What should I do, if I know someone who has pedophilic tendencies?

Question

I met a young man in university, and have gotten to know him pretty intimately now.

I'm worried b/c he revealed some disturbing things to me about his psyche. He told me he is attracted to children. He actually said he was attracted to me because I look like a 12 year old (I do look very young for someone my age, but I never thought..)

Anyway, it's scaring me a little. Of course, he says he doesn't think he'd ever act on it, and he plays out his illegal fantasy in a legal way by dating 19-year-olds like me who look very young. When I asked him if he could potentially feel that way towards his own children someday; he said the idea is quite disturbing, but he can't offer any guarantees; after all he's considered 8-year-olds as hot before!!

Another disturbing tid-bit: he always tells me he likes to think of himself as 12. I mean I get we all want to feel young; I think I'm young, but at the end of the day I know that I am an adult woman with responsibilities.

Thanks!! =)

I'm so confused. On one hand, i feel bad for him, because he's had a tough life, on the other hand, I keep wondering if he could be a potential danger to anyone else (esp young children) or even to me.

Answer 1

He is a danger to any child that he is near. If you were to end up having a child with this man would you feel safe leaving your child alone with him? If you can honestly answer this question, you will have the answer to your question.

Answer 2

if you really want to do something to help potential victims of this guy...
see if you can use his computer and search for pedephile photos or videos.

You cant have those...and if found, it would start a case against him.

I would think he would have to register as a sex offender if caught with underaged sstuff.

Then others would know where he lives and parents could do their best to keep their kids awa from him.

Otherwise just stay away from the freak.

Anyone who would openly admit what he said, is only a stones throw for acting upon it.
Hard life or not...its pretty sick to think of a grown man doing somethign to a young kid.

Anyone hear about that man who sexually assaulted a 10 MONTH old girl.
Mother was at work....he did his thing ..and even BIT the Kid on the chest.

The kid will more than likely end up being a vegeble for the rest of her life...reports said

Answer 3

i understand how confused you must be right be rigth now, but you have toa sk yourself whether or not this mand would ACTUALLY do something to harm children. if he hasnt before, i doubt you can take much legal action against him, but you can definetly tell someone high in your community to make sure that people close by know what kind of a person he is.
now, u say that u two hav gotten close, so im guessing that you would consider hima friend. if you feel like hes becoming a danger to you, i would say just stay away from him. but becuase you feel so close to him, you shoudl definitley try and get this man help. you can offer him therapya t some place close to you guys, and see if they can help with his fetish for kids.
other than that, i cant really think of anythign else you could do at the moment. i hope everything works out for, and please, just be really careful. <3 je suis lizzie

Answer 4

Get away from him as fast as you can, and warn anyone that you know that has kids to keep them away from him. It's a known fact that short of castration, nothing helps predators like him. It's only a matter of time before some poor kid becomes his victim.

Answer 5

Tricky. As long as these horrible thoughts stay inside his head and are not acted on, he's innocent. Suggest counseling (although this rarely works w/ pedophiles) and slowly dissolve the friendship.

Answer 6

Stay away from him...where can it go? One day if you marry, you'll have kids...and even if he isn't attracted to them, he may have the hots for the neighbor's kids.

Just bail on this one.

P.S. What happens when you don't look so young? Dumpsville.

Answer 7

he needs counseling

one thing you need to remember is its one thing to be attracted to young kids and another to act on them. he has a fantasy he knows its wrong leave it alone until he messes with a child. talk to him about counseling though.