and need things from food to prescription co-pays. Please don't be flip and say there are agencies and charities for that. For one, they need to get to the agencies, and two, agencies do not supply everything. Don't go to deep into that though, I just really want to know how would you FEEL about a friend like that?
2007-11-24 07:38:59 · 13 answers · asked by -Tequila17 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's OK, "Big Dummy", you clarified.
2007-11-24 07:56:29 · update #1
"Ginny", Yes, they are disabled, drawing their SSDI from the years they worked, but it is woefully inadedquate. They receive every stipend available. When they have the transportation and they are ABLE (this person is ill) they go to food banks.
2007-11-24 07:58:56 · update #2
If they ASKED you for stuff like that constantly, I would be suspicious.
If they didn't say anything about it but people knew about it, I would seriously be raising some money & giving it to them anonymously.
2007-11-24 07:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by Terra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate that a friend is in need ,but you asked "they are poor " with a question mark , so that makes me a bit curious , you will need to fill us in a bit more about this,
If I had a Friend in constant need I would need to know that friend very well and the type of life that he/she lives. Does this friend work at all? is there a disability ? what is the problem?
Why is she/he poor ? If non of this applies and your friend is in good health and no other problems in sight ,then there are people that like to complain and depend on friends generosity and kindness ,and those are mooches. So if you would like to let us know if any of these apply to your friend than perhaps we could come up with a better answer for you .
Okay !
I have read what you have added , if you are their friend and you can help them out from time to time with some groceries that would be nice, if you can of course! I wish that they would have better assistance from the Government, for some reason the disabled are always put on the back burner.
Is there a community service or meal on wheels that you could contact? this would save them from spending money on food . We never know what destiny as in store for any of us ! Just be a good friend to them . And remember that a friend in need is a friend indeed!
2007-11-24 15:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by bornfree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people need to be careful how they respond to friends or anyone who are always in constant need. Yes, we are our brother's keeper but when you're no longer able to meet his need(s) that same individual will turn on you-resent and get angry at you. I would rather assist the latter on one occasion and find government and nongovernmental agencies where those needs can be met.
In addition, I think sometimes we need to help people become independent solution finders than having them depend on us. Supply them with the information rather than hand them the food. As the say goes: "Teach a man how to fish and he will fish for life. Give him a fish and he will be back at door begging for more."
2007-11-24 15:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by hannib79 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I had a friend like that. Then I would try to help this friend in a permanent way and not just give handouts once in a while.
One good way to become self-sufficient is to get some education and get a reasonably paying job. And this is something I would try to help with, besides helping with the bare minimum needs.
2007-11-24 15:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it would really depend on the circumstances and things like how long i had known them, if they were in that position when i met them. If they have been in that position ever since you met them you don't know if they would help you if tables were turned, are they always asking you for money or other things? just ask yourself if you are being used or if this is a real friend who is in need
2007-11-24 15:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by pinkypie9 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though they may not have things like you and are struggling to get by doesn't mean you need to think any different about them compared to someone who is rch. just because they are poor doesn't make them any different from you. They can still be one of the best people you can ever have in your life because they are the grateful ones in the world who are not quick to judge or to be unappreciative of what they have.
2007-11-24 15:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ms_Apple_Bttmz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very careing person. If it was me i would help in any way that i could. Take them to where thay need to go. You should feel very proud of your self. You said a very inportant word. ( FRIEND) I wish you luck in what you are doing to help some one in need.
2007-11-24 15:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by patches 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not too good. If they are totally disabled they can get assistance; if they are not totally disabled they need to get out and work just like all the rest of us...and if you always give to them, you only enable them to sponge off you.
2007-11-24 15:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if they are a true friend then i would personally do everything that i can to help them out whether it be giving them money for things or whatnot to giving them food out of my own freezer ..... how ever i wouldnt do it to someone that has a drug addiction or not trying to help them selves out at all and just looking for handouts .........
2007-11-24 15:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are the one paying for the food and prescription co-pays you are dealing with a" MOOCHER" and you are their enabler and "SUCKER"
Contact the department of welfare and refer your friend to a social services agency..
Stop being the persons CASHCOW!!!!
2007-11-24 15:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋