he is hateful, disrespectful, complains about everything his big answer to why he doesn't help around the house is that he has a job. he is a bully to her son just like he was to my son..she and i have had our differences but she is seeing the light about what i told her about him i never lied to her about him what should i tell her
2007-11-24 10:22:07 · 42 answers · asked by neesa o 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You've already told her about him and your marriage to your ex-husband. She is now seeing the light. The rest is up to her. She will either leave him or she'll stay. Either way all you can do is be a friend to her but I wouldn't continue to compare notes on either marriage with her any longer.
2007-11-24 10:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by imsimplyirresistible666 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing, don't say anything. It is nice that you two are actually friends. If you are a real friend you'll be sympathetic and a good listener. She knows she messed up, you don't have to tell her. If this guy is really like you say, she is going to need someone to confide in. You will be her best bet since you have first hand experience of what she is going through. Just let her know you are there for her whenever she needs a friend.
2007-11-24 10:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be used as a fool. She is telling you stuff that is really none of your business. Its over between you and him and your still hashing it out. Move on with your life and live a little!
Put him behind you and let her carry on. She made the choice and whether or not he bullies her son or does anything for that matter is no longer a concern of yours.
Your meddling.
2007-11-24 11:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, you should respect the fact that the man has a JOB, he spends 40+ hours a week putting food on the table. I also respect the woman's point of view here. I personally don't want to do the dishes, or the laundry, or pick up after kids when I get off work and I certainly don't want to waste my weekends doing that. Obviously depends on the circumstances and I personally think that you guys should find an opinion somewhere inside your circle that is unbiased.
Sounds like you guys are ganging up on him to me.
2007-11-24 10:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by Timothy T 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's true that you have been down that road before, and you could offer some advice, but to be truthful, I wouldn't go there. Your friends now, and she may be blowing off steam. What are you going to do if they get all lovey dovey again and she remembers the nasty things you said about her man?
Trust me, be there for her as a shoulder to cry on, be comforting but don't offer any thing else but friendship and when she asks you if he did this and if he did that, tell her that you would rather not get into all that it is ancient history, and that she needs to make her own choices. It is her life after all.
Good luck
Guardianofthemoon
2007-11-24 10:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by guardianofthemoon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be very careful when becoming friends with your ex husbands wife. I was good friends with my exes wife and she turned on me for no good reason. She complained about my ex too. Now she ruined my daughter's relationship with her father. She treats my daughter horribly. I would stay out of their marriage problems. Don't be caught in the middle of it. Why are you even in their marriage unless your still in love with your husband or you like getting into people's problems?
2007-11-24 10:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hya no offence if i was the mum and that was my son being bullied i will come up to the husband tell and eye him down and say "IF YOU EVER DO ANYTHING TO UPSET MY SON AGAIN WHO MEANS THE WORLD TO ME I WILL GO AND GET A DIVORCE PAPERS TODAY AND THIS MARRIAGE WILL BE OVER" u shuld tell her to say that to him because i have been bullied before and it is not nice who does he think he is to bully sum1 younger then him by probably miles and if he is bullying the son that means he has mental problems e.g his dad when he was young might of bullied him when he was younger and the husband wants to take all his anger and hate out on his son like his father did to him. i hope i have helped u x.
2007-11-24 10:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's your question?
This may be an opportunity for your ex to realize that it's not you (or her), it's him. She should confront him on the similarities and try to get him to go to counseling. If he won't go, she should go alone.
If by "bullying" you mean abusing, she should move out immediately, and work on the relationship from a distance. It's her responsibility to protect her son.
2007-11-24 10:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by Diane K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. She's not going to listen to you and if he knew you two were talking no telling how he may react. I've been down this road and it won't turn out good for you. If she is truly your friend, suggest she get support from a family member or another friend. You should ask yourself what you could gain from continuing to discuss their relationship. Are you sure you aren't trying to get one last dig into your ex?
2007-11-24 10:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by Rie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do hot interfere on her decisions.. at the end the are happy together and the bad person is you..
I believe you already talk to much about it, keep your friendship because of the kids.. but do not became part of her issues with him.... remember THANK GOD, that is not your problem any more.. let them deal with their own ****.
and you enjoy the happy life you have now, and the opportunity of been away from that man.
2007-11-24 10:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋