Why do Americans never call people by their names?

Question

Is it some national trait? I met a lot of them, through work, and they never call you by name, and can be divided by three groups:
1. Just plain ignore your name after you introduce yourself. The best group, so far. They call you "you" and "hey you".
2. Out of sudden address you as "Sara", and take umbrage when you do not respond. They decided to call you Sarah because there is an "a" in your name, and they have a girlfriend with this name.
3. Shout out of a sudden: "Split! Hey, split! Why do you ignore me? Don't you know that Split is a new nickname I INVENTED FOR YOU? I ONCE HAD A DOG WITH THIS NAME!" I already have a name, thank you, it's human, and I got it many years before! I do not need anyone to re-christen me!
Indeed, I NEVER met an American who would call people by name after they introduce themselves.
Ah, and my name is very easy both to remember and pronounce. There is nothing difficult or exotic about it. It's international.

and I noticed, too, that they liked and demanded to be called by name
while others were "hey you". That was a nice idea that "hey you" meant
"how are you". It made them super polite, for they went as "hey you,
bring me these papers", "hey you, help me with this list", "hey you,
where I can lunch?"

Answer 1

Because we have the shortest attention spans in the world, I'm not astonished at all. It also seems that you are of the younger set (in late teens, early 20s) and I can say that most Americans of this age are quite rude and do not follow any etiquette at all. Shake it off as cultural, insist on people calling you by your actual name, and if you do get assigned an earned nickname (by doing something stupid, grandiose, or just plain amazing) take it with pride. It means we have accepted you.

Answer 2

I think it all depends on the area of the US that they came from, how they were raised, their outlook on life and people, and just their disposition in general.

I tried to reread the rest of your complaints, but they were too confusing. I've never heard of anyone calling someone else by the name of their DOG.

If you've never met an American who calls people by their name after they introduce themselves, then meet some more. You've obviously not met very many.

Answer 3

I'm an American and call people by their names. If I'm meeting a bunch of new people all at once, I might forget a few names and say 'Hey,' but then follow with, 'Sorry, I forgot your name, what is it again?' I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with some Americans, but don't judge us all based on the few you do know.

And to m c, I'm in my early 20s and I do have etiquette and manners. Apparently you've had some bad experiences with teens and people in their 20s, but like I said to ny, don't judge us all by what you've witnessed a few do.

Answer 4

Need a Kleenex after that sob story. Maybe you should learn a little about our culture before you blab. "Hey You" is considered an acceptable salutation. It is an abbreviated version of "Hey, how are you doing?"

Answer 5

I don't know what you're talking about. I'm in the US Army, a we-go-by-last-names organization, and we still call each other by our first names!

Answer 6

what are you talking about? i live in america and have never noticed that at all. most people call people by their names. it's probably just the people you work with.
sometimes people shorten my name though after i introduce myself, and just call me jord, instead of jordan.

Answer 7

My name is Bob. Glad to meet you, Contact.

Answer 8

I'm American, what is so special about your name (contact). I guess you are ashamed of it since you don't use it Bubba.

Answer 9

Because AmeriKans are so arrogant and simple minded they can't SAY names and especially FOREIGN names...