ok, i have 2 bffs. i'll call them v and o. v and i have been friends for 2 years. o and i have been friends sience the beggining of school. i like them both a lot. v sometimes says things without thinking and o is a lot like me. v just got a boyfriend, o and i think that she is leaving us for him. o keeps calling v a b**** behinde her back. and o just sent me an email saying that she hates v. they are both really good friends and i know that i can't be friends with both of them because they fight so much. so, whose side do you think that i should choose v or o??????
2007-11-24 13:59:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well this is a typical teen problem im a teen i should know . well first you need t o have a get together with both of them at a mall shopping alwayz kool things down then sit down at the food court and talk about evrything that had happeneed and tell v that her boyfriend is wreckin their relationships and that you need to work something out
hope i helped
2007-11-24 14:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer to this question all comes down to you. Because if you were to decide to be friends with one girl but neglect the other, later down the road, you may regret your decision. While v has a boyfriend she may be spending time with him more than you and o. So, there may be some more bonding time between you and o.
If you like them both and do not want to leave either, then I suggest that you try to help o understand that v is just hung up on her boyfriend right now. However when their relationship goes on the rocks, you and o will probably be one of the first people she will run to for comfort. In the meantime, you and o can have a good time and not worry about v.
If you feel like you cannot go on between the two and this problem, then you could give yourself some space...perhaps make other friends OR just let v and o know that it is not fair to put you in that situation where you are torn between the two of them.
In the end, the decision all comes down to whether or not you are willing to give up one BFF and forget the other or just try to resolve the problem together.
2007-11-24 22:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by rowdylaude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pick. Just hang out with each seperatly. Hard? Yes,I have had to do it. After a while though it gets easier. Your not helping by picking. Let them fight there fight and get over themselves. Just hang out with them seperatley and make sure not to bring up the other friend. Then u can have both friends. I'm sorry this is ha[[enign to u I remeber what it was like. Besides o is just jealous. She should make sure she has room to talk about v behind her back.
2007-11-24 22:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to choose anyone. Their beef should not be of your worries because if you were to get involved, i believe that it would backfire on you. TRUST ME. I am going through the same thing and I wish that I would have done what I am telling you because the minute I got involved and said how I felt about how my "o" talking about my "v" behind her back, o turned on me and now they are the "best of friends". It really hurts and I should have kept my feelings to myself. If anything I would distance myself from them altogether because it is unnecessary drama on you and you dont need that. You seem like a good person. Dont get caught up in their bull.
2007-11-24 22:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by CocoMT217 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o seems pretty childish. She is definately trying to win you away from your friendship with v. But v is also going to be very wrapped up with her boyfriend for ages now. I think I would ask o to watch her mouth - she is talking about your friend. You will need to be the "grown up" here - do not expect v to spend much time around you two for a while - just let that be OK, since it will reduce friction with o. But o needs to stop being so possessive of you - friendship is not an exclusive relationship, I think she is just very competitive.
2007-11-24 22:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell v that you value her friendship but her dissing o is hurtfult to you. If v doesn't take the hint, then come out and say, "o is my friend, please don't hurt me by bashing my friends." If v gets all huffy, then let her go.
At this age you are moving from the "totally me, everything I want you must provide." It is childish and selfish. V needs to mature a bit more. You don't have to help her. The more she bashes people, the less friends she will have.
2007-11-24 22:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because v has a bf, doesnt give you a reason to stop being friends with her. I don't know who is the better friend but, you can't be selfish and want her to hang out with you forever. But maybe V is the better friend because O likes to talk behind people's back.
2007-11-24 22:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by tuyet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be neutral. Try not to engage in any conversations about either of them. Anyways change the topic when the discussion turns to either of them. Don't take any sides because it will backfire on you.
2007-11-24 22:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER choose between your friends. talk to them. don't keep gossiping behind "v"s back. just explain how you feel and everything will (hopefully) work out.
2007-11-24 22:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both. tell them to put their differences aside. You guys can all be friends then putting the neggative stuff say the positive
2007-11-24 22:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by blueglitterz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋