boyfriend pregnent mom cancer help! long story?

Question

ok pretty long story

i'm 17 i was adopted and have 2 other sisters same age 16 17 and my "mom" doesn't like my boyfriend (jack) from age 13 and hes 17 too.

So i started to stay with him at his house living in the basement with him because he has 2 other brothers to about same age and ones adopted too
and his mom is never around and his dad left him when he was like 2 years old

so then i didn't want to have sex until i was married so i wanted to wait and he said ok we can wait then turns out things flipped around and i decided to do it for the first time
but it wasnn't his first time it was his 2nd time

then i found out i was pregnent (3month) and in that same month my boyfriend started to have pain in his stomach and he went to the doctors and the soctor checked hime(down there) and there was a lump in his left ball and turned out to be cancer

so then he had to take it out before it spreads around his body

now i'm soo confused idk what to do!! and i think my mom

and i think my mom is starting to grow suspecious becase shes saying ohh ur getting fat and keeps looking at my stomach and if she finds out everything is going to suck

so my question is should i tell my mom i'm pregnant or should i not because if she finds out she ifs going to flip out and take me away and then i wont be able to see him if i was 18 it would be a different story but i'm not and my birthday is a long way to go

should i abortion it because i don't haave a job and jack is trying soo hard to support him but he had to stop his job because off his pain and operation

so help me out here

THE PROBLEM IS !! SHE ACCUSED ME SO MUCH OF HAVING SEX!! AND MY YOUNGER SISTER HAD A CHILD AT THE AGE 15 AND SHE TOOK IT WELL BUT THE OTHER PROBLEM IS IS THAT SHE LIKES HER WAYY BETTER THEN ME AND MY BOYFRIEND!! AND SHE FLIPS OUT SAYING IF U EVER PREGNENT BLAH BLHA BLOHA!!

Answer 1

Well I am not going to give you a lecture I'm pretty sure you're giving yourself one right now. I am so sorry about what happened to your boyfriend. I know this is going to pain you but you have to put the baby up for adoption. The kid deserves a better life than you can give it. (Sorry) Yes tell your mom because she needs to know, OK sorry about your situation. But you did it so deal.

Answer 2

Since you are 17 once your baby is born in most states you will be legally emancipated. She cannot keep your b/f from seeing YOUR baby and she cannot make any legal decisions for your baby. Everything is between you and your b/f. You can get a job after the baby is born. Work in the evenings so you can still finish school.
You do not HAVE to give your baby up for adoption. If you and your b/f both work and finish school and at least go to a community college you can raise your child yourselves. Just think that since your b/f has/had testicular cancer, that this might be his only chance to have a child of his own. My husband's step-brother had this and he was unable to have kids with his wife and they went into sever debt to adopt their two kids and they are now divorced because of fights over money.

Answer 3

Please tell your mom. She has a right to know. She's legally responsible for your health and well being and there can be countless complications with pregnancy. Give her the opportunity to be involved with you and her grandchild's life. Talk over your options with her. However if you feel she will be abusive then go to a free clinic and speak to a nurse or social worker who can talk to you about your options and rights. Whether you decide to raise your baby or let someone else adopt it, right now you really need to find an adult you trust to be supportive of you and help you make some difficult decisions and come up with a plan for your future. I hope your boyfriend makes a full recovery. Best of luck to you all!

Answer 4

i think you should tell your mom but if you feel you can't because of your safety or the safety of the baby go to a safe house for teen moms or families. Please don't have an abortion you can always put the baby up for adoption, there are plenty of loving moms and dads out there. An abortion will KILL a living person who could be a doctor, the President, a teacher, a mom/dad, or even a saint. I will pray for you , your baby and your boyfriend.

Answer 5

Consider adoption! There's alot of people out there (including myself) who would die for the opportunity to become pregnant! So PEASE dont consider abortion! Give that baby a chance!! And a mom who has been trying 4-ever to have a kids, a chance to be a mom!
You need to tell your mom, & just ask her what your options are!

Answer 6

well, if you keep the baby, you're mother will find out. but if you do have an abortion, you're mother will find out because you need a parent's consent in order to have an abortion when you are a minor. tell your mother. the sooner the better. ooooooorrrrrrrrrrrrr
say mom, can you go to the hospital with me? i want to take a pregnancy test. so it seems like you are not a liar and you also seem cllueless about your own situation.
good luck! :]

Answer 7

You need to be up front and tell you mom whats going on, and tell her your going to put the baby up for adoption. There are alot of well deserving people that cant have babies that would love to adopt yours.. Please dont have a abortion.. plz.. it is mentally and physically painful.. I know, I have friends that had abortions when we were your age and to this day.. 30 years later, they truly regret it.. Make the right choice.. Choose adoption..

Answer 8

You should talk to your mom and be honest with her. She may react differently than you think. I had to tell my mom I was pregnant at 16 and I figured she would flip out. Hopefully she will realize that you need both her and Jack's support. It is his child too and he has every right to be involved. Good luck!

Answer 9

you should tell her because she will definitly know about it soon once your belly starts to get big