If you found out u were pregnant by a married man and it's his only child (first born) would u keep it?
He is getting a divorce. I have been seeing this man for 4 1/2 months. He is not focusing me to give the baby up. He wants the baby, but i am undecided. I’m 22 and he is 44. I was just talking to his as a fling , but I have fallen in love with him.
2007-11-24 12:15:28 · 10 answers · asked by misslady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You Love him? And yet you are considering doing what to his baby? He is leaving his wife and you love him...where is the problem here? Do you not want a baby? If not then by all means let him know right now. He may be able to raise it, he might not want to if you really don't want it. Please be honest here as a childs life is on the line.
2007-11-24 12:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many married men say " I am getting a divorce" or " I am separated". What does it matter if the baby is his only child. your decision is simple but hard.
Do I kill the child or keep the child
Do I stay with him or do I leave
What is to say he wont do the same to you?
What is to say that he isn't dreamy now and condoling later.
as he gets older and things don't work as well he may start to wonder why you would stay with him instead of getting a hot young steamy guy like he did with his wife. SNAP OUT OF IT learn from the thousands of women who have made the same mistake! YOU ARE THE OTHER WOMAN! THE HOME WRECKER.
2007-11-24 12:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by bb b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep this baby and know that you can raise it, and give it everything it needs then who cares about the man, if he chooses to help you then thats great, but if not, you shouldn't decide by what he is goin to do. If you know that you can't handle having a baby, and hes not willing to help you then give it up. Just remember that you are tied to this child forever, he can leave whenever he wants, even if you guys do get into a relationship.
2007-11-24 12:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by jellybean91404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but this is not about you or what is best for you. You have two other people involved in this fiasco. That is his wife and your new unborn baby. Yes I would keep the baby not because it was best for me but despite the fact you two made a mistake he or she deserves a chance. And how convenient that he is all of the sudden going to get a divorce. No, he's not. He's pulling you along. My advice would be get rid of him, keep the baby.
2007-11-24 12:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by beautifulnsaved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complicated situation, but it all comes down toone question;what do you want to do since its your baby and youre the one whos pregnant? Can you afford it and have the means to raise the baby in todays society? It wont be easy and he should helpyou since he helped make it. Tellhim and see what he wants to do although you have the finalsay so here. Just dont fully trust any married guy who would cheat on his wife, ask his wife if he told her
2007-11-24 12:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though I would never abort for any reason; I do suppose a woman's right to choose. Regardless of him, you do what is right for you. DO NOT for any reason base your decision on him. This is your life and children make a big impact. I would like to tell you for the better, but I don't know you.
Please remember if you keep the child, your life will be that child, as it should be. Are you willing to accept that responsibility?
2007-11-24 12:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if you want to keep the baby or not. If he is serious he is leaving his wife and is going to be there for you and the baby (even just financially to help support his child) and you want to have the child then go ahead and have it.
2007-11-24 12:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya see what having unprotected sex and being involved in an affair can cost ya? NOt to mention this man is old enough to be your father and you have just helped to end a marriage. ALL in just 4 months wow....Oh I didnt answer your question did I? I would contact his wife and ask her what you should do. Oh and expect him to make you his next wife so he can do the same sh*t to you next year. Have a happy holiday.
2007-11-24 12:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have fallen in love with him and he is leaving his wife, you should do what will make the both of you happy. If you decide you dont want he baby but he does.....have it and give it to him to raise.
2007-11-24 12:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by k-baby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to thing what is best for you .DO you thing you can raise this baby on your own if this man lives you ?
2007-11-24 12:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by lata p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋