who has a brain injury and dementia? i live with him and i am all alone,my mother is in a nursing home indefinatly and i really cannot take my dads jekyl and hyde disposition,the other night he blew up and ripped the phones reciever off of the base of the telephone,im afraid that some day hes going to do something he ll end up regretting. i have a brother whos never around when i need him.someone on yahoo told me to call the police,and if it ever came to that,i most certainly would,but then if i did do this i would have my brother up my tail. what would you do if you were in my position.
2007-11-24 11:39:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Do you have any other relatives you can talk to or even live with? You sound like you are in a scary situation.
2007-11-24 11:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Queen of Beer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are in a heartbreaking situation, Talk with a counselor at your local mental health center, and see if they could guide you in the right direction. They might also know of a 24 hour nursing facility that would provide the constant care that he needs. Good luck, and God bless.
2007-11-24 19:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by barbwire 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually, my family is in a similar position. my grandpa has alzheimers. you can't continue living with him. we talked to a woman that specializes in people who have relatives with alzheimers and giving suggestions for the situations. she said that if he were to have lived with us, both he and our family would become very unhappy. if being a "cargiver" to someone with alzheimers was what would make us happy, then that would have been our carreer choice. but it wasn't. we chose other jobs. so its best if you put him into assisted living (if its at all possible). he'll be happiest there. they take them on "fieldtrips" (if he wants to go) and he'll make lots of friends in the same situation as he's in. they'll have lots in common simply because of the age. please consider doing someting like this. both you and he would be happiest that way. either that, or get him a caregiver (this is a more expensive option)
as for the immediate moment, try to keep him calm and happy. whenever my grandpa would throw a fit (your father's 'tantrums' are normal for someone with dementia) the caregiver would just let him work through it, as long as he wasn't hurting himself, her, or being destructive. when he starts to become destructive, do your best to compromise with him. i know its very difficult to reason with anyone with any type of dementia, but just do your best to do what's best for him while making him think he's getting what he wants. good luck!
now that i've answered your question:
I applaud that you've taken on taking care of your dad. I know that you love him alot. and you always will. but taking care of him 24/7 is just going to run both of you down. however, i think it's very loving that you're attempting it. you are a wonderful son.
2007-11-24 19:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by 569™ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask someone else in your family to help you maybe an aunt or uncle or close friend or a neighbor anyone you need help you can't take on the responsibility of caring for him all by yourself
2007-11-24 19:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all,I admire you trying your best looking after your ill father.
I think you really need to report the things he does so you have reports of his actions.
Then you need to look into putting him in a home.
Taking care of people with a mental illness is a 24/7 job and you need to look into this.
All the best and God Bless!!! xo
P.S I know you LOVE him,no matter what.
2007-11-24 19:45:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound mean, but honestly, for your own safety and your dad's, you need to get out and seriously consider having him evaluated and put in a home too! Not to be mean, but there he will be card for and safe and you can visit with him often! good luck and God bless you!
2007-11-24 19:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
contact social services. they may be able to arrange some sort of help for you. you can't handle the situation alone, it's too much. talk to his dr. and explain things, maybe he can suggest what you can do. i know theres help for alzheimers victims so there must be an organization you can turn to...good luck.
2007-11-24 19:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just will kinda stay away from him in case he might do something that will hurt u or something like that but i also would feel really sorry 4 him i mean u cant blame him 4 that
oh and i am really really really really really sorry about that
2007-11-25 20:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by LULU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋