Can heterosexuality be acquired/ comming out doubts...?

Question

My first sexual thoughts since i remember where directed at women, growing up as a catholic and finding out how sex works made me gradually interested in straight sex as i saw it as the norm. later started having male gay friends and just because i liked women decided to say that i am bisexual ( never went beyond kissing). there ware times when i longed for a close female friend but my ideal partner i thought would be male/ i have a bf since 5 years and sexualy it is no great, but i don't know whose fault it is. Started to feel that actually i really get annoyed at male rigidity/strong will and long for female closeness and softess. in my social circle i am confronted with traditional heterosexual lifestyles which i hate. (mid.-class mariage ideal etc.cr4p). Said to my bf "i am gay" (or more something in me said it), cut my hair very short.;a kind of comming out is happenig without me actually choosing to do it, as i am not sure yet, its just that i cannot accept the straight lifestyle

My question has more to do with the fact that i thing my heterosexuality was entiryli acquired in the first place...

Answer 1

tho it ain't necessarily easy to read i actually understand what u r saying
(((hugs)))

Answer 2

For most gay people (at least myself and everyone I know), until they do come out, heterosexuality is not only an acquired lifestyle but in many cases a survival coping mechanism. Most gay people grow up in a straight environment, and people just assume you are straight unless you advertise the contrary, so passing as straight is the easy way to survive growing up, until it becomes too much of a burden to live in that lie. But only you can decide for yourself what the truth is.

Answer 3

I think you have two problems. One is using labels and the other is being a catholic with the strange catholic attitude to sex.
Forget the labels you are what you are if you find you are attracted to another girl relax and enjoy it. If you also attracted to boy well enjoy that as well. The problems arise if you wish to form a permanent arrangement because the only moral rule is try not to do any harm and if you allow someone to fall in love with you and then decided you are in the wrong relationship you can hurt someone quite badly. Forget any catholic teaching you had had on sexual matters none of it will help you

Answer 4

Whether you are straight, bi, or gay, you will remain as such for the rest of your life. However, one who discovers that they are gay or lesbian early can become curious and expirement with someone of the opposite sex. And who knows, maybe you're bi with a preference towards women. Being bisexual does not mean you are equally attracted to both sexes. It's all up to you to decide.

Answer 5

Babes i think you already know the answer to this question.

You can't acquire hetrosexuality, many have tried to force themselves into an opposite 'straight', role but deep down always known they were gay.

What happens next, is you live a lie and some years down the line, come out and effectively destroy a relationship that was, realistically a sham.

That's only my opinion mind you. x

Answer 6

when it comes to the sex...it's nobodys fault that it may not be as good as you had hoped.different people have different ways they feel comfortable "performing".you two may just not be compatible.try new things.see if you can make it work.if you can't ,maybe you should look for someone new?

Answer 7

Heterosexuality can't be "acquired"

Nor can being gay

These matters do not involve choices

Answer 8

That's because you are not straight,you could try and be with a woman,just to find out if you are actually bi...