesy. You sound like a nice
lady (a gentleman's dream) who wants to be nice to everyone.
My best suggestion is: "Sorry but I'm not interested. It isn't
because you aren't good enough, its because I have a
specific taste." Or some other words to convey that he isn't
unattractive. Don't be drawn in to explaining further. Cut him
off with "I'm trying to be nice, we'd both be happier if you
leave it at that."
2007-11-25 07:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Aerostar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I'm not gay... however... I've used that excuse a few times. NO ONE buys it! They still trudge on... asking for your number, if you can have "friends", etc. I must apologize... maybe it's women like me that ruin it for the genuinely gay women. Just tell them you're gay, and you're not interested in communicating with them. If they persist, just ask them to respect your space and your decision.
2007-11-24 15:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jamaican QT™ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just say "sorry i'm a lesbian" ?
Thats what I tell guys im not interested in anyway..... even though i am not. However, some idiots still think they have a chance!
Just don't flirt back with them and step away if they are getting too close for comfort.
2007-11-24 15:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I just say, "You're very nice, but I'm gay." I've never had a guy freak out or anything. They usually just say something like, "Sorry, I didn't know."
2007-11-24 15:10:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are open. Just say you're a lesbian, nothing wrong with that. Nothing is going to stop them from thinking bad if they hate homosexuals. If not, just smile and pretend you don't get it and play dumb.
2007-11-24 15:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A simple, "I'm already taken, thank you." In this way, the question of your sexual preference does not even need to be discussed.
2007-11-24 15:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by Ultraviolet Oasis 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell them that you are already in a relationship, no need to get into details. Most men wouldn't mind your situation thats why I said no need for the details.
2007-11-24 15:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by special k 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋