I met this girl. Shes married. Im nearly married. But neither of us are happy in our current relationships. Things have gotten pretty hot and heavy and its only a matter of time before the Apple is bitten into. Why is it so tempting? The thought of becoming single first hasnt really entered either of our minds. Do I just need complication in my life to feel complete?
2007-11-24 10:58:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because you are not satisfied in your current relationship which may sound like you are trying to justify cheating to break up with your significant other. We always want what we don't or can't have so it's natural to want what is forbidden.
2007-11-24 11:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because you want your cake and eat it too. Go ahead!!!! Bite the damn apple. But I will warn you, the grass is not always greener on the other side. And when you bite that apple, I hope a big giant worm come out and bite you on the ***. Were you not happy in your relationship before this evil thing that came into your life? Or has this evil being you call a pretty hot and heavy the only reason you are giving as a excuse to you not being happy in your current relationship? Cause if you have not thought about leaving before, what changed? Just remember, what goes around comes right back around and knock you right upside the head. What you get from this is what you deserve.
2007-11-24 19:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by tilishabingo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should spend time with a therapist so you can get to know yourself better.
Sounds like you are not sure you want to marry yet; and it would be best for you and your fiancee to delay the marriage if you feel like this right now.
As for this other married girl, she's not free..and you know it. Temptation is precisely that- the feeling that you have to have this other woman who is someone else's wife.
Do yourself a huge favor and stay away from her...at least until you have cancelled your wedding and you have had some time to think what you want out of your life.
Trust me- All affairs start out nicely, but as time passes we feel bad -and things get messy. Find out WHY you feel like you do and WHAT you will get yourself into if you continue down this path.
I'm glad that you can aknowledge this is not a good thing for you. Good luck!
2007-11-24 19:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if both of you are unhappy than leave! why the hell would you be getting married to someone that doesnt make you happy?...and its a fact that people want what they cant have and a hot affair is hard to resist for any human. yea some people need complication in their life but i dont know you so i cant say...do you?? the bottom line dude is that your not happy so go single than decide
2007-11-24 19:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you forgot what a "Vow" is?? Or you never knew in the first place you just murmured the words a Priest of Justice of the Peace said? Why do you people think that part about "Till death do you part" is in there?? Because a Vow to someone is your solemn oath that you would rather die than break your word, your honor, your bond. Fix your own relationship and quit trying to screw someone Else's up!!
2007-11-24 19:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by jadamgrd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because it's the idea of having something that you shouldn't have. It's that temptation.
If you don't want to end up single, instead of cheating on your respective partners with each other, the 2 of you need to work on your own relationships with your current partners instead of causing MORE problems by cheating.
2007-11-24 19:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'm going to wrap this up as simple as possible....there are certain things you and this girl are missing in your relationships....so of course you see those things in each other...but just cause both or you have bad relationships doesn't mean you two are going to have a better one...plus think about it....if she is willing to cheat on her husband..if you start dating her whats to stop her from cheating on you one day...and vice versus for you as well.....you can never build a solid relationship off of lies and cheating...so breakup and move on same goes for her...or get counseling for the relationship you are currently in.
2007-11-24 19:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're just thrilled at the thought of doing the forbidden.. you know ..sneaking around. I dont think the forbidden apple would be so appealing if you were single, besides, it wouldnt even be forbidden.
I think you're just getting premarital fears.
2007-11-24 19:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by B's Knees 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When its happened to me, it was because of the newness of the person and the excitement around a relationship that is on the naughty side. You are human, and I think what you are going Thur is fairly normal
2007-11-24 19:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by Love the west 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you know there's something wrong with this picture or you wouldn't be questioning yourself. Do everyone involved a favor, especially any children and your significant others and cool your jets before you hurt people.
2007-11-24 19:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by William B music lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋