we had a miscarriage about 6 weeks ago. we arent married. today he left me a message saying to not call, text, email, or talk to him. i tried doing all those things. and hes serious. im dying. i lost my baby and now i lost him too. im so alone. what do i do
2007-11-24 07:47:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sounds like you're lucky you're not having a baby with him. He did you a favor by leaving you. It'll take time, but you'll get over it.
2007-11-24 08:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by That's not my name 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
surround yourslef with friends and family. you cannot control what he does and if hes an *** then forget him. my best freind was 14 when she got preg she had sex with the guy once, they decided to be b/f and g/f since they were having a baby and she was about 6-8 weeks preg when she lost the baby he never went to the dr or to her house while she was going through it. 1 week later he called her and said "well since we were only together since you were preg i guess we can break up now plus this girl i really like and have been wanting to go out with finally wants to date me. "how hurtfull is that? it is 10 years later now and she is married and has an adorable almost 2 year old. some men are true dogs and as painfull as it is that you went through that atleast you saw his true colors before you were really in deep. she made it at 14 so im sure you too can make it. god has a plan for you just watch it unfold. there is this great country song that says" god bless the broken road that lead me straight to you" in a few years you may be in a better place with a wonderfull man maybe children and undestand what this means, i know its hard when you are right in the middle of an awefull event.
2007-11-24 08:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he dissatisfied about the miscarriage? or the pregnant section? if so about the miscarriage, then perchance he changed into reallly searching ahead to havng the toddler and dropping it changed into painful for him, or he felt undesirable that #a million you receive pregnant and then #2 you lost it. or perhaps he appears like it changed into his fault that all of it occurred yet he's basically blaming it on you. If it truly is how he feels, and he's showing it truly is how he feels, then you shouldn't ought to target to pull him decrease back. i'm getting that you're dissatisfied & depressed that he would not opt for to be with you, yet atleast you aren't any further pregnant even as he's feeling like that. issues would have grew to change into out far worse (no longer affirming being pregnant is a foul element). yet you adult adult males are basically dealing with a section, and also you adult adult males needa communicate all of it out, and enable it alll outt. Being unhappy shouldn't make issues any better, and it surely shouldn't make you adult adult males chuffed. it truly is part of the previous and it is also a lesson realized and adventure that you are able to locate the right thanks to advance from.
2016-10-25 00:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot him. :K No, dont. That would be bad. He doesn't have any real rights to up and leave just because you had a miscarraige. Its natural. It was wrong for him to leave you, but now that he has, find another man. If he cant handle miscarraige, he may never handle having a wife. Think of it as seeing his weakness. YOU up and leave, show your confidence, and get a new boyfriend. It's all you can do to show him "Hah. You thought i'd break down and die. Well, let's see you get a new girlfriend." and then strut your new, awesome boyfriend.
Like the person above said, if he's such a snob about just LEAVING you in a tough time for you, he isnt right for you.
2007-11-24 07:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
my gf had 2 miscarriages in a row i stuck by her all the way and NEVER left her side. forget about him it just goes to shoe how much of a man he is. if he cant be bothered to stick around hes not worth waiting on, so when you are ready go and find yourself a nice decent caring bloke.
2007-11-24 08:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by Darren R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to him self he is dealing with loseing the baby the same as you. when i had a miscarriage last year my husband had a hard time with it but i gave him some time to him self and that was what we both needed good luck hope i have helped
2007-11-24 07:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by tina 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for you i know what it is like to get pregnant from a guy then he leaves you alone just pray for a great guy it took me 4 years to find a good one i now found that good guy and we will be getting married in Oct of next year and we are try for are fist child together i already have a 4 year old good luck
2007-11-24 08:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by tinkthis357 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just hasnt taken the misscariage well.I supose if he left you when you needed his support most like a time like this then he isnt worth you getting upset over him.
Leave him to think things over.You deserve better.
2007-11-24 08:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a good old fashioned cry, sscream if nessccary. then, you take a deep breath, shower, call a good friend and go out for a while. it will be hard for a few days but get easier as you go. remember, you are strong and will make it. and if he had to leave, better now than aftr having a child and him walk out on it too. God be with you . now, go cry, then put yourself first in life and get back on your feet.
2007-11-24 07:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
ive been where you are.
lost ny 1st baby 2.5years ago. bf at the time promised we'd try again then we fell apart. i thought there was nothing left for me then i realsied im better than him and im stronger than what he let me belive i was.
you do not need him. he is nothing. you will find someone better who deserves you. i did and i now have the most precious gift of the most beautiful baby girl who is my life and im with smeone who i love.
you'll get there, i promise.
(((hugs))) xxx
2007-11-24 08:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by sophiesmummy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋