Ok me and my boyfriend have been going trough a really bad time lately he was blanking me all this week and being horable to me and snapping at me, first he said it was because i was hanging around with someone he did not like, then he said it was because he had been fighting with his dad (ok i understand fighting with his dad may make him feel like that BUT IT WAS ONLY WITH ME HES FINE WITH EVERYONE ELSE) he says he loves me when he texts me so hes not going to dump me or is cheating or anything (trust me he would tell me and wouldn't say i love you) but today he went off it with me on the way back from dinner for no reason and said he diddent care about me 2 times then when i walked away said something like i dont care again (this really really hurt me and i was crying for about 2 hours) i have text him tonight and told him that he really hurt me (and he knows he did because all my friends where asking him what was wrong with me) and he has not text back !
2007-11-24 04:24:40 · 11 answers · asked by anna_smith_07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
please someone what do i do?, i love him so much
but i cant live like this its killing me and making
me feel ugly and stupid and not good enugh,
he still has not text back and hes staying with his dad
tomorro night and wont be back to sunday (he does not live with me)
im just so confused ???
2007-11-24 04:24:49 · update #1
ive told him so many times all of above and how hes makeing me feel and all i get is "sorry nite love you more than anything in the world xxx" (hes got to be up early for his job) BUT HE WONT EVEN TALK TO ME
Also I See Him MON TO FRI So Its Hard To Do All The "Give Him Some Space Stuff" And If I Dont Talk To Him Then Me Might Be Like This Forever
Anything ?
2007-11-24 04:25:52 · update #2
If he is saying things like "I don't care", then he either A) has a problem that has emotionally disturbed him or B) he might not be ready or willing to give the same type of commitment to the relationship as you are.
First of all, you need to have a little confidence in yourself and not depend on another person to determine how you feel about yourself. You are setting yourself up to be emotionally (and possibly physically) abused. You are not ugly, you aren't stupid, and if you can care about someone as much as you care about him, then you are definitely good enough for him, if not too good.
Remember that this is only my opinion and you have to decide what's best for you. If I were in your situation, I would have a heart to heart talk with him. It may be heart to heart only on your part, but for your own personal peace of mind, have the conversation. Let him know that you love him and care about him, but that his behavior towards you is bordering on being abusive and, as much as you love him, you won't tolerate being treated like that. Let him know that you will be there if he has a problem that he needs to talk about and that you will be there for comfort and support if he is having a falling out with his dad. At the same time, be very firm about how he is NOT to treat you. Tell him that you are going to back off a little in the relationship and give him some time to sort out how he feels about his situation and your relationship with him. If he reciprocates his feelings and wants to talk, then let him talk. When I say that, I mean let HIM do the talking. A lot of times a person can sort out their feelings if they just have a sounding board to work it out on. If he wants to back off for a while, then give him the space and let him be. One of two things will happen and one you won't like. He'll either come to you with his problem or take comfort in your support, or he will drift away and your relationship with him will end. Either way will be the way it was meant to work out and sometimes you can't fight what may be inevitable. At least you will know that you tried to meet him halfway and that you did your part to sustain the relationship. After that, there isn't much more you can do. Sometimes the worst thing you can do is to try to force or control the outcome. You will only set yourself up for disappointment if you do.
Now for you personally. Realize that guys think differently than girls and our way of working out a problem is most times different than a girl's way. If you constantly try to get him to talk about things, you may end up pushing him further away without meaning to. You sound so caring and you are more than worthy of the affections of a decent guy. When you give your heart away, you obviously give all of it and don't keep any for yourself. That is so unselfish and more people should be like that. You are probably a little numb from what you feel is rejection and that is an expected feeling in this instance. The best thing to do right now is to find a distraction to take your mind off the problem with your boyfriend. Go out with a friend. Go see a movie. Work on something you like if you're into crafts. Heck, veg out to some music for a while. Anything to get your mind going in another direction. The more you dwell on the problem, the more you are going to mentally torture yourself and that is not healthy.
If things work out with him, then I'm happy for you. If they don't, I can tell you that there are a lot of decent guys out there looking for someone with the qualities you have and will reciprocate in kind. I hope all goes well for you because, yes, you DO deserve it!
2007-11-24 04:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by John 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey kid, this has nothing to do with you. Give your self a break here. This boyfriend has some emotional issues, from his dad or past that he needs to work thru with help from a therapist or spiritual counselor. Trust me this really happens to women in abuse situations cause their husband or fellow has a wounded past. Then they can't help but act out on you. Encourage him to get help and then step back---you do not want to get in over your head till he address his stuff with some kind of help. Learn now or join the ranks of abused women. Also check out how his dad treats his mom.
2007-11-24 04:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the pessimist, but he could be bracing you to be dumped. I've known a few guys that act like that to get their girls pissed at them, so it's easier to break up.
On the other hand, he could be in a bad mood, because of dad and taking it out on you. You say he's fine with everyone else, but he could just feel more comfortable with you than everyone else. You might be his "safe zone." A lot of guys blow up at their girls/wives in ways that they wouldn't dare do to anyone else because they know it'll be OK in the long run.
Good luck.
2007-11-24 04:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by stevenhendon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you sound like an extremely nice girl! the guy is a jerk and doesnt deserve a girl like you, one that will cry over him for two hrs. you should move on. i highly doubt that there isnt someone better out there for you that would treat you the way you deserve to be treated. i have never treated a girl like that and either should he. good lucky sweetheart, dont let him get you down. ;)
2007-11-24 04:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by handy1102002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be annoying for you, yet your mom is purely preserving you and does no longer opt for something to ensue to you. Age huge difference does no longer count she will be able to consistently anticipate a guy is to previous for you because you're her daughter. And definite your mom would have met your father an similar time you met yours and your mom probable made some blunders that she basically does no longer opt for repeated to you. basically take heed to her because contained in the proper if something does ensue to you, you'll experience undesirable for no longer listening and also you'll experience sorry about the outcome.
2016-10-25 00:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by loewus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes trying to tell u in the nicest way that its over or he dosent want 2 hurt u because he knows ur 2 good 4 him
2007-11-24 04:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by john cena #1 fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that when someone accuses you of cheating or lying, they are the ones doing it......Sounds to me like he is trying to give you reasons to leave....And it sounds as if you could do alot better, maybe you should start looking.....
2007-11-24 04:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by flowerchildofthecorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. You do not deserve to be treated like that. Show some gumption and learn to love yourself. I know it hurts, but he's toxic.
2007-11-24 04:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by la-la-lauren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I see why... just look at your question.
2007-11-24 04:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by K.S. THiS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like me and my fella..................i love him with all my heart but im thinking that i need to move on, i cant live like that anymore......................................... i cant give you any advice cause im not sure what to do myself. sorry
2007-11-24 04:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by Winnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋