I told him to leave but he refuses to do so. Can the police help me make him leave?
2007-11-24 14:02:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Move and leave no forwarding address...
2007-11-24 14:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 5⤋
First you need to know the laws of your State.
You can do several things.
You can tell him to leave. You can ask him to leave.
Send him a registered letter which he has to sign for. In the letter give him a date & time to leave your premises .. or you will go to law officials. In the letter, tell him this is considered as an official eviction notice to him.
If he does not leave - take the letter .. and the receipt he signed - to the police .. and ask for assistance of his removal.
You can remove him physically from your home. At some opportunity when he might not be there - you could remove all of his things .. and him .. change the locks, etc .. and advise him to stay off the property .. have a witness that you advised him to leave .. and to stay gone.
Another way ... is .. you could start charging him rent. Do it in a Contract form. When he does not pay .. then evict him.
These ways are drastic .. so be sure you want to do this to your son ... before you start the action against him.
2007-11-24 22:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Unplug the game. I really think this is outside of the relm of police duties. You are just going to have to put down your foot. If all else fails send your son out to buy a new video game and change the locks while he's out. Each state has their own law's though. Someone I know tried to get a child put out and couldn't but it may be possible where you live. Have you called the police and asked?
2007-11-24 22:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by tkseven_84 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him quietly and calmly that you will give him 30 days to either find a full time job, go to college or move out.
At the end of the 30 days, if he has not done anything, start packing his clothes. Put everything he owns out in the yard, change the locks and wave goodbye to him.
Sometimes the only thing that works is tough love. You are doing him no good at all by allowing him to do nothing at all.
You are the parent, it is your house. You set the rules. He either abides by them or he moves out. If he doesn't move out, you move him.
2007-11-25 01:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's your son. He didn't get this way overnight.
Where do you expect him to go? Calling the police will only damage your relationship. Sit down with him and have a discussion of what he is going to do with his life. This is a conversation you should have had since he was 14. You owe that to him. Discuss his options.... military, college, work. You may have to help him financially for 30 days. Be a father and solve the problem you helped create instead of throwing him to the curb like trash. You want him to act like a man so treat him like one.
2007-11-24 22:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by dadvice1 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stir up the nest.
We had to do it and I just became plain unpleasant to live around.
I took all the video games, computer games and took them where my kids could not find them. Then the Internet went, The satellite TV went By By and I told my two kids that didn't want to look for work that they had to be out of the house from 8 am till 5 pm.
It worked.
2007-11-24 22:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by kevin s 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have to evict him to force him to leave. If you lock him out or take his stuff, you will be breaking the law. Talk to your son and help him. Send him to a 6 month trade school. Teach him some work ethics.
2007-11-24 22:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by ted j 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No no no, people got it all wrong. Give him a chance for a minute here. What is he like? He just sits there all day and plays video games? Does he have an attitude with you? So many different scenerios can play out here...I apologize if I spelled that wrong. Try to talk with him, give him time to find a job, anything will work, mcdonalds is not the last result, neither is walmart...I wouldn't call the cops...I mean do you just hate the kid, that would be so traumatizing to him. Do you really want to do that? Maybe you should run that through your head one more time. Yes, be AGE and LAW, he is an adult, but obviously you let him do this, and his still just a kid. I'm 24 and I had my 17 yr old brother live with me for a year because my mom couldn't trust him anymore. And all his friends were over there all the time, playing video games and hanging out. Yeah, they got annoying, but I tolerated it because it made my little bro happy. And they all had jobs, so it was ok. But it got annoying because people started to want to stay over there while we were at work and I just didn't trust that, and after months of putting up with it, I blew up on them and kicked them out. Then after a few days, I realized that I lost family. It sucks and it hurts, so don't call the cops on him. Give him a time limit, like 6 months, to get off of his @$$ and get a job to save up and move out! Work with him...does he have a car? He can drive there, help him with gas until he gets paid. If he wastes his gas on anything other than work, let him figure out a way to get to work, don't give him anymore money. For the few first checks, cash it for him, give him his gas money and maybe a little extra for a lunch if he has one, but put the rest back, YOU KEEP IT, and he'll get into the routine, when you have enough for a deposit and the first months rent for a decent place, make him move on his own and support himself. I'm still shocked you would think to call the cops just because he plays video games all day. I could understand if he was rude to you or stole your things to sell them or had drug traffic going in and out of your home. But not video games.
2007-11-24 22:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Jeni Who? 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Sure, you can call the police and have him escorted off your property, but that might make for an awkward Christmas dinner!
Try threatening to throw out his video games if he doesn't leave. Then, when he doesn't leave, really do it! Throw them out in the middle of the night so he can't stop you.
Then he'll know you mean business!
2007-11-24 22:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by Shana B 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Eat meals when he is out, dont prepare his. Don't do his laundry. If he stays up late and sleeps in, get up early and vacuum, and other noisy tasks outside his bedroom. In general ignore him totally, as if he isn't there, and make it unpleasant for him to be there. Use parental lock on the tv to programme out all channels except weather and news without your password. Tell him he has become a tenant, and isn't paying his rent, so he is not welcome.
Friends of mine sold their house without telling the son who wouldn't move. They moved out when he went away for the weekend, and had all the locks changed, his stuff put into storage.
2007-11-24 22:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by Fred C 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's your house, right? Put the video games and the console in a box. Tell him he can open them when he has done what you want.
....moved out?
....gotten a job?
....enrolled in college?
....or whatever.
The point is, it's your house. Any thing in it is also yours and under your control. You can smash the TV with a hammer if you want to.
2007-11-24 22:11:33 · answer #11 · answered by teresa 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋