I have friend who is really depressed, I have always been there for her in good times and bad and really care and love her. When i say love, not like a gf like family. I want to carry on with my life also while always being there for her, but she said she wont talk to me ever if i get married and there is soneone else in my life.
What should I do? I can't put my life on hold for her and at the same time i feel guilty of abandoning her when she is relly in need. Am i being selfish?
2007-11-24 07:20:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are not the one being selfish. I would try to guide her in the direction of getting help. You wouldn't be abandoning her. You would be living your life. Let her know that you can still be friends and that you will be there for her, just maybe not as much as you have in the past. Also let her know that if she truly cared about your friendship she would want you to be happy and let bher know that this other person does make you happy. There is also the possibility that know matter what you do or say will make any difference.In that case move on. Some people are just too caught up in thmeselves and what they need and/or want.
2007-11-24 07:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by BEAUTIFUL STRANGER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being selfish. You try to be there for her but you have your own life too. You shouldn't feel guilty, you have a life and she should understand that. If you want to set things straight then maybe tell her what is going on and she should understand. And she can't tell u not to get married. It's your life do what you want to.
2007-11-24 15:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to live your life. If she expects you to put your life on hold, then she's not a good friend to you.
She is not going to be there for you when you're old, and all alone.
You need to tell her, I'll always be your friend but I'm not putting my life on hold for you. That doesn't mean I won't be your friend, but I'm not going to stop living either.
No, you're not being selfish..she's being manipulative.
2007-11-24 15:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are not selfish. she is the one who is selfish towards you. you need to move on with your life. If she was a friend to you, she would be happy for you . you need a partner in your life too. she might like you nor she thought you were going to be the one for her. spmethimes you just move on with your life and leave those behind who ain't happy for you.
2007-11-24 15:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by lizrobledo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on and find someone who is healhty . Why bither with someone who doesn't want you ? ,
2007-11-24 15:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by Gentleman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋