I have been through a abusive relationship and i have met a 27yr old man, who is wonderful so far. I am I being to close nit if i dont open my heart right away? before him i was abused by sons dad since Hs. This man just seems too good too be true! Is that wrong thinking?
2007-11-24 06:47:12 · 27 answers · asked by shonna.mccarty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be very careful.Do not open your heart completely for a while.From my personal experience,some men get you to think you can trust them and then get you hooked on them...so you are dependent and thats another form of abuse.Do not tell him to much at this stage so that he cannot take advantage of you emotionally, if he realises your vunerable in some way, some men will work on a woman patiently for months just to get sexual satisfaction.Make him wait if he wants to sleep with you, if thats how you are feeling, then you will know his true motivation.Then if he still is the one you need, be happy with him and be so for yourself, after being abused you deserve some considersation and love.
2007-11-24 06:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too was in a very abusive relationahip, and never wanted to trust, or be close at all to anyone, My guard was up, fortunatly i met a man that went throuhg the same. My x was 9 yrs younger, and my husband now is 4 1/2 yrs. younger,. when I was in the relationship before it mattered, but this one doesn't now, I don't even think about it. I think its all about how you feel. I found myself always telling everyone he was younger, because I was worried about what others though about the difference. If he makes you happy, treats you well. think aboutwhat could be. I just married my husband after being together 5yrs. He's too goo to be true, he does things for me no man whould ever do. I love him so much, I hope god gives us many yrs together. we can't have kids, but that ok, he has 1, I have 4. We'll just have more time together, mabe romantic moments.
2007-11-24 07:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by heavensent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, hes probably a great man. You did just get through an abusive relationship, so be careful, you dont want to go through that again Im sure. No your noit being to close if you dont open your heart right away, you have been hurt...it makes sense.
2007-11-24 07:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by LexiSexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and get to know this guy well. See how he handles conflict and anger - can he control himself without attacking you, verbally or otherwise? See if your feelings remain strong over time.
If you find that the previous abuse is affecting your new relationship (or other important arreas of your life), consider seeing a therapist who is experienced in treating people who have been abused,
2007-11-24 06:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by mr_fartson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look deeper. You just never know. I would say time will tell.
No one is flawless. My x was the perfect man for years I adored him. But my honesty got me in trouble. After 9 years he finally became attached to many glamorus women. He finally admitted in the end that he thought I had more experiences than he had had..So he gave in to temptation and had one affair after another..... Best of Luck. I am not saying there are no good men out there but every one has their own secrets.
2007-11-24 06:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Linda S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has no bounderies,age doesn't come into play with love matters,on the same note since you had a bad relationship first,tread soflty !take your time with this one don't rush into something unless your absolutely sure about it,sometimes too much haste can regret later in life.
2007-11-24 06:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Luvs2sew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that, thinking that is wrong in anyway. However, I think that you should be careful as to not clump those situations together. While at the same time make sure that you are taking care of you! Give it time, take it slow, get to know each other and have fun. Time will tell. :)
2007-11-24 06:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by LT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not a big age difference. Be cautious as you may have a pre-disposition for finding men who will be abusive to you and you won't know till later on.
2007-11-24 06:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by Pen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but take time with him. He may seem good at first but he can change. I am happy that u found a nice guy so far but i am sorry that u have been abused.
2007-11-24 06:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good to think positively. I hope the relationship works out. You REALLY deserve it. It is also wise to keep your brain, logic, intuition working even as your heart is soaring with hopes of a beautiful loving relationship with him.
2007-11-24 06:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by GisL4all 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋