but most of my mates said that if there parents were having a divorce they'd cry all the time, and they'd be reli sad. my parents are in the middle of a divorce, theres loads of arguments and my dad even smashed up our house, but i havent cried about it, and it dosent bother me much, i just think the whole situation is stupid...well i dont know what to think of it.
is there something wrong with me because i'm not upset??
am i a brat because it dosent bother me much??
2007-11-24 13:00:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your entitled to feel however you feel. Its not your marriage and hopefully you will continue to have the love and support of both parents. Perhaps you feel the divorce is best or perhaps you just dont care. You are a child and should be having a childs life. Your not strange and its okay. I'm glad your are okay with it...some kids have hard times because of it. You may later or never..and its still okay.
2007-11-24 13:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not a brat. In fact, you probably do care very much about what is happening, but there is already enough anger and childish tantrums going on in your house with your Dad. So you have come to realize that this kind of behavior only makes things worse and that adults sometimes do stupid things.
This is a rough time for you and you must find the way to deal with it that works best for you. However, you do not have to go through this alone. Speak with a school counselor, a minister, or trusted adult that can be there for you and help you sort through your feelings. And when the divorce is final, hopefully you will have peace in your house again.
2007-11-24 13:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your history but if they have been going on like this you are probably used to it. Maybe you are glad that it is finally coming to an end. If they need to split up and your life has been miserable because of it than it is normal to be alright with it. You do not have to cry to be normal. Everyone deals with things in a different way. I would not say that you are a brat. Keep yourself safe and if things get out of hand call for help. Good luck.
2007-11-24 13:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I had to make a guess here.......I'd say you are reining in your true emotions. All children hate to see thier parents argue, scream.......lose control. It is very scary and confusing for children/kids of divorcing parents.
There is nothing wrong or right about emotions. They just are.
Its OK that you are not upset....but do accept angry emotions from within you as they present themselves. Just dont hurt anyone else or project your anger onto others.
No you are not a brat becuz you dont feel it bothers you much.
But at some point do expect some fall out from the emotional damage you are experiencing.........and have no doubt......you are quite certainly cataloging it in your heart, your emotions, your brain. It will surface at some point in your life...and most definetly in your future relationships. Its too strong of a thing to just disappear. We live and learn from our "parent tapes."
If i may suggest.........start getting your feelings out in the form of writing. You may be surprised at how theraputic it is as you go thru this mess within your family. Do some journaling.....daily, weekly, hourly.....whatever suits you.
2007-11-24 13:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. Your no brat. Your smart. You are watching two little kids. One thing you might what to do is to ask if you can go some place and stay until it is over. You may tell them to keep you out of there childish behavior. Remember it is the both of them that are causing the problem. If you have to go to one of there lawyers and ask them what you should do. Tell them you do not like what is going on and you do not what to be around. Best of luck
2007-11-24 13:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not a brat.. that's how i was when my parents divorce... it didn't really bother me because i just kind of block it off in my mind and i knew it was coming... but two months after the divorce settles i find my self crying while talking to my mom on the phone while she was across the country... that's when everything starts to sink in and realizing that "wow, this is real and it's gonna stay this way"... hang on there... I can't tell you what will happen in the end of it... but just keep your self happy...
2007-11-24 13:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by lilsw33tazn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-09 10:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a well adjusted child to me. And stupid is how they are behaving. Maybe you need to remind them that you are in the house and your sick of them fighting and their attitudes. That would wake me up. Keep your chin up sweetie and keep that attitude going and you'll go far in life. Good Luck with the BRATS!!
2007-11-24 13:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by witchywoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're feeling relief. I know my divorce didn't bother my kids very much. They were glad to see the crappy marriage end and were able to see their parents smile again. There's nothing wrong with you and you don't sound like a brat.
2007-11-24 13:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no you are not a brat, you are probaly glad..that is normal. You probaly just want some peace in your life and them being divorced is the best thing for your peace
2007-11-24 17:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋