I'm soo worried that something may happen to him and I just can explain it..he just got called out on a fire a few minutes ago...im just so confused and so afraid for him..because if you have ever seen the movie ladder 49 or if you are a firemans wife/girlfriend you will understand!! PPleasseee helpp!!!
2007-11-24 14:51:00 · 12 answers · asked by Mrs. Westbrook 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel your pain. My fiance was a volunteer fireman before I ever met him. About a year ago, he started talking about making a career out of it, and I told him that I absolutely would not support that. I know it sounds selfish, but I just know that I would not be able to deal with the worry and lack of sleep that being with a fireman can put on a person.
It's a very respectable job, and he deserves to be hailed as a hero for every fire that he helps to put out, but I know that I would be feeling exactly the way you are now. My only advice to you is to do something that you should be doing anyway: When he gets called to a fire, hug him very tightly. Tell him that you love him and ask him to please do his job to the best of his abilities but also to be careful while he does it.
There's a certain amount of risk with a lot of jobs. My fiance drives a truck now, and I wasn't comfortable with that at first. I find that I feel better though, when I say "I love you. Be careful." and he responds with "I love you too, and of course I will". Good luck. i hope that this helps you, and I hope that you figure this out.
2007-11-24 15:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Been here before 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, I am not married to a cop or fireman - I dont think I could handle the stress of worrying all the time.
you knew before hand that he was a fireman,so youi must have known what it was like and the risks involved, but yet you chose to marry him, so now you just have all this fear.
I would talk to some of the other firemans wifes or girlfriends - make some friends with them and that way you will have someone that im sure knows exactly how you feel that you can talk to and probably get some comforting advise from
thats my best suggestion....
everytime he goes out on a call,,say a prayer,,,life is short,,too short to worry all the time,,we never k now when our time will come,,so dont worry about the unforseen what could happen,,,enjoy today while he is here
you might also talk to your doctor and ask about something for anxiety - this could also help you out.
2007-11-24 15:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by country_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You knew what his profession was before you married him if you knew you could not handle it then you should not married him. I think you are being paranoid there are fires daily and many firefighters work for over 30yrs and get there pension and may get some burns but it is just part of the career. I think if you have these feelings you made the wrong decision to marry him. Insted of looking at his hot body you should have been realistic that your future hubby is in the probably one of the most dangerous professions in the world evne more so then being a police officer.
Remember alot of those movies are hyped up for hollywood
really though it is a dangerous career you should know that common sense. Just be supportive of him and wish him well
when he goes to work.
May God Bless You and Your Family and Congratulations
2007-11-24 14:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're suffering from anxiety. Your husband will get many calls in a week, and surely he'll be Ok. He was Ok before you and he met. You love him so much that you're afraid of losing him... relax, lady, he'll be Ok, I know his job is dangerous but he has all the skills to handle it, relax, try not to think so negatively, think that he is a very skilled fireman, and hope for the best. Enjoy your new life, don't let negative thoughts intrude into your life. There are many risks out there, police officers, soldiers for example have to deal with danger, but many of them work during many years and retire. Support your husband, be optimistic, think that he's doing a job that he loves: it's not good to be thinking about disgraces, think of the wonderful events that life has in store for both of you in the future. Pray if you're a believer, that will help you to tame your fears.
By the way, I love firemen, they're cuties.
Good luck, and cheer up !
2007-11-24 15:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Idon'tlivehere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Novaliegh, look its really pretty simple...I dont wanna repeat what anyone has said on here but you knew what you were getting into when you married him...Honestly, if I can give ya some heartfelt advice QUIT watching the fire movies...They are made to look dangerous and they are made to induce that dramatic affect...Firemen and Policemen take thousands of calls a day across the country and very very very few of them ever get seriously hurt or killed at thier jobs..Thats what we train over and over again for...
We are professionals and if we didnt love our jobs and didnt know we could do our jobs competently and effeciently then we wouldnt do it....Your husband is perfectly safe..he is well trained and please also remember that he is never alone...there is always someone there watching his back...
2007-11-24 15:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by udontneed2know 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not married to a fireman but I am married to a deployed soldier. I do understand your worry because I worry 24/7 about my husband being in a war zone. I guess if I sat and let it consume my thoughts I would go insane but I have to use my faith in God to get me through. I have to let my worries go and know that God is going to return my husband home to me safely...I don't know what your beliefs are so I can only tell you what works for me. Trusting in God.
2007-11-24 16:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Laceyfromcali 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is in the marines. Its really tough to know that they are out there putting their lives on the line like that, but just have faith that they will be okay. You cant worry ever time he goes off to put out a fire that he is going to die. You need to be supportive for him. I understand how you feel but trust me worrying will only make things worth. Just have faith that he will be alright and things will start to look up for you! Good luck =)
2007-11-24 15:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is a fireman and we talk about the dangers that he face. As he told me, all jobs have there dangers.
I am an engineer and I work in oil refineries. I see fires and danger everyday.
2007-11-24 15:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by pacemark5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask God to protect him. You knew that he had a dangerous job right? You should have thought about it if you could handle that or not. Why in the world are you watching fire movies?
2007-11-24 15:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by conny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Worrying is only going to make you sick.
You have got to let it go.
Deal with situations as they occur not before.
You will drive yourself crazy if you worry about something that hasn't happened yet.
You are the leader of your existence.
2007-11-24 15:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by patience 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋