I've been married to my husband for almost 4 years but it has been very very rocky. In the beginning he was so nice and romantic and we were good up until later that year after 2 months of being married when i was 4 m prego he got drunk and hit me bad. Then after that it's been down the road of crazy things...that was the only time that he hit me but he still drank alot and did very stupid **** which i forgave him for and he stopped drinking recently and i had started to go to church and trying to have faith and we were actually really working out. But now well he's the one who works and i dont i take care of our son at home ( i live w/ my parents and he lives w/ his mom cuz she's sick) that's how it's been for almost 4 yrs. but anyways...he's been acting strange since thanksgiving , not talking to me like always..and not caring for my feelings and now he's saying it might now work....what should i do? should i just get over him and divorce or make it work out? this time it's diff tho
2007-11-24 13:53:29 · 12 answers · asked by elizabeth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should bust your butt to work it out. Marriage is under such attack by the devil in this day and time. Don't be surprised if your husband starts to act even more crazy over the next few months. I'm sure this is because you have started to go to church. The devil doesn't like that one bit. But being a woman of faith, you have to know that it is just a test and if God brought you too together, all of heaven wants you too together. Pray for him morning, noon and night.
2007-11-24 14:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by ds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... if he is acting different as you say he is. He might possibly be seeing someone else. Ive had expeience with ex boyfriends of mine as you described about your husband. If I were you .... id sit down and have a long talk to him and ask him what is going on and tell him your honest feelings. If the both of you do still want to work out your relationship id suggest you guys to see a marriage consular. And if he doesnt wanna work it out then and you are unhappy... you will just have to move on. I know you might hurt.... but happines will come agian. Just keep your head up and be strong. If you have any friends it might help to take your mind off of him.
Oh and by the way.... if I were you... id leave that mo fo!!! No one needs to be hitting you. Trust me... if guys hit a girl once... they will do it agian. There are so many other guys out there will make you so much happier. It just takes time to find the right one. Good luck!!
2007-11-24 22:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move in with his mom and him. Until you can live in a stable home and your both raising this child then really how will you ever to mend this marriage. Have him put you first for a change yes parents are important but truly your married you should atleast be living together.
2007-11-24 22:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, as hard as it may sound... you need to leave him. He hit you once... he will hit you again. It seems like he doesn't realize how important marriage is.
Plus he's done a lot of stuff that has probably hurt you a lot.
He shouldn't be living w/ his mom. I realize she's sick and all but she should've of at least taken you to live w/ him.
When you are married... you are united as one. He should support you and you should support him.
2007-11-24 22:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
try to make it work, first. you don't want to rush the divorce and later love him and still want him. if the love is still there try to make it work. If it keeps going down hill go for a divorce.
Good Luck!
2007-11-24 22:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is time to go to a marriage counselor or get divorced, however your kid needs a stable 2 parent family.If you do divorce stay with your parents dont go shacking around or jump right into another marriage.
2007-11-24 21:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First both of you need to get counseling and second a guy never needs to hit his wife. If he won't go to counseling then I recommend it is over.
2007-11-24 22:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He hit you when you were pregnant and you stayed with him?
I can only imagine that he is the prize of the trailer park, if what you say is true.
2007-11-24 22:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by momfirst101 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
report this guy 2 the police if he ever touches u again
2007-11-24 22:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by weasel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you have a marriage living in separate houses?
2007-11-24 22:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋