My husbands wanrs me to sign adocument saying we are legally seperated but living under the same roof.
I think separated means one of us leaves !
Has anybody ever heard of this, it doesnt sound right to me
thanks
2007-11-24 07:15:15 · 12 answers · asked by mermaid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't you sign anything until he moves out and then have him sign that he moved out and now your seperated, but it's not legal until a Judge says so... Good Luck.. Men I tell ya, I just want to slap some of them!!
2007-11-24 07:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by boohoo1964 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are doing that right now. Why? To save money! That way he can get a nice place with nice bedrooms for the kids and it won't seem like mean old mom kicked out poor dad like he is some kind of refugee. After 19 years of marriage it takes a while to separate stuff, especially since we have no family any closer than 8 hours away. We live separate lives, see other people and will be physically separated by June. DO pick an end date!!! If I had it to do over again, I am not sure I would choose this way. It is very difficult to live with someone you don't get along with that well. But it is a good exercise in keeping the kids #1. I am learning patience and acceptance.
Have your lawyer read any papers before you sign!!! My lawyer told me we didn't need a legal separation unless he was unwilling to pay for things like tuition for private school. But each state is different.
2007-11-24 09:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by sugarmags 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mermaid I do know of a couple that continued to live under the same roof while separated as well as for a couple of years after their divorce. They saw this as the best for their daughter and were very mature about it all. The basement was converted into an in-law apartment and he stayed there while his ex and their child lived upstairs. That way they could each see and help in raising their child. Although it sounds strange a bit it is sad to see that this doesn't occur more often and people actually remain friends and friendly during this trying time in their lives.
2007-11-24 07:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not sign anything unless your own attorney has reviewed it and agrees you should sign it!!!!! If you are still living under the same roof then you don't NEED to be separated, but if you sign you could be giving up some rights to marital assets earned after the date of the agreement.
Separated could mean whatever your state law says it can mean. Check your state's family law website to see if you can get more information.
2007-11-24 07:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jen70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a weird thought, but I actually thought about doing it myself in the midst of our divorce. My reasonings were to be closer to my children and also save on rent/mortgage and also until we could sell our home. We both each have 50/50 custody which means we have to live near each other so the kids can be in the same district so i was thinking it was very logical, but I had to keep telling myself that there's a reason that we're no longer together and went ahead and stayed in my apartment which is not too far from our marital residence where he resides......ugghhh!
2007-11-24 07:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by SexyChocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to your attorney and DO NOT sign anything yet. I know that if you file to divorce, in some states that is used against you (if you live with your ex while separated).
I did this too (trying to fix the relationship...which did not work and we divorced anyway) and my lawyer almost had a heartattack when he found out that I did not leave. Thankfully there was no proof because I did not sign anything.
2007-11-24 08:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by A M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just by signing a paper ,separation is not proved nor it has any legal bindings.For mutual divorce a joint application is submitted in a family court followed by a statement orally or by way of affidavit . It has to be reconfirmed after 6 months , its called 2nd motion
2007-11-24 07:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by opmehta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really never understood the separated deal...why bother...you are still legally married...Separate means "divide"..That means one leaves...Don't sign anything..why be married if you are divided....Someone needs to get off the fence...Move on
2007-11-24 07:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive in destiny but I still think you have to fight to save your marriage. Especially if you have children.
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2014-09-26 03:21:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never quite understood when people separated ...they continued to live under the same rooF?
2007-11-24 07:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by O'Papa Smurf! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋