is it possible to get married and have a contented life with you first or second boyfriend?

Question

or will you have regrets about not experiencing life enough? even if you know you love them?

Answer 1

Love is a skill. It takes practice and YEARS of work to be any good at it. I think people who marry the 1st or 2nd person they ever fall in love with are missing out on a lot of the whole experience.

Answer 2

I see an agreement among philosophers and others that joy is in service. IMO, the most important scripture is that the spirit of truth will lead you into all truth. It answers all your questions. "Go within, or go without." That spirit talks to you by your inner thoughts, variously called your muse, the still small voice, intuition, revelation, inspiration, the helper. It is heard by listening to yourself and looking inward. Scripture says that we are made in God's image and that we have the mind of Christ, but no one seems to get that. Was it Ezekiel who said, "..the wind came and He wasn't in the wind, the fire came, but He wasn't in the fire, but in the still small voice." Einstein said that, "The only real valuable thing is intuition." You are talking somewhat about emotions. Behind every emotion is a major thought and lesser thoughts controlling the emotion. Change the thought and you change the emotion. So everything is logical or not. That's Cognitive Therapy. Also emotions have been studied for a long time and you will find the information under Emotional Intelligence very helpful. We need a higher cause. When we are full of love, we just want to, no, need to give it away, which gets us more love. Of, course there is a way of doing that that gives us those results, but it's in there somewhere. Other tricks are also scriptural, like dropping negative words, finding things we like in our lives, thankfulness, counting our blessing and dropping negative judgmental words for a whole new view of life and thereby receiving the fruit of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, a balanced meekness, balanced humility, faith and self control and a better conection to the right brain and whole brain thinking. s anything simple? Is anything totally free. You find out these things from struggle, adversity, soul searching and finally Internet Googling. LOL It seems you have begun the sruggle and are suffering the birth panges. You are blessed. So many go through life and never find out what it's all about and the joy, not to mention knowing the nature of truth. From where you're at people either slip down to unconsciouness or up to a higher consciousness. Even the journey up can be devastating at the same time, if you don't learn the rules. That's why we study philosophy and all it studies. Part of communiction is interviewing. We are so shallow in our interviewing of ourselves, that it does only harm. Only indepth interview does the trick. And knowledge.

Answer 3

My fiance is my first serious relationship, certainly not my only lover or the only guy I've ever dated, but until him I wasn't interested in romantic notions of love nor was I interested in pursuing a long term relationship. I don't think I could regret it.

If you know you love them and you've weighed the pros and cons with the future and success or failure and it is a logical choice for you to get married, go with it. If your worried about having regrets, think. What would you get out of having other relationships? Is it worth risking your current relationship? Listen to your reason.

Answer 4

I had two boyfriends before I met my husband. He'd had seven girlfriends. I think you really know when it's right... and for us, it's been very right. We have a wonderful relationship, I wouldn't change it for anything. And even if for some reason we did divorce--which we're determined never to do, but if--I can't regret a moment I've spent with him. Our time together has been the best of my life.

Answer 5

Life is whatever you make most marriages are the best if you are friends before you are a couple. So I think it is where ever your heart is if the first BF captures your feelings and makes you well melt at the knees then maybe he is the one for you. Remember when you marry it is suppose to be for life so choosing wisely is the most important aspect before you take the plunge.

God Bless and Best Wishes.

Answer 6

I knew I loved my husband when I married him at 19 but things change. He was my first lover and I have to admit, I was curious about sex. Apparently he was too because he cheated and we divorced.
Think of the person you were 10 years ago. Are you anywhere near the same person now than you were then? That's how much you'll change in the next 10 years so think about how much growing you will both be doing.

Answer 7

If you end up in a fulfilling marriage you won't have any major regrets. If you don't this will be a convenient excuse to get out of it.

There is a lot to be said for relationship experience, but there are not rules here.

Good luck.

Answer 8

I married my high school sweetheart over 11 years ago. He was my first boyfriend. I have no regrets about anything. Never boring...

Answer 9

Sure you can...there are some people who have married their first love and have remained happy with them throughout the years....It has to do with your commitment to one another....I think it is only natural to THINK about how your life would have turned out if you had waited and dated other people....but your commitment overrides the possible desire to find out...

Answer 10

Yes, I married my first true love. Is it easy? No. Do I sometimes wonder "what if?'" Of course. You need to be sure of yourself. You need to be secure in yourself. Don't try to find your identity in another person. That is one mistake I made. You need to be you. And if that person is comfortable with that and so are you then you've found the One.