She will talk about it during sex but backs out when I invite a friend over.
2007-11-24 08:00:49 · 27 answers · asked by 1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't pressure her into feeling 100% comfortable about it. She's okay with it during sex because the idea might be fascinating or arousing as a fantasy. It's another ballgame altogether to make it a reality. That's a line that - once crossed - cannot be uncrossed.
If the fantasy is not shared equally by both, it should not be fulfilled at risk of harm to the relationship.
Good luck!
2007-11-24 08:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Beb B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not wrong to want it. But it's wrong of you to expect it from her. There are lots of things that turn people on that they wouldn't actually want to do.
For instance, I have a rape fantasy, but I sure as hell wouldn't want to be raped! Just because she thinks a threesome is sexy in theory, there are lots of real life issues that get in the way of actually proceeding.
Stop pressuring her. The only way to have a threesome is to let her pick the other girl. (if my man brought a girl home, I'd probably be jealous of her or intimidated by her, which is not conducive to sex) And if she doesn't take the initiative to pick another girl, then you'll just have to get over it. Think of it this way. If you let it go, it will come to you. If you try to force it, it will not work.
2007-11-24 16:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
would you allow your wife to be with an attractive man? Unless your marriage is built on a solid foundation inviting a third party will crush and ruin a marriage. are either of you jealous? if you have to think then chances are one of you will get jealous or have their feelings hurt. This is bad MO-JO for most people. Have fun with fantasy but I would not suggest going beyond. Be happy that your wife is willing to indulge your fantasy for you without getting upset or insulted.
2007-11-24 16:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by bb b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is wrong if you are trying to push her into doing something she is not really in to. Are you telling her in advance that you are inviting a friend over? Maybe you should let her make that choice and she would be in charge of who is invited over. Perhaps she doesn't like your taste in women!
2007-11-24 16:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i was discussing it with her the other day during sex. She invited one of her girl friends over for our next session...WOW! ..You better hang on to that woman. She is a good lover!
2007-11-24 16:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no nothing wrong with it at all however you need to sit down with her and discuss with whomk it will be with and what rules that you two have as a couple and make sure they are clear with the other person as well ...... make sure you both agree on the same person as well ...... should make it with no alchohol as well .... if you cant do it strait then you prolly shouldnt be doing it ....... have lots of little hints for ya if your interested in hearing them as i have many of experinces in life with this with me and my wife ..... they can be a great time and a great lpleasure for the both of you if done in the right matter ..... good luck you can email or im if you would like
2007-11-24 16:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its one thing to talk about a threesome and fantasize about it...doesn't mean that she really wants to go through with really having one....Best left as a fantasy.....Sick for you to invite someone over and never got your wife's cooperation first....
2007-11-24 16:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she wants it too, it's not wrong. But if she doesn't want it (and talking about it in a fantasy way is one thing, she sounds like she doesn't really want it), you have to get over it and forget about it.
2007-11-24 16:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by That's not my name 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's a HUGE difference between talking and fantasizing and actually doing it. Don't force her into anything, you need to talk with her, although I don't think you will be able if her mind is made up.
2007-11-24 16:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it's wrong, don't be a weirdo. It's OK for her, but not you. You want it too bad. In fact, if she goes to one, you'll never know., It's better that way. Trust me, I know about these things.
2007-11-24 16:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by Tacit Hue 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋