my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. we've been living together for 4 months. i want some more commitment from him, we talk of marriage all the time. we've started looking for houses also. i want an engaement ring.. am i too needy or should i just take it slow and wait on him to pop the question or should i ask for more commitment to our relationship?
2007-11-24 12:57:43 · 21 answers · asked by jenni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have already crossed the barrior of living together you have the right to know where he see's you guy's in the next few years. Really do the asking simply ask him where he see's himself in 5-10yrs it doesn't have to be exact just anything general. Like maybe he responds well possibly married to you maybe a kids or some pets andmaybe that nice Victorian home we have been looking at. If he is like Duh I don't know. Tell him that is not good enough for you that you wan't some clear picture that he may have for his future and if he even sees you in the picture.
Tell him he has some time to think it over but maybe give him a week?.
May God Bless You and Best Wishes.
2007-11-24 13:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes stop it and leave it be or he will feel presured and if you do that and get married becasue of it you will always wonder if he did it becaue you pushed or becasue he was ready. Slow down and do it right . So many girls wreck it by pushing too much. Enjoy what you have now and when it is right it will happen and be that much more special . He sould be commited with or without a ring. The ring does not have magical powers. It is a false security.
2007-11-24 21:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow, dont rush your relationship and def dont rush into getting married.. If your living together and love each other, work for the moment and then when/if he pops the question, work for the future.. dont be so pushy about rings and things, that might scare him and he'll take even longer to pop the question. Keep your relationship strong and be fully commited to him. Your living together, and thats alot of commitment on both of you to each other.. take it slow and wait.. but its still ok to look at wedding magazines and find out what kind of dress you want, what kind of wedding you want.. just do it in the privacy of yourself..
2007-11-24 21:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't push him. It's only been a year and realistically that's not really a long time to start picking out china and rings. Give him time. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we're both 32, we still haven't set a date for marriage. In fact we didn't even begin to discuss marriage until we were into our 2nd year together. You're not needy, you're just anxious.
2007-11-24 21:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Geez....just let it happen when it will happen!!! It sounds like the 2 of you are actually moving very fast! So...you only dated for 6 months before MOVING IN together, right? That's fast honey. You've been dating for a total of 1 year and you're already talking marriage and pressuring him for a ring? You're trying to move way too fast. Yes...you're needy!
2007-11-24 21:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i think engaement and a ring maybe even marriage should come before finding that house.and most of all commitment before moving in any where
2007-11-24 21:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by ladyrena12 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i personally think when u guys shift in together, most guys would be too comfortable with the arrangement to start thinking of marriage cause to them, it's act already 'marriage' without cert. juz talking abt marriage is cheap. anyone can also say the same things but o they really mean it? this is another thing. so have a good talk with him, asking how he feels but seriously i think also no need to truly rush.
2007-11-24 21:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by caudia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy a house with him without marriage. Too many legal problems if you break up. No commitment - no reason to stay.
2007-11-24 21:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Merrie S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to ask for more of a commitment...he has the choice to make a commitment or not...and you in return have the choice to stay in the relationship with or without a commitment....
2007-11-24 21:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask for more commitment. If you keep silent, he may think that you're satisfied with the status quo.
For him, maybe the status quo may be just what he wants, as he has no obligation to stay with you if a nicer girl happens along.
2007-11-24 21:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by InspectorBudget 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋