ive been married for awhile and have just started flirting with my bestfriend(male)via email.my husband doesn't know and he can't read my email.me and my bestfriend were together long time ago but nothing came of it.he makes my day when we flirt.is this ok?
2007-11-24 07:25:20 · 30 answers · asked by feeling it 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds harmless to me. Have fun!
2007-11-24 07:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Eva D. Problems can arise from flirting. It may seem quite harmless at first, but it can lead to other things. I guess if your husband knew about it and was OK with it, well then you have his blessing. If you think it would hurt him, then either stop or don't let him find out. I would see it as a form of cheating. That doesn't mean that I don't giggle when a guy flirts with me, but to carry on a relationship of sorts with a friend via email that is something that I personally could not do with a clear conscience.
2007-11-24 07:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by checkthisout! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew.... That's quite a question you have asked.... Is flirting OK? Yes of course even when you are married.... But you are flirting with a guy you are already close to.
If you ever see each other or spend any time alone together it can be dangerous... Sitting behind your computer tapping out a cute email is one thing but saying goodnight in the parking lot of a nice restaurant after you have both had a few glasses of wine and a kiss just comes naturally...
Look I'm not saying you would let any of the above happen I'm just saying things can get way out of control before you realize whats happening.
You said he makes your day when you two flirt.... Your husband should be the only guy making your day... I'm not judging but please be careful.
2007-11-24 07:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by ezxqz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
" i might in no way dare do something to harm her, yet in some situations i'm getting this nagging temptation to basically f-issues up thoroughly, tremendously after having arguments and while i'm mad." that's no longer known for mature, properly-adjusted human beings. And what does this would desire to do with th relax of your question? "She has made some salacious comments with regard to the shirt i became into wearing, which made me a tad uncomfortable and shes asked for my telephone huge type some situations, so I save making excuses that I dont have one or dont rather use one. " did you realize that feminists have popularized the applicable answer to this conundrum? that's the word "no". Use it. do no longer use your being married as an excuse, if her attentions are undesirable, make that sparkling.
2016-10-17 23:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by lumley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, what do you think?
How would you like it, if you were to learn that your husband has been flirting with a coworker, or you walk on him flirting with another woman?
Somehow, I doubt it very much that you'd like it.
You'd feel like a proper idiot and you'd wonder if he would maybe want to go further and you'd start feel unsecure about your attributes.
So, married lady, that's I think the way your hubby would feel if he were to know and even if he doesn't, then it certainly doesn't make it better.
Right now, he trusts you.
Keep going and you sure will manage to throw that precious gift you seem to be taking for granted right through the window!!
2007-11-24 07:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. It kind of depends on how your husband would feel about it. If you can do it in the open where he knew about it, and didn't care, then I would say it's all good. But not, if you have to hide it from him, for instance, doing it via e-mail so he won't find out. Then, I would say you are thin ice, because you are being deceptive and going behind his back to do it.
2007-11-24 07:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Colonel Angus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this...Would your husband be offended or upset if he read the e-mails? I may be wrong, but i think that would lead to something if you guys kept it up....Why don't you try flirting with your husband, maybe spice up the relationship?? Just cuz you are married don't mean that you two can't make it fun with some effort...Good luck
2007-11-24 07:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Katfish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can draw a line between flirting and temptation for things to go further then it's a bit of harmless fun. It becomes more when you think about your friend in a sexual nature away from the computer, thats when it's a no no.
2007-11-24 07:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is okay as long as it is just that FLIRTING. If you are taking it too far and are expecting to get the little comments from the other peson everytime you talk, and saying that it makes your day then maybe you have taken it too far and you are going to end up hurting your husband or yourself.
2007-11-24 08:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not okay. You are opening an emotional door that you should have kept shut and your husband will suffer because of this. It's never a good thing to do things behind your husband's back. Don't let him loose the trust he has in you.
2007-11-24 08:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by honest_opinion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is NO NO NO ..It is NOT ok to flirt with another man while you are married...that is reserved for dating...
Heres how you KNOW it's NOT ok..
What you are doing currently is having an emotional affair with this person..because this is going on BEHIND your husbands back...
PICTURE this!!!!
Would you write on the computer what you write if your husband saw everything you are typing, IMing, and emailing this guy..The answer is NO..
If your husband was with you when you met this other guy behind his back would he approve of this..The answer is NO..
If your husband was sitting there with you and the other guy listening to the way your talk to this other man would he approve??? NO!!!
You are in the beginning of an affair..GET out now or get out of your marriage...It is not fair to be doing this behind your husbands back....
Good luck
2007-11-24 07:35:28 · answer #11 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋