I've met this girl. She's really nice and really down to earth. Our first and second dates were over the past week. We get along amazingly. I'm taking her and her 12 year old son to the movies this evening and then dinner. What do I do to make a good impression with the lad?
2007-11-24 04:48:02 · 14 answers · asked by Dr. E. Bunny A.K.A. Andy. 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Awwwwww!!!!!!! I am so, so, so, so, so excited and HAPPY for you, Andy!!!!! (Imagine me jumping up and down in excitement for you!!!)
Whew- OK.
As a mom to 3 kids around that age and a teacher-- the best thing is to talk TO him and not down to him. Give him credit for his own views and opinions and actually LISTEN to what he says. If you are genuinely interested in him and his activities, he will like you.
(Oh, I am soooooo thrilled for you!!!)
(((((Andy))))))
2007-11-24 13:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Offer a handshake. Don't over do it though. Buy him some candy at the movies, popcorn etc. Ask him what he would like not mom and then ask for moms approval. Like "Hey Billy what kind of candy would you like"? Then look at mom and ask her if it's ok if he has that. DONT never do any disapline not right now. If it ever turned into something then that would be a bit of a differant story. If he acts up tonight don't say a word about it just let his mom handle it. He may resent you cause your taking away some mommy time, but that will pass at some stage. Be patient with him....goodluck
*btw your a real man for accepting a woman that already has a child. Its tough but if she is someone you could see yourself falling for it's worth it. You have to have patience he will test you.
2007-11-24 04:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by CynCity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try too hard. Just be yourself. Also if he doesn't warm to you instantly, don't be disheartened. I waited 6 months before I met my partners son. It took him a while to get to know me. I wasn't upset. You've got to remember that a child's parents are their whole world and when someone new comes on the scene it's an adjustment for them. A child might also think you are going to take the parents attention away from them. Just have fun at the dinner.
2007-11-24 05:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by sydney77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have kids and they always can tell when someone is being fake. Be yourself.
Be ready and more than willing to pay a lot of attention to him.
This will be good for all 3 of you.
It will give you insight on, this might sound bad, can you really like this kid. (I know, I didn't have a better way to say that)
It will allow the kid to get to know you.
And the girl will appreciate the genuine interest in her son.
Trust me, it's important to her that you do.
Don't sweat it, my intuition tells me that you will be fine.
Allow your natural wittiness to come out and he'll love you.
Love to know how it turns out.
Got my fingers crossed for you.
2007-11-24 09:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by Peace! Lotus Flower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, but don't try to be a father substitute. It's far too early for that and you don't want to get the kid's hopes up and then dash them. Enjoy him. He's a 12 year old. Be relaxed and have fun.
2007-11-25 00:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start off by listening to bad music, then move on to 16 hour a day masturbation sessions. Then as you recover from that, throw yourself down a flight of stairs while wearing your old roller skates. That should do the trick. If not maybe a pitcher of kool aid and a box of Oreos.
2007-11-24 05:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by SpaceMonkey67 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
relax and be yourself
don't try to impress him; you'll just look phoney and silly (even 12 yr olds can spot it)
try to pay attention to him and not just her. But don;t force it.
casually engage him in conversation to see what type of things interest him. When you find areas of common interest keep them handy for future conversations and times together.
be on time for the date and if you offer to do something with him, make sure you follow through. always! and on time! kids are sensitive to broken promises and waiting endlessly.
and to follow up, next time orient the activity to one of his things ...
2007-11-24 05:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be his friend, and don't try to boss him around. Maybe plan to take him to a baseball game in the spring, or a basketball game sometime this winter.
2007-11-24 14:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Children's perception of people being fake are stronger than we think.
You don't necessarily have to know everything (or anything) about what he might be interested in (video games, etc.) but just ask him about them. He will like to talk about what interests him and that's a step on getting to know him.
2007-11-24 04:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by ƒtƒt54 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
be natural and talk to both of them. I hated being totally ignored at thta age. And even if you are joking it is very nice of you to take them both out. Thank you.
2007-11-24 04:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by ditdit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋